How To Love Yourself No Matter What

Belonging is one of our most basic human needs — but what if the biggest thing standing in the way of feeling like you belong isn’t other people… it’s you? In this episode, I break down why rejection feels so painful, how micro-rejections accumulate over time, and why so many of us unconsciously reject ourselves before anyone else ever gets the chance to. We explore how rejection is an emotion (no...

If you’re listening to this in January (or any other time of the year) and feeling heavy, flat, emotional, or quietly overwhelmed — this episode is for you. January 1st is supposed to feel hopeful. Fresh. Motivating. But for so many women, it actually brings pressure, comparison, and a deep sense of “I should be feeling better than I am.” In this episode, I’m unpacking why January 1st can feel so...

As the year comes to a close, many of us are taking stock — not just of what we did, but of who we believe we are . In this episode, we’re talking about self-concept : the thoughts and beliefs you hold about yourself, how they were formed, and how they quietly shape your emotions, relationships, and choices — often without you realizing it. So many of the things we believe about ourselves feel lik...

Feeling is part of being human. Suffering is not. In this episode, Amanda breaks down the crucial difference between  feeling  emotions and  suffering  because of them. You’ll hear a raw, honest reflection on what it’s like to try to “hold it all together,” why doing more never actually fixes emotional overwhelm, and how learning to slow down is the real way out of suffering. T...

What most women call  overwhelm  or  anxiety  is often something deeper:  emotional burnout  — the kind that happens when you’ve spent years trying to  tolerate  your emotions instead of learning how to  expand your capacity  for them. In today’s episode, I’m sharing a private training from the podcast I create exclusively for my clients. We’re bre...

The holidays bring  everything  — family dynamics, overwhelm, expectations, pressure — and underneath it all is the fear of speaking up in a way that feels good. In this episode, we break down what a boundary actually  is , why it feels so hard to set one, and how fear and nervous system dysregulation keep you stuck in people-pleasing or emotional shutdown. You’ll learn how to ident...

If you’ve spent your whole life trying to “think more positively,” “change your mindset,” or “just stop spiraling,” this episode is going to shift everything for you. Because here’s the truth most sensitive women never get taught: Thoughts are not facts. They never have been. But when your nervous system is dysregulated (Part 1) and your emotions feel too big to hold (Part 2), your brain grabs the...

If you’ve been trying to “fix” your overthinking by changing your thoughts, but nothing ever seems to stick, here’s the truth: You don’t have a thought problem — you have an emotion problem. When your emotions feel too big, too fast, or too overwhelming for your system, your brain does the only thing it knows how to do: it starts thinking harder. It analyzes, spirals, replays conversations, imagin...

Overthinking isn’t a flaw — it’s a survival response. If your brain feels like it never shuts off, if you replay conversations, worry about every decision, or try to anticipate every possible problem before it happens — this episode is for you. When your nervous system has been running in survival mode for too long, overthinking becomes your body’s way of trying to keep you safe. But the truth is,...

What if everything you’ve been told about being “too sensitive” is wrong? In this episode, I share a deeply personal story from my early motherhood — the exhaustion, the misdiagnoses, and the moment I realized that I wasn’t broken… I was sensitive. For years, I tried to “fix” myself, believing that my emotions were the problem. But the truth is, sensitivity isn’t a weakness — it’s a form of wisdom...

Did you grow up in a house where everything had to be someone's fault? That type of environment creates a specific kind of wiring in your brain. The spilled glass of water that turns into chaos , the constant need to assign blame , the walking on eggshells - these experiences don't just disappear when you become an adult. They show up as that relentless inner critic , the exhausting need to contro...

When your heart feels like it's been shattered into pieces and the pain consumes every moment of your day, you're experiencing something that every human being knows intimately : heartache. In this episode, I'll walk you through my Love Yourself No Matter What method - a three-part process that helps you regulate your nervous system , process the emotion in your body, and decide what to believe ab...

