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How does porn (mis)educate us? What exactly does it teach? In this episode, I'll share the 5 As of porn, the 2 core messages, and how to experience sexual re-education. Resources mentioned in this episode (these are paid links): The Psychology Of Porn , by Andrew Bauman Pornland: How Porn Has Hijacked Our Sexuality , by Gail Dines You're invited to HMA In A Day on Saturday, July 11! This...

"Sexual discipleship is teaching people HOW to think about sexuality, not WHAT to think about sexuality." In this episode, Dr. Juli Slattery helps us rethink sexuality according to the story of God, rather than the toxic sexual narratives of porn and purity culture. Juli Slattery is a clinical psychologist, author, speaker and the president/co-founder of Authentic Intimacy . She is also...

How does enmeshment with a parent lead to sexual brokenness? And how can we heal from it? In this episode, Dr. Ken Adams will inspire you to break free from inappropriate loyalty so you can regain your passion and purpose in life. Dr. Ken Adams is a world-renowned therapist and expert on enmeshment, covert incest, shame, abuse, and sex addiction. Learn more about Dr. Adams and the Mother-Enmeshed...

Do your sexual fantasies ever feel confusing or disturbing? Have you ever wondered why they are so powerful, or how they work? In this episode, you will learn my exact formula for interpreting sexual fantasies. If you don't understand your fantasies, you will have a love/hate relationship with them. However, sexual fantasies lose much of their power when you learn how to interpret them. You c...

Attachment is at the core of who we are, why we struggle, and how we heal. Dr. Jake Porter explains attachment in a way that is powerful, practical, and personal. Listening to this episode is insightful and delightful! Dr. Jake Porter is the founder of Couple-Centered Recovery, a model for treating attachment wounds of couples experiencing the trauma of betrayal. Jake is a Christian psychotherapis...

Get wisdom on how to practically build brotherhood with 2-3 other men. At Husband Material, we call groups of 3 men "triads." In this episode, you'll learn why we recommend triads over accountability partners, how to form your own triad, and what real men in 3 different triads are currently doing to help each other heal. 3 Ways To Form A Triad: Join the Husband Material Community (f...

Why is it so hard to make friends with other men? How can we go deep and get close without getting inappropriate? What about physical touch? Many of us never learned these things. If you long for deep, satisfying brotherhood in Christ, this episode is for you. You're invited to HMA In A Day on Saturday, July 11! This free online workshop will go through the entire Husband Material Academy pro...

Why is it so difficult to stop using porn? What brain chemicals are involved, and how do they work together? Listen to recovery coach Greg Oliver answer these questions with sharp insights from neuroscience and Scripture. Dopamine & Norepinephrine = anticipation and arousal Oxytocin & Vasopressin = bonding and mate selection Serotonin & Prolactin = soothing relaxation and sleep If you...

One of my all-time favorite storytellers is Nate Larkin. In this episode, Nate tells his whole story. You'll hear how he failed as a Pharisee, how he came out of hiding, what he is struggling with right now, and how to do the 4-point check-in he uses with his friends on a daily basis. Nate Larkin is the founder of the Samson Society , a fellowship of Christian men who are serious about authen...

What is God's design for the testicles? How do testicles uniquely reflect the image of God? You might be surprised! This episode is a follow-up to a previous episode: Theology of the Penis (with Jeremy Williamson) . You're invited to HMA In A Day on Saturday, July 11! This free online workshop will go through the entire Husband Material Academy program in a single day. Sign up now at hus...

Have you ever met someone who over-spiritualizes everything? In this episode, Dr. Craig Cashwell introduces the concept of spiritual bypass: how spiritual ideas or practices can become a crutch to cope with pain or trauma (just like pornography). Along the way, Craig  unpacks different examples of spiritual bypass, such as toxic positivity, compulsive goodness, and forced forgiveness. We also talk...

This is the story of a couple who nearly divorced 4 years into marriage due to chronic sexual betrayal. They got a lot of bad advice and made a lot of mistakes, but with God as their foundation, Clinton and Charity Muñoz are now closer than ever before. They went from infidelity to intimacy—from crisis to closeness—and now they help others do the same at Restored 2 More . Learn more about Restored...

