I Think I Like You

Private Coaching Spots are Open Get on my email list Are you obsessed with your attachment style and "fixing" it? Perhaps, even more so, if you fall into the category of anxious attachment? As a fellow anxious attachment sufferer, I believe we've got it all wrong.  In today's episode, I'm bringing a reframe to: How we think about our attachment styles How it's not just our upbringing, but our curr...

In today's episode, I'm opening up about my fertility journey, and how the ups and downs, are reminding me a lot of my dating journey. Namely: How do you keep going when you feel like nothing's working in your favor? How do you deal when you feel like you're "doing all the things," but none of it is making a difference? How do you long for something you feel like you don't have control over, or th...

Private coaching spots are now open! Apply here. Oftentimes, in our dating journey, when things aren’t working out or we can’t seem to meet people….our minds go to someplace like: location. Location, location, location. Similar to real estate, we start thinking, It must be where I live. I just must not live in a great place to meet people . I have worked with people from (literally) all over the g...

This was the question that slid into my DMs a few weeks back. Well, a portion of it. It was two fold: How do I date when I literally travel all the time for work? How do we all date in a way that works best for us? The answer(s) here, might seem simple, but I think this episode will very much surprise you. It surprised me! If you're someone who: Travels a lot for work Works odd hours Works ridicul...

Are you easily absorbed by therapeutic claims on social media? Do you read a post and then think... I think I have a disorganized attachment style I think the person I'm dating is love bombing me I think my boss is a narcissist Perhaps there's truth to all these claims. But in my opinion, we're caught up in an era where the information we're being fed — and the ways our brains are processing it —...

Here's something clients say to me all the time: I don't want to waste time dating . I totally get where they're coming from, but that desire and sentiment is totally working against them. That's what I'm unpacking in today's episode along with more legitimately helpful tools to reframe your dating life. This episode will resonate if you: Find yourself overly scrutinizing people's profiles Tend to...

When I launched my most recent program, the Big Dating Nap, I had a few sweet followers reach out and say: I don't need a nap. I'm in a dating coma! I need a jumpstart. I thought it was so sweet, and true. So while I didn't dedicated a program to this predicament (though the Big Dating Nap really is designed to act as a gentle jumpstart), I did want to dedicate the episode. This episode will reson...

In today's short episode, I'm sharing something I love to have my clients add to their dating profiles to mix up the monotony. This episode will resonate if: You're feeling blah about your profile and limited by your photo options You struggle to make your profile feel like you You find dating apps kind of miserable and could use a playful activity to shift up the energy You're down for out of the...

Do you find yourself saying.... "I know I should be doing more in dating. I know I need to put myself out there." Most women I speak with do, and while there might be some truth to more strongly owning one's desire for partnership, the sentiment leaves us feeling stuck and hopeless. Today's episode is an antidote to that stuck-ness. In it I'm breaking down: Why we're such faulty narrators when it...

Do you feel behind in life? Do you wrestle with feelings of...if I just had: That job That house That relationship That money Then I'd be....golden (insert sunglasses emoji). I wrestle with these feelings consistently, and while they've waned in nature as I've gotten older, I'm still every so often hit with that swirl of anxiety, fear and shame, that my life just won't ever look like how I want it...

Danielle Beinstein , one of my favorite thinkers and creators is back with a mish mosh of 2024 perspective. Grab a cup of something good and cozy up to this one. Use code ITHINKILIKEYOU at checkout to get 15% off one of Dani's readings. Work with me Privately Connect on Instagram Website Podcast Production by James Jorge

In today's episode I'm sharing one of my most prized elements of my marriage: our ability to talk about our past. Specifically, our past relationships. It was one of the things that most drew to my husband in our first few weeks of dating.  I also share what's coming up for me personally (this surprised me!) in our marriage and what I'm working on as a partner, and how I'm struggling to do the Who...

