I Think I Like You

This week's episode isn't quite an episode — it's an announcement. I Think I Like You is heading into summer break, and I'm walking you through why, what it means, and exactly where to go if you need me while I'm gone. In This Episode I share the decision I've been hemming and hawing over: pausing new episodes until September so I can focus on my clients, get my book off the ground, and be fully p...

Self-awareness is supposed to make love easier — so why doesn't it? In this episode of I Think I Like You , Clara explores the paradox so many high-achieving, independent women face: years of personal growth and self-work, but relationships still feel just out of reach. She breaks down why "cocooning" and rest matter before re-entering the dating pool, how avoidance around health, mortality, and i...

How to Meet People in Real Life (When You're Done With the Apps) You're not broken. You're just tired of the apps — and ready for something that actually feels like you . This episode is part three of a series on in-person dating. (If you haven't listened to Episode 169 — Your Permission Slip to Stop Dating — and Episode 170 — Why You Can't Meet People in Person — start there first.) In this one,...

If you've ever said "I never meet anyone," "I'm not brave enough to approach someone," or "dating apps just don't work for me" — this episode is going to reframe everything. Dating coach Clara Artschwager gets personal about the real reason meeting people in person feels impossible: it's not a strategy problem. It's an identity problem — rooted in early experiences of desire, rejection, and shame...

Dating feels harder than ever — and it's not just you. In this episode, I break down why dating burnout is so widespread right now, what AI dating features are actually doing to your ability to connect, and why the solution has nothing to do with finding the right app. If you're exhausted, disenchanted, or quietly wondering whether you even want to be dating right now, this episode is your permiss...

I didn't know Kerry's name until a few weeks ago, when I, thankfully, caught wind of her soon-to-be-released memoir, Selfish . After reading a brief description of the book, I pre-ordered it and tore through the pages in a week. Kerry is not just the writer, but the founder of the beloved clothing brand, Faherty. While I adore the brand's pieces hanging in my closet, I'd say I'm even more thrilled...

These days, I find myself with an insatiable hunger for stories (meaning, real-life human stories) of unexpected outcomes. Of having life go one way when you thought it was going to go another way, and what one does from there. Melissa Russo's story is one of my favorites. I've followed Melissa since back in our 2010 blogger days. Her biting sense of humor, sharp wit, and talent as a writer has dr...

Did you read Strangers ? The memoir that blew up....idk, everywhere...over the past few months. Here's the down-and-dirty, which is really not a spoiler alert because it's revealed in the first two pages of the book: Socialite Belle Burden's husband of 20 years, a few days into the pandemic, up and left. And never came back.  There's obviously more to it, and well worth a read of the book. But why...

Call it turning 40, call it the state of the world, call it....just life (?), but lately, all I am hungry for is deep, real, can't-put-a-bow-on-it conversations. People living with the big questions, getting deep into the muck, and  thriving there. Not always, but often. You know when you have a good friend, who is just good people, and then they bring more REALLY GOOD PEOPLE into your life? That'...

Register for my May 7th Event in NYC Recently, a beloved follower DM'ed me and said, without any mincing of words, "I need an episode on the friend zone." I was happy to oblige since, to be totally frank, I don't think the friend zone is an actual thing. I think it's more so a way to stay stuck, but safe. Stagnant but comfortable.  In this episode, I'm covering: The root of why we end up in the fr...

Private Coaching Spaces Open Register for my Dating Workshop in NYC A few weeks back,  I was perusing Instagram as one does, and I was fed Nikki Heyder's profile, based on a reel she had recently posted that went viral . And let's just say, it went viral for all the right reasons. Nikki is a trauma-informed psychotherapist, business mentor, and author based in Bali. Her perspective is refreshingly...

Register for my March 29th Masterclass: For the High-Achiever Who Struggles in Dating Work with Me Privately Like many of you, I've been completely obsessed with  Love Story, the dramatized JFK Jr. and Carolyn Bessette series. Along with making me want to revamp my entire wardrobe, rock a red lip, drill a land line into our wall, it's also completely lit up my intimacy with my husband ; ). I've ha...

