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If you’re not attracted to typical porn, have you ever wondered why? In this episode, I explore the roots of my negative association with female sexual parts due to purity culture, parents, peers, princesses, and porn. Books about sex and purity culture (paid links): A Celebration Of Sex , by Dr. Doug Rosenau The Gift Of Sex , by Clifford And Joyce Penner Talking Back To Purity Culture , by Rachel...

What does God think about my face, my gut, and my penis? In this episode, Matt Cline unpacks what the Bible says about our bodies—why they have value, and how we can reclaim the parts we don't like. Matt Cline is the director of Restored Ministries , focused on helping 1,000,000 people live porn-free and powerfully by 2030. He is also co-host of the Pure Victory Podcast . Matt lives in Edmont...

Is there such a thing as healthy shame? How can we heal from toxic shame? In this episode, Dr. Jake Porter shares eye-opening answers to these questions from science and scripture. Dr. Jake Porter is the founder of Daring Ventures and host of the upcoming Choose Connection Online Summit for couples in recovery from addiction and betrayal on March 25-27, 2022. Husband Material is partnering with Da...

What is true vulnerability? Why is it so important? When is it safe? And how can I get better at it? In this episode, I answer all these questions and more... If you want to become more vulnerable with men committed to curiosity and compassion, apply to join an upcoming Husband Material group at husbandmaterial.com/group Resources on vulnerability (including paid links): The Power Of Vulnerability...

Who are you? What defines you? Performance? Porn addiction? Sexual attraction? In this episode, Sathiya Sam reveals the power of having a secure identity, how to strengthen your sense of self, and why he recommends self-care using the 5 love languages. Sathiya Sam is a coach and speaker who helps men live with confidence and integrity. A recovered addict himself, Sathiya is the creator of DeepClea...

"You can't possibly hate yourself more than I love you. You can try, but it ain't gonna happen. You can try, but I have until eternity. You don't. How long do you wanna keep playing this game of the pity party and this shame when I got so much more planned for you?" —Dr. Joe Martin In this episode, Dr. Joe Martin shares his incredible story of God bringing redemption out o...

What's the best way to respond to a relapse into porn, either for yourself or for a friend? In this episode, you'll learn the power of viewing relapse as feedback (not failure), the benefits of a growth mindset (not a fixed mindset), and the 3 types of feedback you must receive. Research mentioned in this episode (this is a paid link): Mindset: The New Psychology Of Success , by Carol Dw...

What is "normal" for survivors of sexual abuse? And what does healing look like? Mike Chapman offers validation and wisdom based on years of research and his personal healing journey. Mike Chapman is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse (CSA), trafficking, and sexual assault as an adult by clergy. He is also an incredible man of God, a powerful encourager, and a Certified Husband Materia...

You have to hear Mike's story. Mike Chapman is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse (CSA), trafficking, and sexual assault as an adult by clergy. He is also an incredible man of God, a powerful encourager, and a Certified Husband Material Coach with over 3 years of freedom from porn. Contact Mike for coaching at polarlifeconsulting@gmail.com Mike also facilitates a free private group for male...

How can I know if I was sexually abused, and why does it matter? In this episode, Dr. Doug Carpenter answers these important questions while opening up about his own early sexual experiences... and how resolving sexual confusion helped him find freedom from gay porn. Dr. Doug Carpenter is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist and professor of psychology. He and his spouse, Mary Carpenter, LMSW are the...

What is healing prayer? What is it (not) about? What can we expect from it? This episode is a must-listen for anyone who is interested in healing prayer, because Leslie Weinzettel offers incredibly helpful guidance on how to pray for one another in a way that is truly healing.  Leslie Weinzettel has been practicing and growing in the ministry of healing prayer for the last 17 years. As a former st...

In this episode, Alex VanHouten shares wisdom about exercise, nutrition, and physical fitness while keeping God at the center of it all. Alex VanHouten is a father, husband, and self-proclaimed fitness nerd. He has served thousands of clients as a health coach, nutritionist, and personal trainer for the past 16 years. He is the owner and founder of the Betterment Company and the Better Daily App ....

How can physical fitness help you outgrow porn? In this episode, professional trainer Alex VanHouten explains why and how strengthening your body can strengthen your sexual integrity. Along the way, Alex shares a wealth of insights from science, Scripture, and his own story of freedom. Alex VanHouten is a father, husband, and self-proclaimed fitness nerd. He has served thousands of clients as a he...

