IMPACT: Parenting with Perspective

"Send Ben a text" Do you sometimes feel stressed about things you can't change as a parent? In this episode, Ben Pugh and Cortni talk about how to feel better by focusing on the things you can actually do something about. They share simple tips and real stories from other parents who learned to worry less. You'll hear about parents just like you who found ways to have better re...

"Send Ben a text" In this episode, we explore how shifting your perspective can transform your parenting experience. Using a real-life example from a high school basketball game, I dive into the difference between perception and perspective—and how both affect the way we see and interpret our teen’s behavior. Learn how emotional attachments, biases, and desired outcomes shape what we see...

"Send Ben a text" In this episode, Ben discusses the critical role parents play in teaching responsibility to their teenagers through personal example. He explores the contrast between victim and hero mindsets, explains why many parents struggle with expecting more responsibility from their teens than they demonstrate themselves, and provides practical strategies for creating a culture o...

"Send Ben a text" In this episode, Ben talks with Marci Owen about how our minds get programmed and how we can change that programming. Here are the key points they discuss: Main Topics: How past experiences shape how we think about ourselves Why it's important to notice patterns in how we act and think Ways to change unhelpful beliefs about ourselves The power of being kind to ours...

"Send Ben a text" Join me for an insightful conversation with Marci, an advanced certified trauma-informed life coach who specializes in helping Christian moms cultivate self-love and confidence. In this powerful episode, we explore how early life experiences shape our behaviors and discuss practical strategies for personal growth. We'll dive into:  • Why self-love isn't selfis...

"Send Ben a text" As we get close to the end of 2024, it's time to think about our lives and ask ourselves: are we stopping ourselves from being the best we can be? In this episode, we talk about how our goals and dreams are all connected, and how the choices we make in one part of life can change other parts too. We'll talk about:  • Seeing the places in your life where you mi...

"Send Ben a text" Are you tired of complicated parenting advice that leaves you feeling overwhelmed? In this eye-opening episode, we explore how to simplify your approach to parenting teens by focusing on two essential elements: connection and empowerment. Despite being more "connected" through social media than ever before, many teens feel deeply lonely and disconnected from t...

"Send Ben a text" In this episode, we dive into the four key principles of effective parenting that can help you navigate the challenges of communicating with your teen. We explore detaching from your teen's outcomes, opening communication, being willing to roll with the punches, and letting your teen be responsible for their own consequences. Learn how to create a safe space for yo...

"Send Ben a text" In this episode, we talk about a tough problem many parents face: when a teen refuses to go to school. We look at a question from a mom in a parenting Facebook group. She shares her struggle with her 15-year-old son, who won't go to school and gets angry when she takes away his phone. As parents, it's easy to feel like we can't do anything in these situat...

"Send Ben a text" In this special Thanksgiving episode, we're joined by Ben Stefan, a former teen client who shares his powerful journey with life coaching. Over the past five years, Ben has experienced significant improvements in his emotional well-being, relationships with family, academics, and sports. He discusses specific tools and mindset shifts that have been game-changers, s...

"Send Ben a text" Do you want to know the biggest mistake parents of teens make? It might surprise you! Many parents think it's things like yelling at their teen, trying to control them, or being too friendly. But the biggest mistake is actually trying to change their teen instead of focusing on being the kind of parent they want to be. In this podcast, we talk about how to be the p...

"Send Ben a text" Life with teens is like a constantly turning wheel - sometimes you're on top, sometimes you're underneath. In this powerful episode, learn how to use these natural ups and downs to become a better parent. You'll discover:  • Why some moments with your teen feel easy while others feel impossible  • How to use the good moments to prepare for the challenging...

"Send Ben a text" Want to become a better parent? Just like athletes watch game tapes to improve, parents can look back at their parenting moments to get better too! In this eye-opening episode, we'll introduce you to a powerful tool called the 'parent debrief.' We'll explore:  • What a parent debrief is and why every parent needs one  • Two different ways to do a deb...

"Send Ben a text" Think of your parenting style like a thermostat - it's set to run at a certain temperature no matter what. In this eye-opening episode, we explore how these 'parenting presets' work and, more importantly, how to change them. We'll cover:  • What parenting presets are (using a simple thermostat example)  • How to spot your own parenting patterns  • Fo...

"Send Ben a text" Ever told someone 'I know, I know' when they try to help you? We all do it - but this simple phrase might be stopping us from becoming better parents. In this eye-opening episode, we talk about:  • What happens when we think we already know everything  • How to spot when we're stuck in the 'I know' trap  • Why being curious is better than being...

"Send Ben a text" In this eye-opening episode, we dive deep into the pervasive blame culture and its detrimental effects on personal growth and relationships. Through two compelling football stories, we explore how blame, complaining, and making excuses can lead to a disempowering victim mentality. Key points covered: The impact of blame culture on team dynamics and personal performance...

"Send Ben a text" In this eye-opening episode, Ben introduces the game-changing book "Leadership and Self-Deception" and explains why it's his top recommendation for parents struggling with their teens. Discover: Why this book is a must-read for anyone seeking to improve family relationships The concept of "being in the box" and how it affects your interactions w...

"Send Ben a text" In this empowering episode, Ben challenges the widespread belief that there's a magical, external solution to parenting struggles. Discover why you already possess the wisdom and strength to be the parent your teen needs. Learn about: The societal conditioning that leads parents to seek external solutions Why relying on "experts" can sometimes undermine y...

"Send Ben a text" In this eye-opening episode, Ben, an experienced parenting coach, challenges the common parental instinct to shield teens from failure. Discover why allowing your teen to experience setbacks is crucial for their personal growth and future success. Learn about: The societal pressures driving parents to protect teens from failure Why failure is a vital component in develo...

"Send Ben a text" Are you struggling to connect with your teenager? In this insightful episode, Ben, an experienced parenting coach, tackles the widespread issue of parent-teen disconnection and offers a transformative approach to rebuilding your relationship. Discover why the disconnect between parents and teens is so common and learn about: The societal and cultural factors contributin...

"Send Ben a text" Are you caught in the trap of blaming your teen for your parenting struggles? In this eye-opening episode, Ben, an experienced parenting coach, challenges the common myth that your teen's behavior is responsible for how you parent. Discover why this belief is not only disempowering but also prevents you from becoming the parent you aspire to be. In this episode, yo...

"Send Ben a text" Are you frustrated by parenting advice that promises to make your teen obey or trust you? In this eye-opening episode, Ben, a former foster parent and experienced coach, challenges the myth of teen control and offers a transformative perspective on parenting. Discover why trying to control your teen is counterproductive and learn about: The T-Chart of Control: A simple...

"Send Ben a text" Are you a parent struggling to set effective boundaries with your teenager? In this eye-opening podcast, Ben, a former high school principal and experienced parent coach, reveals how you can transform your approach to boundaries and consequences, leading to a more harmonious relationship with your teen. Ben introduces a powerful tool called The Consequence Quadrant, whi...

"Send Ben a text" Are you feeling like you're on the "struggle bus" with your teenager? You're not alone. In this eye-opening episode, we dive deep into the single most significant factor causing friction between parents and teens worldwide. Drawing from my experience coaching parents across five continents, I reveal why traditional parenting advice often misses the m...

"Send Ben a text" As the school year kicks off, are you and your teen feeling overwhelmed? In this episode, we're uncovering 7 little-known secrets that can transform your back-to-school experience. Drawing from years of experience as a parent, foster parent, and former high school principal, I'm sharing insights that have helped countless teens and families navigate the challe...