How To Love Yourself No Matter What

We often only tend to our nervous system when things have gone haywire.  Like when we are having a panic attack or when we lose our shit on a loved one.  We think we should focus on the behavior.  But it's been my experience that focusing on this never helps, proactively soothing your nervous system does.  Today's episode breaks this down and gives you exactly what you need to...

When you have a BPD diagnosis, Love can be confusing to navigate.  But it doesn't have to be.  I know a few things about love that are going to change the way you think about it from this point forward.  Even if you don't have a BPD or EUPD diagnosis, this episode might change how you look at love for the rest of your life.  Because you deserve love, my friend.  Let me sha...

Fear.  It's a challenging emotion that can keep us from the life we really want.  There is a lot of advice out there on how to overcome fear.  But I want to offer you an alternate way to deal with fear: Work WITH it.  Learning how to work with fear and move through fear by partnering with it can change your life.  Take a listen and let me know what you think. Book a call t...

As women, we have had "don't be selfish" drilled into us since birth.  But I guarantee that if you are currently feeling dissatisfied and unfulfilled by your life, it means that you are not taking any time for YOU.   If you want to change your experience of your life, it's time to get A LOT more selfish.  Listen in to find out more.   Book a call with Amanda: amandahess.ca/book...

Trauma with a capital T often comes along with a Borderline Personality Disorder Diagnosis.  And a lot of times this trauma is founded in both our upbringing and subsequent romantic relationships.   In today's podcast I am sharing a part of my trauma with you, so that I can demonstrate how to move forward into an incredible romantic relationship after trauma and abuse.  If you yearn...

I was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder over 10 years ago and I tried all the different kinds of therapy.  But in trying to figure out my own "cure" I stumbled upon coaching.  It turns out, it helped me change my entire life.  Today I am sharing exactly what you need to do to do the same thing.  Your life can be so much better than you think. Borderline Personality...

When you have negative thoughts, it can be tempting to think that the way to fix your life is simply to start thinking positive.  And that would be great, if it was that simple.  But it isn't.  In fact, if you have been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, it might just be impossible.  You don't need to get rid of your negative thinking to change the results in your...

When you have been diagnosed with BPD, you probably have a pretty good library of things you have said and done that you think are pretty unacceptable.  Maybe you've thought it or even other people in your life have said it.  I too have done and said things that I have come to regret, but I have learned that the secret to changing unacceptable behavior is to stop focusing on the unaccept...

Emotional hangovers are painful.  What they really are is shame.  Shame wants to hide but hiding will never heal.  The truth is that emotional hangovers  are perpetuating lies that we tell about ourselves and our lovability and self-worth.  This episode is going to help you dispense with emotional hangovers for good. I opened up 4 Discovery Sessions this week, book here: h...

It's easy to believe that because you have been diagnosed with a disorder, it means that this is something you are going to have to deal with for the rest of your life.  And that sounds as terrible to me as it probably does to you.  The truth is, I don't believe that identifying your problems as being a result of your disorder helps anyone.  Today I'm going to break your brain a lit...

So often we are raised to believe that there is a "right" way and a "wrong" way to do our lives.  We are taught to be authentic but to not be "too emotional".  We are taught to follow the rules and not color outside of the lines.  But then we become middle aged adults and are told that the only way to succeed is to hustle to point of failure.  It's not surprising that we freque...

Self-Love is hard even when we are trying to love things that other people say we SHOULD love.  But what about the things people say we shouldn't?  Learning to love everything about myself, including behaviors that could be viewed as unacceptable, has been the catalyst in changing my life.  Take a listen to discover how loving the things you don't like about yourself could change yo...

If you have Borderline Personality Disorder, suspect you do or you know somebody that does, you know that a fear of abandonment comes up often and is frequently the cause of extreme reactions caused by extreme emotions.  Whether you have Borderline or not, this episode is going to explain why we are so fearful of being abandoned, even if we know it's illogical and what to do to reduce the imp...

