I Can't Even...A Podcast About Borderlines By Borderlines

In this raw and powerful episode, we continue our conversation with Sarah—a fierce BPD warrior who describes emotional hijacking and high-functioning invisibility to the frustration of being mislabeled and misunderstood, this conversation is as honest as it is empowering. Our guest shares personal experiences with misdiagnosis, medication struggles, and the double-edged sword of caring deeply whil...

Episode Sixteen Today's episode features Sarah - BPD Coach & Warrior. In this raw and powerful episode, we meet Sarah—a fierce BPD warrior whose childhood in a quiet Canadian ghost town was anything but calm. From getting kicked out of first grade for saving ladybugs to building a career surrounded by nature and frogs (yes, real ones), Sarah walks us through what it’s like to grow up misunders...

In this episode, we sit down with a bold, brave voice in the BPD community who also goes by the name King Skies . His story is one of pain, poetry, and perseverance. From childhood group homes to emotional misdiagnoses, he takes us on a journey through the chaos and confusion of life with Borderline Personality Disorder — and how the moment one therapist’s encouragement changed everything and musi...

In today’s episode, I sit down with Gabby — a 35-year-old mother of four, who has walked through trauma most people can’t even imagine. From losing her husband in a shocking arrest, to battling substance use, to navigating the emotional wreckage of CPS and custody loss — Gabby’s story is not just about survival, it’s about showing up raw and real even when the world refuses to see your humanity. T...

“I’m Not a Monster – I’m a Human with BPD” What if the thing you’ve been taught to hide could become your source of healing? In this raw and unfiltered episode, we sit down with a BPD warrior, Alice Hyoung, who gets real about the shame, chaos, and stigma that come with living with borderline personality disorder—and how she's reclaiming her life one radical act of self-ownership at a time. From s...

If you’ve ever felt trapped by the invisible expectation to “save everyone” — even when you’re falling apart inside — this episode was made for you. Today, we welcome the amazing Coach Cassie C. James Weathersby, founder of Black Women Do Heal, for a soul-stirring, truth-telling conversation about the real cost of living like a superhero. Together, we dive deep into why exhaustion is not a badge o...

Alice Hyoung, who shares her deeply personal journey through trauma, loneliness, medication, and identity healing. From childhood dissociation to sacred rage, Alice unpacks what it means to live with borderline personality disorder and still find joy, purpose, and peace. This episode dives into spiritual shifts, medication without shame, the power of safe spaces, and the radical truth that you are...

Episode Twenty-Two: In today’s episode, we’re joined by Lauren Rosier, a passionate advocate and writer who opens up about her journey living with borderline personality disorder — from early signs in childhood to the life-saving role of DBT, music, and meaningful friendships. This conversation is raw, validating, and filled with the kind of insights you don’t hear enough about. So whether you're...

Tune in to part 3 of a most riveting and raw interview with a woman of color and BPD Warrior. From crisis action plans to disability battles, and the quiet heroism of choosing to stay alive one day at a time—this episode goes beyond surface-level mental health talk. You’ll hear about the healing power of deep house music, the bittersweet joy of love with BPD, and the fire it takes to fight for you...

What does it really feel like to live with Borderline Personality Disorder—especially as a Black woman in a world that doesn’t always see you, hear you, or believe you? In this second part of this raw and unfiltered episode, we go deep into the inner world of a BPD warrior. From hyper-intuition and emotional whiplash in relationships, to the aching loneliness of being unseen in mental health space...

Episode Seven In this deeply honest and unexpectedly hilarious episode, a courageous (and anonymous) Black woman shares her lived experience with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). From feeling “too much” as a teen to navigating abandonment in therapy, she holds nothing back—and proves that being emotionally intense doesn’t make you broken, it makes you powerful. We explore early signs, misdia...

Today's episode features Jade Stanton - BPD Coach & Warrior. In this uplifting and educational episode, BPD Coach Jade Stanton joins the conversation to share her powerful story of early diagnosis, navigating recovery, and turning her pain into purpose. Diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder at just 16, Jade opens up about the emotional intensity of adolescence, the science behind the...

