I Think I Like You

Hello friends — it's been a minute since we've had a new episode! I'm popping in here with some updates to the podcast, my coursework, new coaching services coming and more as I prepare for my maternity leave. Links mentioned in this episode: New course structure My Substack Work with me Privately Connect on Instagram Website Podcast Production by James Jorge

This is a question I dance with, and often, with clients. How do we sit with our desire for something, and attempt to work towards it, but not know if or when or how it's going to come to fruition? How do we do so while we watch it happening for other people around us? In this episode I'm addressing both how to sit with the unknown and tangible ways to move us closer to relationship. These are the...

A few months prior, I caught the wedding announcement for my friend and colleague, Kara Lowentheil, in the NY Times. It wasn't the flowers or her dress (even though those were, of course, stunning) that caught my attention. It was the initial texting exchange she had with her now husband in the early days of dating. In short: It was pretty clunky. I spend a lot of time working through and dealing...

What's your perception of yourself? How do you view yourself? Based on that, what do you believe is or isn't available to you? What do you think you can have? What do you think you deserve? I'm posing these questions in relation to romance and relationship in today's episode. We often don't realize how the identities we've formed keep us limited in what we can receive, well, in any area, but speci...

Today's episode marks part three in our series exploring patterns of the eldest daughter/hero child, and how that either leaves us chronically single or in really unfulfilling relationships — or some mix of the two! Today's episode gets into how the behaviors we adopt, that initially serve as forms of self preservation and receiving love, like accomplishing a lot professionally, suppressing our ow...

New Offerings! The Situation-ship Soother The Breakup / Post-Divorce Review We're back with part II of our eldest daughter/hero child series, and the impact this has on our dating and romantic lives. If you haven't yet listened to episode 118, I highly recommend going back and doing so before digging into this one. In this week's episode I'm discussing: Why the very traits of being the helpful, ac...

I love this question and even more so, this listener for asking it. In this quick mini ep, I'm expanding upon the following points below — i.e. reasons why I think this is the case: There are people (men/women alike) who say or think they’re doing the work,  but they’re just skirting issues, not really looking squarely at themselves, playing the victim – and that’s why they don’t have the relation...

Today kicks off a three part, maybe four (lots to discuss!), that goes deep into a subject I broached on Instagram a few weeks back: Eldest daughters/hero children – i.e. the good girls, the rule followers, the helpers, the peacekeepers of the family — and how playing that role impacts our dating and relationship lives. In today's episode I'm digging into the what and the why: What are the unique...

Hello, friends. Popping in with a short and sweet episode — something I plan to do more of — digging into the following question I received from a follower in an 'Ask Me Anything' poll I did on Instagram earlier this week: What if I feel deep down that I'll be single forever ? I'm answering this listener's question and touching on the following: How we conflate our hope for something with the like...

It's the thick of summer and we're digging into a Q+A episode this week. Thank you so much to those of you who submitted questions! In this episode I'm talking about: Prenups. Do we get them? Not get them? How did I know my husband was "the one?" How does one handle dating during a transitional period in their life — in between jobs, moving, etc? How do I feel about meeting my husband on a dating...

Private Coaching Spaces are Open Join the Big Dating Nap // Dating Sanity Capsule combined program One might assume from the nature of the work I do, that every effort, every intention would be dedicated to helping my clients meet their husband — but it's not. It's both not that and so much more than that. In this episode I'm discussing: A parallel vision I hold for my life in which I could see  n...

Ya'll we are digging into all things MONEY today. This is a real doozy of an episode, so settle in for a long walk, a batch of laundry or whatever else you like to do while you're listening. In this episode I'm taking you behind the scenes of the financial picture in our marriage, how we've moved through really hard money conversations and how working on my own relationship with money has been the...

On the heals of a very significant friendship ending for me in the last few years, the nature of friendship — what drives our friendships, what they look like, how our relational patterns manifest in this space (i.e. outside of romance) — has been of particular interest to me. Today I'm joined by my dear Catherine Zack , a friend made in the last few years but a really close one (something we'll g...

