I Know a Guy Podcast

Why do we wait until life explodes before we change? Why do we tolerate slow drift in our marriage, our health, our faith — until something crashes hard enough to wake us up? In Luke 15, the prodigal son didn’t “come to his senses” until he was starving in a pigpen. But what if he didn’t have to wait for famine? What if we don’t either? This episode of I Know a Guy is an honest conversation about...

When “honor your father and mother” becomes emotional leverage, what do you do? In this episode we talk about: • Honor vs. control • Boundaries in honor-shame cultures • Jesus’ reordering of family loyalty • And how to become a man without becoming rebellious If you’ve ever felt like obedience to God might cost you family approval—this episode will steady your heart. If today's episode resonates w...

“Honor your father and mother.” For some men, that verse feels holy. For others, it feels heavy. What if the Hebrew word for honor doesn’t mean lifelong obedience—but giving proper weight? In this episode, we unpack: • The Hebrew meaning of kā·vêd • Why honor is about posture, not control • How this commandment has been misused • And how to honor without losing your identity If you’ve ever felt tr...

Pressure isn’t just about circumstances — it’s about identity. In this episode of I Know a Guy, we talk about the quiet drift that moves men from sonship into striving… and how to become immovable again. If you’ve been exhausted from trying to hold your place, this conversation will steady you. And if you’d like help becoming anchored and unwavering in your identity, I offer 1:1 identity coaching...

Most men think unwavering means trying harder. It doesn’t. It means being seated. In this episode of I Know a Guy, we unpack what “steadfast” and “immovable” really mean — and why pressure isn’t trying to break you… it’s trying to relocate you. If you’ve been feeling shaken in your identity, this conversation is for you. And if you’d like help learning how to live seated — not striving — I offer 1...

Paul didn’t lose his identity when the storm hit—he lived from it. In Acts 27, chained and exhausted, Paul becomes the calmest man on the ship. Not because the storm stopped—but because he knew who he belonged to. The ship went down. The promise didn’t. This episode of I Know a Guy explores what it looks like to live from your identity as a beloved son when everything feels like it’s breaking apar...

Many men believe holiness is something they must achieve to earn God’s approval. But that belief quietly fuels striving, exhaustion, and shame. In this episode of I Know a Guy, we flip the script. Holiness doesn’t come from trying harder—it flows from being loved. When identity is rooted in beloved sonship, healing begins… and holiness grows naturally. If you’ve been living from performance instea...

What if your identity didn’t start with performance… but with belonging? Before you ever took your first breath, you were already in the Father’s heart. Not accidental. Not tolerated. Not on probation. Wanted. Chosen. Loved. In today’s I Know a Guy episode, we talk about the Father’s heart Why adoption is not second-best. Why God’s pleasure isn’t earned, and How a secure attachment to a loving Fat...

What if the pressure you’re carrying isn’t actually yours to hold? So many men are exhausted—not because they’re incapable—but because they’ve quietly believed they are the source. The provider. The fixer. The answer. But Scripture tells us something radically freeing: before the pressure… the provision already existed. In this episode of I Know a Guy we dismantle the lie that it all depends on yo...

The way you see God is often shaped by the father you had—or didn’t have. In this episode of I Know a Guy, we explore how father wounds quietly shape faith, identity, and trust… and why healing begins when we separate God from our past. What if He’s not who you assumed? What if He’s the Father you never had? If today's episode resonates with you and you want help learning how to live from your ide...

Christianity is often misunderstood as behavior management—but what if it’s actually about restored belonging? This episode of I Know a Guy reframes faith through the lens of adoption, identity, and security, inviting men to consider that belief may follow belonging—not the other way around. This one is for you skeptics, seekers, and men who grew up around church but never felt at home. If today's...

Most men don’t struggle with belief—they struggle with belonging. In this episode of I Know a Guy, we explore why the deepest ache in a man’s heart isn’t about performance or certainty, but about being loved by a Father who stays. Before belief. Before behavior. There is an invitation: Be. Loved. This episode is for the man who’s curious, cautious, or quietly tired of carrying it alone. If you’re...

Sonship isn’t something you think your way into. It’s something you experience. Scripture says the Spirit testifies with our spirit—not our theology. In this episode of I Know a Guy, we explore why awareness reconnects us to the place where God’s love is received, how presence replaces performance, and how small daily practices help men live as sons instead of strivers. If you’re tired of performi...

