How To Love Yourself No Matter What

In this episode, I dive into the challenges of meeting your emotional needs as a sensitive or neurodivergent woman. If you’ve ever felt unseen, misunderstood, or emotionally drained from constantly giving without receiving, this conversation is for you. I share my own journey with masking, people-pleasing, and emotional exhaustion—and why so many of us struggle to get our needs met. You’ll learn h...

We live in a world that constantly prioritizes convenience—fast food, quick fixes, and instant results. But what happens when we take that same approach to our own lives? In this episode, I dive into how we’ve been conditioned to prioritize efficiency over true self-investment and why that’s holding us back from real growth, joy, and fulfillment. If you’ve ever struggled with feeling like an “inco...

In this episode, I explore the concept of soft strength —a way to hold boundaries, advocate for yourself, and navigate difficult situations without aggression or emotional dysregulation. Too often, women are labeled as “too much” when they stand up for themselves or “people pleasers” when they don’t. But there’s a middle ground: a way to be strong without force, and firm without anger. I share per...

In this episode, I sit down with my first-ever life coach, Maggie Reyes, a feminist marriage coach and the author of The Questions for Couples Journal. We dive deep into the social conditioning that shapes women’s lives—how we are raised to be “good” by constantly serving others, often at the expense of our own desires and well-being. Maggie shares her insights on navigating the discomfort of want...

Are you feeling stuck in a cycle of burnout, constantly giving and never taking time for yourself? In this episode, I dive into the concept of *wanting*—why so many of us, especially women, lose touch with our own desires and how to reclaim them.   We’ve been taught that being the “good girl” means putting everyone else first, but at what cost? I explore the impact of this mindset, the necess...

In this episode, I’m breaking down the key differences between coaching and therapy —a topic that often confuses people. While both provide emotional support, they serve very different purposes. Coaching is action-oriented, focused on shifting your mindset, regulating emotions, and taking steps toward real change , whereas therapy tends to focus more on deep emotional processing and past traumas ....

In this episode, I dive into the topic of self-worth, something I surprisingly haven’t covered in depth before—despite this being my 245th episode! I reflect on my podcast journey and how over 130,000 listeners have tuned in, which is incredible. We often feel like we’re not enough, whether in relationships, careers, or personal growth. But the truth is, self-worth is intrinsic—it’s something we a...

Have you ever felt stuck because of the labels you or others have placed on you? In this episode, we’re taking a deep dive into how labels shape our lives—for better or worse. Labels can offer clarity, community, and tools for growth, but they can also hold us back when we use them to justify staying stuck. Together, we’ll unpack why our brains love labels, how to recognize when they’re helping ve...

In this episode, I’m breaking down the truth about confidence—what it really is, why it’s so important, and how you can create it in your life. Confidence isn’t something you’re born with; it’s something you build by starting, failing, and learning along the way. I’ll share my own journey from fear to confidence, why resilience matters, and how to move forward even when it’s uncomfortable. If you’...

[0:00] Welcome and Introduction [2:00] Why Ryanne Chose Coaching Ryanne explains how she felt unsettled and overwhelmed before starting coaching. She shares her experiences with therapy, which helped her understand her past but left her feeling stuck without tools to move forward. After a friend’s recommendation and realizing her nervous system was out of balance, she decided to give coaching a tr...

[00:00] **Why I’m Sharing This Episode** - I recorded this episode on January 1st for my private, client-only podcast. - I’m sharing it here so you can get a feel for my day-to-day support and also to highlight the core message on shifting from goal-setting to vision creation. - I’m hosting a **90-minute Emotional Mastery Workshop** on January 8th, 2025, where I’ll guide attendees to:  - Recl...

In this episode I dive deep into the topic of overthinking. I explore why we overthink, how it affects our lives, and most importantly, how we can overcome it. If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in a loop of obsessive thoughts or struggling to quiet your mind, this episode is for you. I also share exciting details about my upcoming free masterclass on December 30th to help you make 2025 your most...