Just because your emotional response is something other people don't understand does not mean that you are abnormal.  In fact, I would argue that your emotional response makes perfect sense and is totally human based on your life experience thus far.  Instead of solving the "problem" of your emotional reaction, let's start meeting you where you are at. I have started a new support group...

Welcome to Season 2!   It's easy to look at my life now and not consider the life I had then.  It's interesting to note that circumstantially my life was "good" 10 years ago.  I was married, I had 2 small kids, I owned my house, I had a loving family, but the truth is: The difference is what was going on in my BRAIN.  I was dying inside of my own perfect life.  I was on an...

Having a bad day?  Feel like you are getting it ALL wrong?  Feel unloved, unworthy, stuck, confused or just plain bad.  This episode is for you. Want to find out more?: https://amandahess.ca/bookacall/ Interested in working with me? Sign up for a discovery call: https://amandahess.ca Want to join the Love Yourself No Matter What Membership For Free? Join here: amanda-hess.mykajabi.c...

Losing our shit on our family is a common thing - so much so that there are entire memes dedicated to this problem.  Yet, it is also our dirty little secret.  Today I am sharing WHY we lose our shit and HOW to stop.  It's not what you think.  Take a listen and tell me what you think! Want to book that free call with Amanda?  Book that here: https://amandahesscoaching.as.me...

A LOT of us struggle with being TIRED.  In fact, so many women tell me that they are EXHAUSTED.  So today, I brought an expert onto my podcast to talk all things energy.  You might be surprised by some of what Tanessa shares, it's not all just going to bed earlier or convincing yourself that you're not tired.  Have a listen and tell me what you think! MORE about Amanda: amandah...

Failure.  It's not a dirty word, but we treat it like one.  We WANT to get good at failure because it is the way to success.  If you are failing, the truth is, you are on the right track.  I know that might sound crazy, but my ability to fail fully, has deeply impacted my satisfaction with my own life.  So take a listen, and let me know - are you ready to go out and fail m...

Vera is my newest addition to the podcast interview series, and I hope you are ready to be struck by inspiration.  Vera is a past client, a coach, a colleague, a friend and person who is dedicated to personal self-growth and helping others   Vera used coaching to upgrade her mindset and finally break free of self-doubt.  She is one inspiring human, and I can't wait for you to have a...

I will never forget the day that the psychiatrist told me that I had Borderline Personality Disorder.  That day is seared in my memory for life.  What I heard: THERE IS SOMETHING WRONG WITH YOU.  It took me 15 years and finding a really great coach to find out that wasn't true.  I was told that my emotions were the problem.  They were not.  I have learned how to work...

Today I am talking all things marriage with MY Marriage Coach and very first Life Coach: Maggie Reyes.  Maggie changed my life, she is one of the greatest humans that I have ever had a chance to meet, and it's my distinct honor for you to be able to meet her here on the podcast.  She shares a lot of wisdom about life, love and marriage in this episode.  Grab your favorite drink, a p...

There is a common misconception in the world that women should not experience and should never exhibit signs of feelings like rage, anger and frustration.  So it makes sense that when we experience these emotions in their most extreme state, we are ashamed to admit that they get the better of us.  The truth is, we women experience constant hormonal changes throughout our lives, and these...

When I met Robyn, she felt stuck.  She knew she was unhappy and unfulfilled and she was ready for change.  Investing in coaching was scary for her, but she also knew she didn't know how to get herself out of this rut.  Her story is inspiring and she goes on to show us how you can actually change the entire trajectory of your life in just 6 months. Do you want this kind of change? &n...

I know this episode title is a mouthful - to be honest I used to cringe when somebody used to say "the patriarchy" to me.  But the truth is, the way we think is highly influenced by the society we grow up in.  Does this mean we have to "burn down the patriarchy?"  - NO.  But it does mean that we want to be aware of what we think and understand why we think it - YES.  What...