How To Love Yourself No Matter What

You’ve tried it all - podcasts, self-help books, courses. And yet, somehow, you always end up back where you started. The strategies that work for everyone else leave you feeling more broken, more stuck, and wondering what’s wrong with you. But here’s the thing: the problem isn’t your willpower , and it definitely isn’t your motivation. The real issue is that traditional methods don’t address what...

You don’t need a rigid routine — you need a framework that supports your sensitivity, your energy, and your capacity. Let’s design a summer that works for you. On today's Take Back Your Summer free, live coaching call , you’ll learn: Why typical planning advice doesn’t work for your brain How to build flexibility without spiraling A simple strategy to enjoy your summer — on your terms Join the cal...

In this week's episode, I'm addressing something that so many women struggle with quietly: feeling responsible for everyone else's emotions. Whether you grew up as the peacemaker in a volatile home or you've just always been the one who fixes things for everyone, this pattern of emotional enmeshment keeps you stuck in survival mode. You'll discover why trying to regulate everyone else leaves no on...

The expectations are relentless — to plan the vacations, hold the emotions, run the household, keep it all “fun.” Let’s burn that list and make a different one. On today's Take Back Your Summer free, live coaching call, you’ll learn: The truth about sensory and emotional burnout How masking shows up in your daily to-do list How to build a summer rhythm that actually supports your energy Join the c...

You’re not lazy. You’re dysregulated. If you find yourself zoning out, doom scrolling, or avoiding everything — you’re not alone. On today's Take Back Your Summer free, live coaching call , you’ll learn: Why “doing nothing” doesn’t recharge you the way you hoped How your stress response is hijacking your plans A shame-free way to interrupt the shutdown spiral Join the call happening TODAY at 2pm P...

Everyone else seems fine. So why does this season feel so heavy for you? Let’s talk about why your emotional experience of summer is valid — and why it’s not your fault. On today's Take Back Your Summer free, live coaching call , you’ll learn: How your nervous system experiences “freedom” as chaos Why you feel like you’re failing at something everyone else enjoys What’s actually going on when your...

Summer can be a lot when you're sensitive, neurodivergent, or simply wired to experience the world deeply. The lack of routine , constant sensory input , and the pressure to “be fun” can quickly turn what should be a carefree season into a full-blown performance . But here’s the truth: having a burnout-free summer isn't about changing your mindset or pushing through. What you really need is a soft...

When you find yourself scrolling through your phone instead of spending time with family, or lying in bed when it's beautiful outside, your body has figured out something you haven't yet. You are stressed out, checked out, and shut down. In this episode, I explore why so many women feel stuck in shutdown mode, especially during summer when expectations are high and routines are out the window. I b...

Summer arrives with the promise of freedom and relaxation, yet for many of us, it delivers the exact opposite - a whirlwind of overstimulation, unpredictable schedules, and mounting pressure to create perfect memories . If your experience of summer is never as relaxing as you wish it would be, listen in this week.  I share three essential insights for creating a summer that actually works for...

Setting boundaries can feel like a radical and scary act, especially if you've spent years people-pleasing. The discomfort that comes with saying no often feels worse than the exhaustion of constantly saying yes. For those who feel deeply and strongly, this challenge becomes even more complex because you've likely learned to take responsibility for other people's comfort, feelings, and reactions....

Have you ever been told you’re “too much,” “too sensitive,” or simply “not normal”? Those  labels can feel like a life sentence  - but they’re nothing more than stories you’ve been handed. Today, I dismantle the idea that you must hunt down and “fix” what’s wrong with you; instead, I re-frame intense emotions and unique wiring as invitations to understand yourself on a deeper level. I al...

Emotional overwhelm can feel like a  full-body shutdown  - racing thoughts, physical tension, and an overwhelming urge to escape. When these intense feelings take over, it's not because we're broken or dramatic. Our nervous system is  simply doing its job , without proper context for the modern world. As a coach, I see clients trapped in stress responses they can't seem to escape fr...

One extremely common experience among sensitive women is the exhausting push-pull of feeling simultaneously being "too much" and "not enough." Through my own journey and experiences coaching others, I've witnessed how this internal conflict affects our relationships, self-worth, and ability to show up authentically.   In this episode, I share my perspective on why intensity and emotional dept...