- **[0:00]** - Welcome and reflection: "Can you believe it's already mid-December? Let’s make this moment count." - **[1:00]** - Today, we’re diving deep into *emotional mastery*. You’ll learn how this transformative process can help you handle stress, build resilience, and create a life you love. --- ### The Big Idea: Every Problem Is an Emotions Problem - **[2:30]** - I’ll show you why emotional...

**[3:25] Getting Started: Why Manifestation?**   - I share a personal update about teaching spin class while recovering from a cold.   - Introduction to the episode's focus: Manifestation.   - Initial thoughts on manifestation inspired by a business coach’s TikTok content.   - Connection between self-love and manifestation as a practical tool.   --- **[8:45] What is Manife...

Curious about what coaching looks like?  This is a real coaching session to help you see what you can expect.  In this episode, I share a live coaching session with a courageous friend from my community. This session provides insight into what coaching can look like and how transformative it can be. You’ll hear moments of teaching, interruption to shift thought patterns, and examples of...

In this episode, we delve into the complexities of gratitude. As American Thanksgiving approaches, gratitude becomes a hot topic, but is forcing gratitude always a good idea? I explore why it’s okay not to feel grateful during challenging times and how embracing intentionality and celebration can create genuine positive emotions. Listen in as I share personal stories, insights from coaching sessio...

In this episode, I welcome neurodiversity consultant Jenine Lillian to discuss their journey to an autism spectrum disorder diagnosis, overcoming societal expectations, and building an inclusive world. Janine shares their unique perspective, emphasizing the importance of self-acceptance, connection, and actionable steps to live authentically. - **[00:00] - Intro and Welcome**   Amanda introdu...

In this episode, I delve deep into my personal journey and share insights on embracing and understanding emotions. As someone who has walked through emotional battles and navigated the ups and downs of diagnosis, I know how transformative it is to learn emotional resilience. We explore the essential nature of emotions, the importance of releasing judgment, and why moving beyond labels can unlock a...

Are you struggling with loneliness, craving genuine friendships, or feeling stuck in the same old patterns? I'm here to help. Join me as we explore the importance of human connection, the challenges of making friends in adulthood, and practical steps you can take to create meaningful relationships. Whether it's through my coaching insights or personal stories, I'm dedicated to helping you break th...

Kathryn's Journey: From Therapy to Coaching Transformation   In this heartfelt podcast episode, I, Amanda, welcome my client Kathryn, who shares her incredible journey over the past year through life coaching. Kathryn talks about her background as a clinical psychologist, the distinctions between therapy and coaching, and how small, enjoyable experiences have led to major life changes for her...

When we start down the road of personal development - we quickly notice that negative self-talk is a problem.  We see that our negative thoughts about ourselves create results that we don't want.  The thing is, we think that what we need is to shut that voice up.  But the problem is that we can't do it.  I'm going to teach you what actually works. Book a free call with Amanda:...

Burnout is something that everybody is talking about. If you think you might be burned out, you probably are. But that doesn't mean that is where you need to stay. Let's talk about it. Interested in working with me? Sign up for a discovery call: https://amandahess.ca Want to join the Love Yourself No Matter What Membership For Free? Join here: amanda-hess.mykajabi.com/loveyourself Come find me on...

Making the decision to change your life can be so much easier than you think.  The only reason decisions seem hard is because we think there are RIGHT decisions and there are WRONG decisions.  But the truth is, you are only one decision away from changing the trajectory of your life at ANY given time.  You don't need more time or more information, you need to learn how to trust your...

Welcome to the Top Ten Podcast Episodes!  Today we start with number 9: How To Love Yourself When You Think You Shouldn't. Self-Love is hard even when we are trying to love things that other people say we SHOULD love.  But what about the things people say we shouldn't?  Learning to love everything about myself, including behaviors that could be viewed as unacceptable, has been the c...

Join me as I walk you through what it was like to be a 48 year old adult in a tiny dress who stepped onto a cold rink and danced and jumped my way through a figure skating program 2 days in a row.  I learned 2 very important life lessons from that experience, and today I am sharing them with you.  Let me entertain you while I also show you how to transform your life.  This is going...