When emotions go unrecognized, men don’t slow down—they look for relief. Sometimes that relief looks obvious. Sometimes it looks productive, successful, or even spiritual. But escape is escape. In this episode of I Know a Guy, we explore the moment in Genesis where hiding begins, why men cope instead of feel, and how awareness—not willpower—is what actually leads to freedom. If you’re noticing pat...

Jesus didn’t deny His emotions—and He didn’t let them control Him. He stayed present, honest, and deeply connected to the Father. In this episode of I Know a Guy, we explore moments where Jesus names His sorrow, allows Himself to grieve, and refuses to bypass His inner world in the name of faith. What we discover is this: awareness doesn’t weaken a man—it anchors him. If you’re realizing you’ve sp...

David failed. He sinned. He made costly mistakes. Yet God trusted him with something rare—His own heart.  Why? Because David was aware of his inner world. He talked to his soul. He asked questions instead of numbing pain. He invited God into what was actually happening inside him. In Episode 2 of our Awareness series on I Know a Guy, we explore why emotional honesty—not perfection—is what marked D...

Most men are good thinkers. But very few of us know what’s happening inside our hearts. When emotions surface—anxiety, anger, sadness—we don’t slow down and listen.  We react. We numb. We perform. We isolate. Scripture says everything we do flows from the heart… yet most men have never been taught how to notice what’s going on there. In Episode 1 of this new Awareness series on I Know a Guy, we ta...

Decisive action doesn’t have to come from urgency or fear. Boaz shows us what it looks like when a man moves with clarity instead of pressure. He honors process, seeks accountability, and acts boldly without rushing the outcome. His identity is settled—so his decisions are steady. In today’s episode of I Know a Guy, we look at the moment Boaz goes to the city gate and how that scene reveals the di...

Most men were taught that strength means striving—pushing harder, moving faster, proving ourselves before someone questions our worth. Boaz shows us a different way. He is introduced in Scripture as “a man of standing,” not because of what he achieves, but because of who he is. His strength doesn’t create pressure; it creates safety. He notices, protects, and provides—without demanding anything in...

What if the Prayer of Jabez was never about getting more from God — but learning how to ask Him like a son? In the middle of a long genealogy, Scripture pauses for one man and one prayer. Jabez asks boldly: for blessing, for expansion, for God’s presence, and for freedom from the pain that shaped his past. And God answers — without correction, hesitation, or warning. In this episode of I Know a Gu...

In this episode of I Know a Guy, Steve Cummings shares how Jamie Winship and Identity Exchange reshaped his understanding of identity, truth, and freedom. If you’re tired of striving and ready to live from who God says you are, this conversation is for you. Get a copy of Jamie Winship's book Steve mentioned on today's podcast called, "Living Fearless"  More about Steve Cummings: Experience: 42 yea...

In this episode of I Know a Guy, Steve Cummings explores how Pete Scazzero’s work revealed the deep connection between emotional health and spiritual formation. If you’ve ever felt torn between faith and feelings, this conversation brings clarity and hope. Get a copy of Pete Scazzero's book, "Emotionally Healthy Spirituality: It's Impossible to Be Spiritually Mature, While Remaining Emotionally Im...

In this episode of I Know a Guy, Steve Cummings shares how Michael Thompson and The Heart of a Warrior awakened a deeper awareness of sonship, healing, and the importance of a man’s heart. If you’ve ever felt spiritually committed but emotionally disconnected—this episode is for you. For a free copy of Michael Thompson's book, "Heart of a Warrior: Before You Can Become the Warrior You Must Become...

In this episode of I Know a Guy, host Steve Cummings reflects on how John Eldredge and Wild at Heart reshaped his understanding of God—not as distant, but deeply personal. If your faith has felt driven by duty more than delight, this conversation may open the door to experiencing God as a present and loving Father.   Resources by best-selling author John Eldridge mentioned on today's podcast: 1. "...

Men don’t grow spiritually by trying harder—they grow by being fathered. In today’s episode of I Know a Guy, host Steve Cummings introduces a powerful question: Who is your Spiritual Sherpa? Drawing from Scripture and personal experience, Steve explores why every man needs someone who’s gone before him—someone who helps move faith from the head to the heart and anchors identity in being a beloved...