In a compelling episode of Nicole's podcast, licensed clinical social worker Sarah Abbott opens up about her unique perspective as both a mental health professional and someone living with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). Their conversation reveals valuable insights about therapy approaches, finding proper support, and redefining identity beyond diagnosis. Disclaimer: The title of this podca...

Today’s episode brings us the final part of what has been a most exciting and informative interview with Valerie Porr, Author and Founder of the Treatment and Research Advancements National Association for Personality Disorder (TARA4BPD), a non-for-profit organization founded in 1995. She shares a Call to Action, determined that change will come with more involvement in conferences and BPD present...

Today’s episode brings us the second part of an exciting interview with Valerie Porr, Author and Founder of the Treatment and Research Advancements National Association for Personality Disorder (TARA4BPD), a non-for-profit organization founded in 1995. She highlights the need to increase funding and resources for personality disorder research and treatment. She also suggests implementing research...

Today’s episode brings us the first of three parts of an exciting interview with Valerie Porr, Author and Founder of the Treatment and Research Advancements National Association for Personality Disorder (TARA4BPD), a non-for-profit organization founded in 1995. We unpack why BPD, after 30+ years of research, is still so stigmatized by psychiatrists, clinicians, and mental health providers. You don...

Today’s episode brings us an exciting interview with Dr. Courtney Tracy (known as 'the truth doctor'), a licensed clinical social worker and doctor of clinical psychology with over 2 million followers worldwide. Dr. Tracy shares her personal journey with substance abuse and Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), Dr. Tracy emphasizes the importance of psychoeducation and understanding the brain's f...

In this special episode, we’re celebrating the season by bringing you a seamless playlist featuring all the incredible songs from past episodes of Press Pause! Whether relaxing at home, taking a winter stroll, or just needing a moment to unwind, this music compilation is designed to provide comfort, inspiration, and joy. Sit back, press play, and let the melodies take you on a reflective journey t...

In today’s episode, Nicole Darby sheds light on co-morbidities and their impact on mental health. She explains the significance of the term and explores how understanding co-morbidities can lead to better self-awareness and informed care decisions. Next she discusses using audio and video journaling to help regulate emotions. Following Tool Time, relax with a Mindful Moment featuring a guided medi...

In today’s episode, Nicole Darby introduces Tool Time, focusing on radical acceptance and its role in understanding self-perception. She provides actionable advice for finding the right therapist and shares a helpful checklist of 10 essential questions to guide your search for the best therapeutic fit. Following Tool Time, unwind with a Mindful Moment featuring a guided meditation on accepting unc...

In today’s episode, Nicole Darby, Melanie Jones, and Dr. Gregory Serfer delve into affective instability, a core symptom of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). Dr. Serfer defines affective instability, explores its traits, and distinguishes it from moodiness and bipolar disorder. Nicole and Mel share personal experiences with instability, shedding light on common triggers and the challenges the...

In today’s episode, Nicole Darby presents Tool Time, exploring schema therapy and unpacking BPD’s four dysfunctional modes; The Abandoned Child, Angry Child, Punitive Parent, and Detached Protector, while emphasizing the goal of a balanced Adult Mode. Then, Nicole also discusses the impact of support systems on managing BPD, offering actionable tips for building a community through “BPD Buddies.”...

In today’s episode, Nicole, along with Dr. Gregory Serfer and Melanie Jones, dives into the true meaning of impulsivity in Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and its impact on those affected and their supporters. They explore what impulsivity means for people with BPD (pwBPD), how to differentiate it from ADHD, and whether it can be destructive. Also, they examine theories behind impulsive beha...

In today’s episode, Nicole Darby presents a special “Tool Time” segment, diving into practical mental health tools and strategies for managing BPD and life’s daily stressors. Starting with an introduction to Radically Open Dialectical Behavior Therapy (RO-DBT), Nicole explains the key differences between traditional DBT and RO-DBT. She follows this with a series of helpful techniques, to assist yo...

In today’s episode, Nicole sits down with Kim Beavers to discuss all things disability; exploring the challenges, the commitment, and the low success rate that often comes with filing disability claims. Kim shares her journey, starting with what led her down the path of disability and what it takes to qualify for a claim. She delves into the importance of detailed logs, the role of referrals, and...