Register for my March 29th Masterclass: For the High-Achiever Who Struggles in Dating Here's something I hear a lot from my clients: "I know this sounds terrible, but it's just really hard to be around my friends with kids right now" —  no, it doesn't sound terrible. It's actually very, very normal. That's where we're digging in today. I'm sharing why the impulse to shut down these feelings is act...

Ever since I turned 35, my sense of self — who I know myself to be — has undergone a continuing, and in some ways quite rapid, evolution. Now, at 40, it only seems to be moving faster. Asking me bigger questions, pushing me to make bigger changes, and forcing me to stare more directly at all that no longer feels like a fit. From furniture to friendships — which can be scary AF, tbh. When I came ac...

The most capable woman in the room is often the loneliest. Not because no one wants her — but because she's spent years making herself so easy, so low-maintenance, so needless, that there's nothing for anyone to actually attach to. But that's not a personality trait. That's a trauma response. In this episode, I'm digging into hyper-independence — where it comes from, why it masquerades as "just wh...

In the last few years I've started to notice something in my peers, colleagues and clients who are a few years deeper into their 40s — and a few years deeper into their marriage and life as parents: Things are starting to crack and fissure. Things that were a whisper of an issue before are now all encompassing. But are these big, life-altering cracks, or obstacles meant to drive a couple into its...

Nearly four years ago, my friend and colleague, Diana Davis, went through a life-altering breakup. She and her then-boyfriend of over six years decided to part ways, with her later learning he'd had an affair during the course of their relationship. You can listen to that episode here. For the last few years, she's hopped around the globe, living in different spots, dating different people (some g...

This week I've invited my dear friend and colleague, Megan Hellerer , back on the podcast. Megan was on the podcast in the fall of 2024 for the launch of her first book, Directional Living. Here's that first episode. I wanted to have her back on to discuss: What life is like as a 41 year old mom with a 2.5 year old, a year after writing her book Have her discuss how the life she's living feels lik...

Years ago, back when I first started this podcast, I shared an episode entitled "The comfort of being single." I will link to that podcast below. It's one of the most listened to episodes. My clients, always serving as the greatest mirror, reminded me this topic was worth revisiting. I find it to be an extremely comment sentiment, but it often gets buried with feelings of:  There's something wrong...

Quick videos with quippy captions, over-simplified sound bites and energy influencers claiming they understand your body better than you do your own,  have seemingly made us all "somatic experts," completely on top of our individualized trauma and blocks...but has it? That, and well, the release of her new book (!), was the main reason I wanted Bea to return to the show. If you identify as a type...

Years ago, I fell hard for a boss. Initially, I might have used the word love. That I fell in love with him. Now much older, knowing what love actually means and entails, it wasn't love. It was infatuation. But my feelings of infatuation were quite significant when it came to understanding my bigger romantic hunger and obstacles. I have worked with many a client who has experienced the same thing...

Psychological astrologer and general fountain of wisdom, Dani Beinstein returns!  In this episode we talk about: How the struggles, obstacles and general ways we were all put through the proverbial wringer in 2025 was a "pregame" (Dani's words) of sorts. Dani breaks down the what and why of last year. What 2026 is asking of us and how we can apply this to our lives Dani's and my own current philos...

Tis the season, or so it seems, to reflect on all I wish I'd done differently. While these breakups and ruptures I speak of are from a few years back, the things I wish I'd done around them to better integrate the pain and learn from my own mistakes, still (very much) ring true in life. First and foremost, I wish I hadn't mainlined so much self help content, such that I drowned out my own lived ex...

Many of the women I work with fall into their late 30s and early 40s, that spot when if one desires children, things can feel a bit precarious. Will I meet someone in time? Will the eggs I've frozen actually function? While I've had a few clients loosely entertain pursuing motherhood on their own, Megan was the first to actually do it. But it came much more from a place of pure desire, rather than...

It always astounds me how often clients will say to me: "I know, I know. I just need to get OVER this." To which I reply, "It sounds like that really hurts. I don't think you do." Our ability to override and deny the truth of our inner worlds and emotional landscapes in this heavily systemized dating world is doing more harm than good. Frankly, it's not doing any good at all! If you're someone who...