The voice in your head that constantly criticizes you, saying you're weak, ugly, stupid, or not good enough is the voice of a bully. Bullying can come from anywhere: parents, peers, or even pornography. In this episode, Dr. Doug Carpenter explains why bullying creates the "inner critic" inside each of us, how bullying can be sexualized, what to do if you are currently being bullied,...

What is the autonomic nervous system and why should I care? Because freedom from porn depends on it. Being able to notice, name, and navigate your nervous system allows you to regulate, replacing the pacifier of porn. You can find a visual summary of this episode here . Resources mentioned (these are paid links): The Body Keeps The Score , by Dr. Bessel van der Kolk Polyvagal Theory in Therapy , b...

What is a mother wound? How do you know if you have one? And how can mother wounds be healed? In this episode, Dan Hitz tells the story of his mother wounds, how they impacted his sexuality, and what the Lord has done to alleviate his anger, remove his self-hatred, and allow him to feel safe with women. Dan Hitz is the Executive Director of Reconciliation Ministries (a member of Restored Hope Netw...

What is God's purpose for the penis? How does it reflect the image of God? And how can I reclaim the goodness of my penis? Join me and Jeremy Williamson for a candid conversation about God, men, and embodied brotherhood. Jeremy Williamson is a Pastoral Counselor at Restoration Counseling in Northern Colorado. Email Jeremy at jeremy@restorationcounselingnoco.com . You're invited to HMA In...

Why are certain times of the day, week, or year more difficult? Because emotions fluctuate. In this episode, I'll help you prepare for emotionally difficult times and seasons so you can give yourself plenty of grace and space to process your emotions rather than turning to the pacifier of porn. You're invited to HMA In A Day on Saturday, July 11! This free online workshop will go through...

How does psychology relate to spirituality? How does therapy relate to theology? Dr. Ken McGill is a Christ-centered clinician who has been answering these questions for decades. In this episode, Dr. Ken offers a perspective on sex addiction that is both clinical and compatible with Christianity. Dr. Ken McGill is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist with a Doctorate in Clinical Psychology. He is t...

Measuring freedom from porn usually produces self-contempt or self-righteousness. How can we avoid these two pitfalls? Is there a better way? Yes, there is! In this episode, I'll share the 4 levels of freedom from porn, how to evaluate your sexual and emotional maturity and my #1 most meaningful measurement. Register my upcoming free live class, "How To Outgrow Porn," at outgrowporn...

Why do we return to porn even though it harms us? What if we return to porn precisely because it harms us? The answer is often re-enactment. "Re-enactment (noun): the acting out of a past event." Therapist and licensed mental health counselor Wendell Moss tells the story how porn re-enacted sexual abuse from when he was a boy, and what happened when he was confronted by the fierce kindne...

Have you ever been hurt by a sibling or close friend? Sometimes porn is used as a pacifier for painful peer relationships... or in some cases, the lack of any relationships at all. Marcus Spaur knows what it's like to be scarred by a sibling, and also what it's like to heal more deeply than he ever imagined. He has over 6 years of freedom from porn... and a passion for helping other men...

Let's change the way we talk about sexual attractions and desires. No matter who or what you're sexually attracted to, this episode is for you.  What can we do with unwanted sexual attraction?  1. Talk about it  2. Understand it  3. Appreciate it  4. Manage it  You're invited to HMA In A Day on Saturday, July 11! This free online workshop will go through the entire Husband Material...

Porn-induced erectile dysfunction is more common—and curable—than you might think. Hear Shawn Bonneteau's story of PIED/ED, why he continued to struggle after years of freedom from porn, and how he finally overcame it. Shawn also shares practical steps to freedom from PIED/ED, including The Thought Model. Download Shawn's free 5-page PDF explaining The Thought Model here . Shawn Bonnetea...

Porn is a pacifier for conflict...with God, with others, and even with ourselves. Learn to embrace conflict in a redemptive way with author and therapist Jay Stringer. I recommend Jay's book more than any other (this is a paid link): Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way To Healing More Resources by Jay Stringer and Drew Boa: The Sexual Fantasy Framework (Free Mini-Course) The Unwan...

Listen to this short clip on repeat to memorize Ephesians 6:10-17. You're invited to HMA In A Day on Saturday, July 11! This free online workshop will go through the entire Husband Material Academy program in a single day. Sign up now at husbandmaterial.com/workshop Support the show Take the Husband Material Journey... Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube Step 2: Join the privat...