Are you an emotionally intense woman who’s ever felt like you’re just too much—or maybe not enough? On this podcast, I help you break free from shame, overwhelm, and the pressure to fit into someone else’s boxes.   I’m Amanda Hess, trauma-informed life coach, and each week we dive into building self-trust, setting authentic boundaries, and embracing who you truly are beyond labels. It’s time to cr...

"I feel guilty after speaking up for myself." "They probably think I'm a b*tch." "I should have said that nicer."   Do these thoughts sound familiar to you? The guilt you feel after stating what you want isn't random or your fault - it's systematic conditioning.   In this episode, I'm breaking down why we feel this pressure to be "easygoing," where the guilt comes from when we advocate f...

Are you constantly smiling and nodding when you really want to scream "No!"? I've been there, too. That feeling of saying yes when your body and mind are begging you to decline is a symptom of something deeper – the good girl narrative that's been ingrained in us since childhood.   The cost of living as a good girl is enormous. We chase external validation, overfunction in every area of life,...

Welcome to the How to Love Yourself No Matter What podcast with Amanda Hess. In this episode, Amanda dives deep into a topic so many of us struggle with: feeling responsible for everyone around us. If you’re the person everyone relies on, the peacekeeper holding it all together, or someone who’s secretly exhausted but scared to stop, this episode is for you. Drawing from her personal experiences a...

If you’ve ever felt like you just can’t handle rejection, this episode is for you. Amanda Hess dives deep into rejection sensitivity—what it is, where it comes from, and how it affects the way we think and feel, especially for those who are neurodivergent or have experienced trauma. Key Takeaways: What is rejection sensitivity? Amanda discusses how rejection sensitivity is the tendency to feel rea...

We say we want peace, but what we really need is emotional safety —the ability to be with ourselves, feel any emotion, and know we can handle it. This 18-minute episode dives into a truth that’s often overlooked in the self-help world. Peace isn’t about having a quiet life—it’s about having a strong inner world. 🧠 Timestamps & Key Takeaways: 00:00 – 01:45 📍 Why “peace” isn’t what you think i...

Burnout isn’t just being tired or overwhelmed—it’s what happens when your nervous system is totally tapped out. This episode is a wake-up call and a reframe. I break down what burnout really is, what it’s not, and how to start healing without adding more pressure to your already packed plate. [00:00–01:25] 📍 Let's reframe burnout I kick things off by calling out the biggest misunderstanding about...

This episode is more than a conversation—it’s a reclamation. LT Dixon joins me to share a deeply personal, powerful journey of healing, self-discovery, and radical self-love. From surviving abuse to raising five kids as a single mom, LT didn't just rebuild her life—she reinvented her identity. Together, we explore what it actually means to put yourself first without guilt, why so many women feel r...

Ever feel like nobody truly sees you or hears you—like you’re speaking, but it’s not landing? In this episode, I’m sharing a personal story that cracked this experience wide open for me. If you’re neurodivergent, highly sensitive, or just someone who’s been labeled as “too much,” this is going to resonate deeply. We’ll explore what it actually means to feel unseen and unheard, why this is such a c...

Episode Summary: Do you ever find yourself holding back from feeling hope—because deep down, you're afraid of being disappointed, let down, or even embarrassed? You're not alone. In this episode, we explore how learning to build emotional capacity for hope is essential to living a life that feels meaningful, connected, and aligned with who you really are. You'll learn why hope isn't just a feel-go...

In this episode, I thoughtfully explore the importance of making peace with our past selves as a key element of self-love and personal growth. Through my own personal experiences and insights, I share how embracing compassion toward past versions of ourselves, rather than judging or rejecting them, allows for genuine healing and deeper self-understanding. Recognizing our past selves as doing their...

Even in paradise, self-judgment can follow us. In this short and honest episode, I share insights I’m having while in Hawaii—about why being somewhere beautiful doesn’t automatically make self love easier, and how we often carry our inner critic with us no matter where we go. I talk about what real self love looks like, how to practice it in everyday moments, and why your circumstances are never t...