I Know a Guy Podcast

Many men know God loves them—but they don’t actually feel it. And in difficult seasons, that gap can grow even wider. In this episode of I Know a Guy, we explore why receiving God’s love can feel so difficult and how to begin experiencing it in a real, personal way—even when your heart feels distant or numb. Get a copy of Steve’s new book, The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthy Father Shaped Your Ide...

When life gets hard, most men default to pushing through—working harder, carrying more, and trying to fix what feels out of control. But what if the answer isn’t found in striving… but in surrender? In this episode of I Know a Guy, we explore what it means to stop performing in difficult seasons and instead allow the Father to meet us right in the middle of them. If you’ve been carrying weight alo...

We men know how to work hard, push hard, achieve hard, and compete hard. But for many of us the hardest thing we’ll ever do is believe we are loved apart from performance. So we spend our lives trying to prove ourselves. At work. In marriage. In leadership. Even spiritually. In this powerful conclusion to the “Doing Hard Things” series, Steve talks about performance-driven living, father wounds, i...

Most men want to be respected. But many of us were never taught how to repair relationships after we’ve caused pain. So we defend ourselves.  Explain ourselves.  Withdraw and minimize. Meanwhile the people we love most are often left carrying wounds we never intended to create. In this episode of I Know a Guy, Steve talks about humility, apologies, rebuilding trust, and the courage it takes to own...

We men can become really good at doing spiritual things. Reading Scripture. Praying. Leading Bible studies. Going to church. Serving faithfully. Meanwhile internally, we can still feel distant from God, emotionally shut down, exhausted, ashamed, or disconnected. Why? Because many of us learned how to perform spiritually before we learned how to be honest spiritually. In this episode of I Know a Gu...

Most men know how to be around people. Fewer men know how to truly be known. We can build careers, lead teams, sit in church every Sunday, and even have guys around us regularly… while quietly living isolated lives. Many of us learned how to perform strength instead of pursue connection. So we hide behind work, humor, independence, busyness, or emotional shutdown — and wonder why we feel disconnec...

Men know how to push through pain, don't we?  We work harder. We stay busy.  We grind.  We compete, and we stay mentally tough. But many of us have no idea what to do with sadness, fear, loneliness, rejection, or grief. So we shut down.  Withdraw.  Get angry. Numb out, or quietly disappear emotionally from the people we love most. In this episode of I Know a Guy, we’re talking about emotional cour...

Question:  Why do so many of us men know how to work hard, compete hard, and endure hard things - but struggle to identify what we’re actually feeling? On this episode of  “I Know A Guy” podcast, we’re talking about emotional courage as we start a new 6-part series on "Doing Hard Things." Why do anger and withdrawal become our default responses? And why does emotional shutdown quietly wound the pe...

What kind of legacy are you building right now?  Not someday—TODAY. In the final episode of our It Stops With Me series, we bring everything together and look at what your life is actually producing in the people around you. Because legacy isn’t about what you leave behind.  It’s about what you live out daily. This episode will challenge you to step into intentional leadership—so what gets passed...

Your words are shaping more than you think. In Episode 5 of our current series on reversing generational curses, It Stops With Me, we dive into the power of your voice—and how what you say today becomes the internal voice your family carries tomorrow. Most men are repeating what was spoken over them without even realizing it. But you don’t have to. This episode is about breaking that cycle—and lea...

What does it actually look like to become the man you never had? In Episode 4 of It Stops With Me, we move from breaking patterns… to building something new. Because it’s not enough to say, “I don’t want to repeat the past.” You have to decide who you’re becoming instead. Through real-life examples and powerful biblical models, this episode will challenge you to step into a new way of living—marke...

At some point, every man has to make a decision.  Will I keep blaming my past—or will I start leading my life? In Episode 3 of our current series on I Know a Guy, It Stops With Me, we make the turn from awareness to ownership. Because your story matters—but it doesn’t get to define you. Blame will keep you stuck. Ownership will set you free. This episode is about stepping out of victim thinking—an...