Private Coaching Spaces are Open Do you feel behind in life? It's a question I face and contemplate with clients (and often myself) all the time.  Today's conversation isn't one geared towards telling you to "be grateful," or "just accept" everyone is on their own timeline. I'm going to the heart of what I believe rests beneath the feeling of being behind, whether we feel it in relationships, work...

Over the last few months I've had a series of conversations with friends/colleagues (some with kids, some without), that have gone: I'm looking for a new job but I want it to be at a much smaller firm with a lot less stress/no working on the weekends, where I can really leave at 5 pm and go home to my kids I just want a job where I come in, do good work, don't deal with a ton of drama, leave, and...

Did you grow up learning to work hard, get good grades, get into the best school(s) possible, hit any academic and professional achievement that you could? I did. And I learned to love it. I learned to love, and thus value, hustle, hard work, striving, strain, stress. On the one hand, it's served me well in what I've accomplished. On the other hand — and I see this with women all the time — it's m...

Private Coaching Spots are Open "Dating apps have brought the promise of the business-like crispness of falling in love." Sherry Turkle If you know my work, you know I  live for this line. It's shown up in my podcasts and online courses for years. Why? Because it so eloquently hits on the faulty promise we've attached to these tools, and the subsequent hardships we endure (largely the way we obses...

Private Coaching Spaces are Open This week I'm sitting down with Catherine Zack, a beloved friend of the podcast. She's been on numerous times before (I've linked those episodes below), and selfishly, these episodes always imbue me, personally, with a sense of relief and freedom. But I have a feeling it will do the same for you. For her 38th birthday, Catherine gave up ambition. No she hasn't stop...

Private Coaching Spaces are Open In today's podcast I'm sharing what the first few months of my pregnancy have been like.  My husband and I are so excited, and also, the first trimester was quite difficult for me. Per usual, I'm sharing all we experienced — the bliss and hardship, the highs and lows, the unexpected, and where I am now.  Work with me Privately Connect on Instagram Website Podcast P...

Spring/Summer private coaching spots are open! Available for folks single and seeking partnership, single and seeking space/work to go inward, and folks who are couple and struggling within their relationship. This week's episode: A few weeks back, I was driving through the parking lot of my former middle/high school, when my eyes happened upon a sign for the spring fling dance. I shuddered, flash...

What happens when you just hit a hall? What does that 'wall' tend to look like for you? These are questions I'm contemplating and exploring in today's episode. Across the month of April I was gearing up to launch the Dating Sanity Capsule , a collection of potent lessons and videos designed to decrease the misery and anxiety we associate with online dating. I.was.pumped. I'd loved putting together...

Preview My Upcoming Program Work with me Privately A few weeks back a client said to me: "How did you know your husband was the one?" While I don't believe in 'the one,' (which I share more about in the episode), her question made me realize I hadn't gone too deeply into the first few months of dating my husband, namely the period of uncertainty and unknown. Were we right to move in the direction...

Work w/ Me Sneak peek my next program launch Get on my email list In today's episode, I'm digging into two patterns I witness again and again in my private coaching practice: Clients who are swiping and receiving zero matches Clients who are swiping and landing plenty of matches, but they're lost in a sea of first and second dates that never go further In today's episode I'm breaking down the pote...

Work w/ Me Sneak peek my next program launch Get on my email list This week we are revisiting the grey area of dating — that sticky, stressful space where we're dating someone and we're not sure if they like us back.  I've written and spoken about this previously before: Episode 22 Blog post: How to Survive the Grey Area of Dating This episode will resonate if you: Are in the midst of getting to k...

In today's episode, I'm digging into a recent question from a listener: Hey Clara! What are your thoughts on a long list of requirements for a partner? Oooh this is *such* a good one, and while I'm all for getting clarity on what you desire and need in a partner, I find when we start talking lists (and very specific ones), they're not that helpful. A list can give us a false sense of clarity and c...