Most of us have been taught that jealousy is wrong, and that we should never feel it. But rejecting a normal human emotion only makes it come back louder and more destructive. In this episode, I share my own experience with jealousy and shine a light on the hidden connection between feeling threatened and speaking poorly about others. You'll learn ways to regulate your nervous system, reduce your...

Most of us think the point of a goal is to achieve it. But what if the real purpose is  who you become along the way?  When I laced up my skates, put on a sparkly costume, and stepped onto the ice to perform in front of judges, I thought the goal was the medal. What I learned instead was that the goal was there to help me meet every part of myself— the scared, the brave, and the resilien...

Goal setting triggers panic for so many of us. The fear of not meeting expectations , the pressure of deadlines , the looming possibility of disappointment - it's enough to make anyone avoid setting goals altogether. But what if the real problem isn't the goal itself, but our relationship with failure along the way? Tune in to hear my four-step process for moving through fear and failure with comp...

So often we believe that a better relationship depends on our partner changing. But the truth is, the real work starts with you . If you’ve ever felt stuck giving too much , overcompensating , or constantly managing the relationship on your own, this episode is for you. I share practical ways to start building self-love as a standard in your life, how to navigate guilt or frustration when it arise...

Beating yourself up might feel productive , but it's actually keeping you stuck in the same painful patterns. The real work of healing from trauma isn't about fixing all your problems or thinking positive thoughts. It's about developing self-love as a skill —a feeling you can generate in your body that becomes the fuel for different actions. In this episode, I'm sharing why the skill of self-love...

Life moves in seasons, just like the world around us. Summer turns to fall, winter melts into spring, and nature shows us how to flow with change . Yet in our own lives, we often fight those shifts —pushing ourselves to stay in “summer mode,” always productive, always busy, always trying to feel amazing . In this episode, I’m sharing how to honor where you are right now and use each season to your...

Do you feel like no matter how hard you try, life just keeps letting you down? Like  you’re stuck in a cycle of disappointment  that seems impossible to break? If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. But chronic disappointment doesn’t have to be the way you live forever .  In this episode, I’m showing you how to shift out of this cycle and  finally experience the joy an...

As a culture, we don’t know how to grieve . We’re expected to keep it together, stay strong, and move on, even though grief is one of the most universal human experiences . The truth is, when no one models how to grieve, it’s easy to feel lost, broken, or like you’re “doing it wrong.” In this episode, I’m opening up about my own experiences with grief - the loss of my mom, my mother-in-law, and ev...

Feeling misunderstood is exhausting. When you’re worried about being too much or too hard to read , it’s easy to slip into performing instead of simply being yourself. And during summer, when social situations ramp up, that pressure to change or fit in can feel even heavier. In this episode, I’m talking about why advocacy feels so hard and why our nervous systems often default to people-pleasing i...

Emotional safety is more than just a buzzword. It’s the foundation for healing and thriving in every area of your life. But for many women, creating emotional safety can feel like an abstract idea. And honestly, it wasn’t until I really started to dig into it as a coach that I understood what it truly meant. In this episode, I break down why emotional safety isn’t about being calm or waiting for o...

If you’ve ever felt emotionally overwhelmed, mislabeled, or unsupported by traditional systems, this space is for you. I’m Amanda Hess, a trauma-informed life coach, and I’m here to help you reclaim your true identity beyond clinical labels and build radical self-trust. In each episode, I share honest conversations, practical tools, and stories that will help you create emotional safety within you...

Do you always think that you're the problem? Are you constantly trying to be more perfect? Are you angry at others and don't quite know why? In this episode, I'm exploring how internalized shame shows up in our everyday thoughts and behaviors, often disguised as perfectionism, resentment, or self-criticism. You'll discover practical ways to recognize shame when it arises, understand why it can't b...

Self-trust starts to erode when you’re constantly beating yourself up over past mistakes. But lack of self-trust isn’t a character flaw . It’s conditioning . And the key to building radical self-trust isn't about eliminating negative thoughts or becoming perfect. It’s about learning to hold two truths at once: yes, those conditioned thoughts are loud and familiar, and yes, you can still build trus...