What if the struggles you’re facing right now didn’t actually start with you? What if the anger… the distance… the pressure… the way you react under stress—was shaped long before you even realized it? In Episode 1 of this new series on I Know a Guy, It Stops With Me, we’re uncovering how generational patterns are formed—and how they get passed down. But more importantly—how they can stop with you....

What if the struggles you’re facing right now didn’t actually start with you? What if the anger… the distance… the pressure… the way you react under stress—was shaped long before you even realized it? In Episode 1 of this new series on I Know a Guy, "It Stops With Me," we’re uncovering how generational patterns are formed—and how they get passed down. But more importantly—how they can stop with yo...

Father’s Day is over — but what if the real impact of it is just beginning? In this special episode of I Know a Guy, we slow down and reflect on what surfaced this weekend— the gratitude, the tension, the silence. And ask a deeper question:  What is God inviting you into right now? Because healing doesn’t happen by accident. It happens when we choose to lean in. if this episode resonates with you,...

What does it look like to be a father—when your kids are grown? When they’re making their own decisions—and you don’t always agree? In this episode of I Know a Guy we conclude our Father's Day series as we talk about the shift from raising your kids—to releasing them. And why holding on too tightly can actually create more distance. Because great fathers don’t control their adult children. They st...

The teenage years change everything.  What used to work—doesn’t anymore. And many dads respond by tightening control—which only creates more distance. All this week we've been focusing on Father's Day coming up on Sunday and in today's episode of I Know a Guy we talk about what’s really happening when your teenager pulls away—and how to shift from control to connection. Because your influence as a...

What if the biggest mistake fathers make—isn’t what they do—but what they miss? In the early years of childhood—your presence shapes your child’s identity more than anything else.  Not your provision. Not your success. Your presence. In this episode of I Know a Guy, we talk about what it means to avoid becoming a “Father Eclipse”— a dad who’s physically there, but emotionally absent. Because your...

Not every man grew up with a broken relationship with his father. Some had a great dad. Present. Engaged. Consistent. And that’s a gift. But here’s the question: Are you intentionally building on that legacy—or just assuming it will carry itself forward? As we continue with Part 3 of our Father's Day series, today on I Know a Guy, we talk about what it means to steward what you were given— and why...

Some men didn’t just grow up without a father.  They grew up being wounded by one. All this week on I Know a Guy we are preparing our hearts for Father's Day on Sunday.  Today we’re talking about the impact of abusive, controlling, or absent fathers—and how those wounds follow us into adulthood. Into our relationships. Into our identity. Into how we show up as men. But also this: What does it actu...

What if the story you’ve believed about your father has shaped more of your life than you realize? Today on I Know a Guy we’re talking to the man who grew up without a father. The absence. The questions. The drive to prove… or the temptation to quit. But also this: What if you were never actually fatherless? What if God has been stepping into that space all along? This Father’s Day series might ch...

In today’s episode of I Know a Guy, we look at the parable of the soils from Gospel of Matthew 13—and ask an honest question: What’s really going on in your heart right now? Because these aren’t just four types of people… they’re four conditions of the heart—and we drift between them more than we think. As we prepare to step into Fatherhood, this episode will help you examine what’s growing beneat...

In today’s episode of I Know a Guy, we bring everything together—from emotional courage to healing—and ask the question: What are you going to do with it? Because awareness without action doesn’t change anything. And the step you take right now won’t just affect you—it will shape your relationships, your future, and your legacy. This is a moment to stop circling the same patterns and take one real...

In today’s episode of I Know a Guy, we move beyond awareness and ask a harder question: How bad do you actually want healing? Because wanting it… and pursuing it… are not the same thing. We’ll look at how Jesus invited people into healing—not passively, but through movement, courage, and action—and what that means for you right now. If you’ve been stuck in the same patterns and wondering why nothi...

In today’s episode of I Know a Guy, we step into a powerful moment from Gospel of John 5—where Jesus asks a man who’s been stuck for 38 years a question that feels almost unnecessary: “Do you want to get well?” But instead of saying yes… the man gives reasons, excuses, and comparisons. And if we’re honest… we do the same. This episode is an invitation to look beneath the surface and ask a deeper q...