How to Find (& Keep) a Gay Man

Episode 15 is part one of a two-part series called, “Body-Ody-Ody.” Part one, “Learning to Love Our Bodies as They Are” will lay the groundwork for a two-part discussion about body image within the gay community. Our guest, Nando Rodriguez, is a Breakthrough Coach in New York City working with entrepreneurs and helping them reduce their imposter syndrome and crush self-sabotage. He shares his pers...

On episode 14 of the How to Find (& Keep) a Gay Man podcast, join us for, “The Power of Therapy: How Doing the Work Can Change Your Life.” If you’ve been listening, no doubt you’ve heard the Matts casually throw around the phrase, “Get a damn therapist.” In this episode you’ll find out why. This discussion takes an in depth look at why therapy can be a gay man’s salvation, as well as how both...

Grab a pen, because episode 13 is all about content. We’re talking about “Situationships.” We’ll be covering: 1. The 5 identifiers that you’re in a situationship, not a relationship. 2. When is a situationship a good thing? 3. Is it possible to transition our situationship into a longterm relationship? (And if so, how do I communicate this desire respectfully?) 4. Settling for situationships when...

Open Relationships: Good or bad? A blessing or curse? A reliable way forward or an accident waiting to happen? Over two-thirds of married or partnered up gay men in the LGBTQ+ community are involved in open relationships. But are they working? The Matts openly discuss the pros and cons of open relationships. Will it work for you? Are you a strong candidate for an open relationship? What to watch o...

Episode 11 breaks flirting into three categories. 1. Flirting and Dating What’s appropriate and what isn’t. What you think is working that could be working against you—subtle versus sexy. Building confidence. Using flirting to generate more than just sexual interest. 2. Flirting with Your Boyfriend, Partner, or Spouse It doesn’t stop when you’re in a relationship. Flirting with your significant ot...

In episode 10, the Matts discuss the do’s and don’ts of gay-dating. They talk about what to do leading up to a date, during a date, and after a date. Also, how to be PROACTIVE once you've made a connection with Mr. Right, and how retooling your dating practices can help you find a meaningful love. -How to have fun -Opening ourselves to men who aren’t our type -Who pays? -Not taking rejection perso...

Get ready for $7,000 of therapy in one podcast episode. In this episode of How to Find (& Keep) a Gay Man, the Matts interview Alicia B. Bridgeland, Clinical Psychologist. They ask all of their gay relationship questions about intimacy, open marriage, the problem with a hookup culture, how to keep "novelty" in your relationship, etc. Alicia also explains the four personality "Brain Types," how...

In one of their most powerful episodes, the Matts tackle the issue of Shame . They break it down into 3 categories: 1. How it got there. 2. How it’s impacting our personal and romantic lives. 3. How we get rid of it. Why does shame continue to dramatically affect our lives in negative ways? Why do we continually go back to those bearers of shame in our lives who do not accept us for who we are? (p...

In Part 2: “Better Together,” The Matts discuss the benefits of looking at your partner through the lens of “unconditional positive regard.” They also dig into the difference between perpetual and solvable problems in a relationship, dealing with our egos, and how to know when a relationship has run its course. Episode 7 focuses heavily on what it takes to KEEP a gay man. For more bitchy wisdom, f...

On episode 6 of How to Find (& Keep) a Gay Man , the Matts take on the subject of “Breakups.” Matt H shares how “the four horsemen of the apocalypse” can take your relationship down, while Matt B opens up about the hardest breakup of his life. Also discussed; HOW to breakup the right way, building a breakup survival kit, and knowing when it’s time to take the relationship off of life support a...

Episode 5: “Art Thou Ready to Receive?” The Matts discuss the inner self-saboteur and how to manage his attempts to undermine our growth. What it means when there is a pattern to our breakups and the importance of knowing “our part” in where things went wrong. The problem with always looking for “the next best thing.” And coming to a relationship with the correct posture. For more bitchy wisdom, f...

On episode 4 the Matts do a deep dive into the usual (and not so usual) things that stand in the way of finding and keeping a gay man. Lack of confidence/worthiness are discussed, as well as location, location, location. They also explore how remaining “discreet” could be keeping you stuck. And finally, how we need the support of chosen family most of all. For more bitchy wisdom, follow on INSTAGR...

On episode three of How to Find (& Keep) a Gay Man, the Matts discuss how to make your dating profile pop ! They’ll be sharing what TO do and what NOT to do when building your profile; everything you need to know to lure a good man into your clutches. For more bitchy wisdom, follow on INSTAGRAM & TIKTOK To watch the podcast, follow them on YouTube Or check out the How to Find (& Keep)...

In episode 2, the Matts discuss what it actually means to be a soulmate, and their belief that beyond an act of fate (over which we have no control) is a much more direct path to our forever man. They also discuss what it takes to be ready to receive this kind of love. For more bitchy wisdom, follow on INSTAGRAM & TIKTOK To watch the podcast, follow them on YouTube Or check out the How to Find...

In the pilot episode of How to Find (& Keep) a Gay Man, Matt Bays and Matt Heincker make their introductions, discuss the purpose of the podcast, and tell their personal stories of how they found (& kept) their gay men. For more bitchy wisdom, follow on INSTAGRAM & TIKTOK To watch the podcast, follow them on YouTube Or check out the How to Find (& Keep) a Gay Man website.