Find out why northern elephant seals are my favorite animal, and how they have helped me unlearn self-contempt. More About Elephant Seals: "Seven Things That May Surprise You About Elephant Seals!" (article by Valerie Shore) Friends Of The Elephant Seal (check out their Live Beach Cam) More Resources To Outgrow Porn: Husband Material Community Husband Material Coaching Husband Material C...

What if everything you’ve been taught about sex has set you up for disappointment? In this episode, Sheila Wray Gregoire explains how sex can become truly great—for both partners. She also unpacks the harmful teachings of "Every Man's Battle" and challenges husbands to make love, not just intercourse! Sheila Wray Gregoire is the face behind ToLoveHonorandVacuum.com , the largest sin...

When is nudity appropriate for men outgrowing porn? How can nudity become healing rather than harmful? In this episode, I will be vulnerable about my own experiences with nudity, and share what I have learned. You're invited to HMA In A Day on Saturday, July 11! This free online workshop will go through the entire Husband Material Academy program in a single day. Sign up now at husbandmateria...

We live in a sports-centric culture. Have you ever felt like less of a man because of this? If you sometimes measure your masculinity based on athletic performance, this episode is for you. Stephen Thomas will explain the concept of "sports wounds," the 3 types of sports wounds, and how to heal so you can become more confident and secure as a man! Stephen Thomas is a husband and father w...

Have you ever felt overwhelmed by stress? In this episode, Marcus Spaur explains the difference between healthy and unhealthy stress, why self-care is not selfish, and how to prepare for stress during the holidays! Marcus Spaur is the founder of Between The Covers Coaching . He is also the Director of Care & Support at Husband Material, and a Certified Husband Material Coach. Email Marcus at m...

Forgiveness is crucial to healing, but so often misunderstood. Get clarity about what forgiveness is (not) with these five truths:  1. Forgiveness is not permission.  2. Forgiveness is not a feeling. It's a choice. 3. Forgiveness is not a moment. It's a process. 4. Forgiveness is not easy or free. It's costly. 5. Forgiveness is not a burden. It's a gift. "Be kind to one an...

Have you ever felt like an orphan? Do you long to belong, but have difficulty trusting others? In this episode, Eddie Capparucci unpacks "the orphan spirit"—what it is, why we struggle with it, and the power of our true identity: Beloved Sons Of The Most High King.  Dr. Eddie Capparucci is a Christian therapist who specializes in the treatment of sex and porn addiction. He's the cre...

The image of God in you is good. In this episode, author and therapist Jenna Riemersma beautifully explains how the image of God can bring healing and freedom to every part of us... including any parts attached to pornography and other unwanted behaviors. Jenna Riemersma is the founder and clinical director of The Atlanta Center for Relational Healing. She is also teaching faculty for the Internat...

If you feel unworthy or unlovable, please listen to this. It's a sermon—the same one I preached at the recent Husband Material Retreat in Santa Barbara. How Jesus Reverses The Curse:  A Case Study From The Life Of Peter  Sermon on John 21 by Drew Boa  Sunday, October 10th, 2021  The Rupture: Peter's unfinished business with Jesus The Repair: Jesus confronts Peter with compassion The Rede...

Play is not optional for outgrowing porn. It's essential! In this episode, Dr. Michael Crocker explains why play supports sexual recovery, and what it looks like to rediscover healthy play as an adult man. Dr. Michael Crocker is the founder and director of The Sexuality, Attachment, and Trauma Project as well as a private practitioner. Michael provides direct clinical services that address tr...

Do you want to feel loved? Then you must remove your filter. Matthew Ray Lyda is here to help us do that... through the power of unfiltered poetry! Matthew Ray Lyda is a Pastoral Sex Addiction Professional who has published a book of poetry (this is a paid link): Recover The Wild: Unfiltered Poems And Prayers . Matthew is also trained as a mental health & life purpose coach. You can email him...

Why do we compare ourselves to others? What is the cure for comparison? In this episode, my dear friend and mentor Michael Tso and I talk about our struggles with comparison... and the powerful antidote of belovedness! Dr. Michael Tso is a Family Medicine Doctor at Alliance Clinical Associates in Wheaton, Illinois. Michael specializes in mental health care with a whole person approach that integra...