I Know a Guy Podcast

What if the reason you keep going back to the same struggle isn’t a lack of discipline—but a lack of emotional courage? You can’t heal what you won’t face. In this episode of I Know a Guy, we talk about what emotional courage actually looks like for a man—how it begins with honesty, moves into the light, and leads toward real healing. If you’ve been stuck in cycles you can’t seem to break, this co...

Most men don’t struggle with courage—they struggle with emotional courage. We’ll face pressure, responsibility, and external challenges without hesitation. But when it comes to what’s happening inside—pain, shame, and unresolved wounds—we tend to avoid it, bury it, or numb it. In this episode of I Know a Guy, we explore why even the strongest men struggle to face their inner world, and the hidden...

What if the most loving thing you could do… is say no? In this episode of I Know a Guy, we break down how to love with clarity, boundaries, and identity—without losing yourself in the process or feeling like you’re being unkind. Because real love isn’t about managing people’s emotions—it’s about being grounded enough to tell the truth and stay present. And this message ties directly into my new bo...

Most men think being “nice” equals being loving.  But what if it’s actually fear—fear of conflict, fear of rejection, fear of not being liked? In this episode of I Know a Guy, we expose the hidden trap of people pleasing—and how trying to keep everyone happy is quietly costing you your identity, your peace, and your relationships. And we connect it to something bigger. My new book, "The Father Ecl...

You weren’t born disconnected. You learned it. And what started as protection… became your way of life. In this episode of I Know a Guy, we unpack why men shut down emotionally…how it impacts every relationship in your life… and how to begin reconnecting to the part of you that’s been buried for years. Plus—my new book "The Father Eclipse" is now available on Amazon. And for the next 72 hours, eve...

There’s a Greek word used to describe Jesus when He sees people—and it doesn’t mean what you think it means. σπλαγχνίζομαι. (splagchnizomai) It means He felt compassion in His gut. Deep. visceral. unavoidable. And here’s the problem— Most men have spent their entire lives avoiding that exact place. In this episode of I Know a Guy, we unpack what this word really means… how Jesus actually experienc...

Fear is not your identity. But if you don’t understand it… it will quietly shape your entire life. This episode of I Know a Guy will help you discern the difference between healthy fear and destructive fear—and how to stop letting it control you. Because you weren’t created to live guarded, reactive, and small. You were created to live free. Fear didn’t just show up in your life—it was formed. In...

Fear didn’t just show up in your life—it was formed. In your home. In your story. In moments you didn’t have the strength to process as a boy. And if you’ve ever wondered why you overthink, control, withdraw, or react… there’s a reason. This episode of I Know a Guy helps you start finding it. Because until you understand where fear came from… you’ll keep letting it lead.   Here is the Amazon link...

What do you actually say when someone you love is hurting? Most men freeze… fix… or shut it down. In this episode of I Know a Guy, we break down simple, practical ways to show empathy—without feeling awkward, helpless, or out of control. If you’ve ever thought, “I just don’t know what to say…” This episode of I Know a Guy will give you the words—and the confidence—to stay present. Because connecti...

Most men think they’re helping… But what if the way you respond to your wife’s emotions is actually pushing her further away? In this episode of I Know a Guy, we break down the critical difference between sympathy and empathy—and why men default to fixing, minimizing, and controlling when emotions rise. If you’ve ever said, “Just don’t worry about it”… or “You’ll be fine”… This episode is for you....

If the wide path leads to destruction, why does it feel so normal? Why do so many men live stressed, disconnected, and exhausted—and think that’s just life? What if the issue isn’t your schedule, but your identity?  And what if the patterns you’ve been living out for decades were never actually leading you where you think? This episode of I Know a Guy exposes why the wide path feels right— And why...

Most men believe they’re following Jesus because they go to church. But what if Jesus never said that was the standard? What if the real question isn’t what you believe—but the path you’re actually walking? There are two roads. One is easy, comfortable, and crowded. The other is narrow, intentional, and requires everything. And here’s the tension— You don’t choose it once. You choose it every day....