In today's episode I'm sharing three things I recently heard + read that stopped me dead in my tracks, and have really shaped my perspective for the New Year. Think: less social media, more solitude and stillness, more space, deeper, deeper, work. Links mentioned: The Big Dating Nap This article on parenting in the Cut. Work with me Privately Connect on Instagram Website Podcast Production by Jame...

Do I stay....or do I go? Do I keep seeing this person...is it worth it? Will things change? Will they develop into more? Ooooh goodness are those questions REAL, and that's exactly where we're digging in, in today's ep. But first, a very exciting announcement! The Big Dating Nap is here. The BDN is a four week period dedicated to rest and developing a deeper awareness around your dating patterns....

Any opportunity I have to debunk the myth that the fastest way to meet someone is by dating as much as possible, I love. So in today's episode, I'm breaking down the areas outside of dating that two lovely clients focused on that played a significant role when it came to  entering these beautiful new partnerships. I'm specifically walking through how working on: Family dynamics Quality of friendsh...

In this week's episode, I'm opening up about what went down around my wedding in the fall of 2022. This episode has been a long time coming, and one that feels particularly vulnerable. That said, I feel lucky and proud to be standing where I am today. This internal work is *not* for the faint of heart, and I'm reminded of that everyday as I walk side by side with my clients. I'm also so freaking g...

A fun episode for your holiday travels or time in the kitchen. xx Clara Work with me Privately Connect on Instagram Website Podcast Production by James Jorge

Are you satisfied friendship-wise? Are your friendships evolving in a way that you didn't see coming? Are you feeling out of sorts when it comes to how to handle all of that? You're very much *not* alone. 2023, in particular, has cracked me open to a whole new world of work and understanding in the area of friendship. Admittedly, I'd been so focused on improving my romantic relationships for the l...

Oh the fear of coming on too strong, or being too much, or being too....something, that ultimately drives our crush, love interest, or partner away. What anxiety this creates! In this episode I break down: What makes it so hard to say how we actually feel in with someone we like/love/etc What to do when you're facing this dilemma and how to shift your behavior How the fear of losing someone (aka a...

We toss around the idea of having to have the breakdown to have the breakthrough, but what does that actually look like? It's the main reason I wanted to sit down with my former client, Whitley, and discuss what the last few years of her relationship have looked like. There's been time together, there's been time apart, there's been working through a lot of stuff. Before digging in, please know, t...

Recently a listener reach out with the following question: "Hey Clara — I'm 35 and have never been in a relationship or had sex. I find most content around self confidence and self trust to be over simplified, somewhat condescending, and bordering on toxic positivity. Do you have a way you work through this with your clients?" The short answer, yes.  In this episode I dig into: How I help my clien...

Oooooh adolesence. YEESH. I was recently binging "The Summer I Turned Pretty," and it was giving me all the feels. Namely because. I never had a summer I turned pretty! I just stayed....staying in the identity of being the girl that didn't have the boyfriend, didn't get asked out, wasn't the pretty girl. I know I'm not alone in this. Client after client tells me of tender stories from middle and h...

In the grand scheme of things, I spend very little time on a client's dating profile. Most folks are usually surprised to hear that, so I wanted to break down the what and the why in today's episode. In this episode I'm covering: The only two things I work to ensure are included in a client's dating profile How your dating profile has little to nothing to do with your success in meeting someone —...

While in more modern times we've coined the term 'situationship,' these types of relationships — ones where our desire something or someone to be something we know it never will — are nothing new. Modern culture would also advise us to "just drop" these individuals. Let them go.  Move on. It's that simple. But it isn't. In today's episode I'm breaking down: What drives situation-ships — i.e. our o...

In today's enlightening episode, join me as I have a deep conversation with Kerri Keaton, a corporate executive turned human design specialist, a devoted mother, a thought leader, and a change maker. Kerri's unique journey is a testament to the possibilities that exist beyond societal norms, as she entered into marriage at 41 and embraced motherhood at 45. Her story is a beacon of hope for the man...