At some point, every man hits a wall.  A blow-up. A shutdown. A disconnect. Or just the realization—something’s off. That’s not random. That’s what happens when you ignore the why beneath your what. You can only outrun it for so long. Eventually… it catches up. This episode of I Know a Guy will show you how to slow down, get honest, and start uncovering what’s really driving your life—so you don’t...

You didn’t randomly become the man you are. Your reactions, your habits, your patterns. They were learned. Formed in your family. Shaped between ages 0–12. And here’s the hard truth: What helped you survive then - might be hurting you now. Performance. Withdrawal. Control. Avoidance. It all made sense. But is it still serving you? This episode of I Know a Guy will help you connect your past to you...

You’re not fine.  You’re just moving too fast to deal with what’s really going on inside of you. Every reaction… every frustration… every shutdown… There’s a why beneath it. But when you ignore it… it doesn’t go away.  It leaks. Into your marriage. Your parenting. Your friendships. Your work. And if you keep ignoring the signals… The engine will blow. This episode of I Know a Guy will wake you up...

Joshua and Caleb believed the promise.  But belief didn’t fast-forward the timeline. Forty years!  Forty years of waiting while others wandered in fear. Today's episode of I Know a Guy concludes our 2-part series on Joshua and Caleb and explores how identity sustains a man through delay — and why sonship is the only thing strong enough to carry you through long seasons of formation. Steve's new bo...

Twelve men walked into the same promise. Ten saw giants and shrank. Two saw giants and stood tall. What was the difference? Identity. Today and tomorrow on I Know a Guy, we’re diving into the story of Joshua and Caleb — and why your view of yourself determines whether you step into promise or wander in fear. If you’ve been standing on the edge of something — unsure, hesitant, second-guessing — thi...

Today on I Know a Guy, we’re talking about something most men quietly struggle with. The addiction to be affirmed, or recognized. The need to be noticed, validated and  affirmed. But there is freedom from that cycle. When a man understands his identity as a beloved son, he stops living for applause and begins living from something much deeper. If you’ve ever felt invisible - or if your sense of wo...

Today on the I Know a Guy, we’re talking about something almost no man admits. The addiction to recognition. The need to be seen. The need to be validated. The need to be noticed. And what happens inside a man when the applause disappears. In the next episode we’ll talk about how men break free from living for recognition and begin living from the unshakable identity of a beloved son. If you’ve ev...

Every man has a story that shaped him.  A past that influenced How he sees himself How he shows up How he protects his heart. But at some point, every man faces a choice: Will I stay defined by my story? or learn how to move forward? In this episode of I Know a Guy, we talk about what it looks like to own your story without letting it own you. Because your past may have shaped you… but it was neve...

Most men think they’ve left home, but they haven’t. They’ve just changed addresses. And it shows up in the same place every time— between their mom and their wife. In this episode of I Know a Guy, we’re going straight into the tension most men avoid. What does it actually mean to honor your mom without losing yourself? And how do you truly choose your wife so she never feels like she’s competing?...

Most men don’t realize this The way you respond to pressure. The way you handle relationships. Even the way you see yourself . . . . . . may not actually be “who you are.” It may be something you learned. Something formed a long time ago. In this episode of I Know a Guy, we’re talking about the hidden scripts many men are living from — without even knowing it. Because if you’ve ever felt stuck - l...

For many men, the struggle with identity traces back to one relationship: their father. Whether he was absent, angry, critical, passive, or simply unavailable… that relationship leaves marks on a man’s heart. In today’s episode of I Know a Guy, we explore the father wound and how it shapes how men see themselves and even how they see God. The Amazon link Steve mentioned today to his new book, "The...

Every man grew up in a family system. And whether it was healthy or dysfunctional… loving or chaotic… present or absent… that system shaped the way you see yourself today. In this new series on I Know a Guy, we’re unpacking how childhood experiences with parents, siblings, and family dynamics quietly formed the beliefs you carry about yourself, others, and even God. Because until you understand yo...

A lot of resentment in marriage gets blamed on sex. But sex usually isn’t the real issue. Connection is. In this episode of I Know A Guy, we talk about the hidden resentment many men carry when they feel rejected in marriage—and why acting out never solves the real problem. Because I know a guy who had to lose almost everything before he learned how connection actually works.   "I Am Your Beloved"...