Highly Sensitive, Happily Married

030   Being willing to ask for what you want from your husband, whether it’s help with chores, or time to connect with him, is simply an essential part of feeling supported in your relationship.  Many women, though, have resistance to asking for what they want, or simply go about it in ways that aren’t very successful, and then end up feeling discouraged, resentful, and unsupported in their marria...

029  If you’re a sensitive woman who loves connection and wants to feel closer to your partner, this episode is for you. There is so much connection available to us in our intimate relationships. And yet so many of us aren’t experiencing it --often, tragically, to the point that many women question if their relationship is worth continuing. But it’s most often not that connection is unavailable in...

028  To get what we want in our marriages, many of us HSPs unconsciously fall into using some tactics that...backfire. In this episode, I share what those are and dive deep into 2 of my personal old go-to’s: blame and criticism.  They were at the heart of my first marriage's demise. From my end. I want to help you to avoid that experience.  Blame and criticism can be sneaky, and insert themse...

027   Very often, as humans, we go about trying to improve our marriage backward: we're more focused on changing our partner than changing ourselves. But focusing on him isn’t where you pack the most punch for actual change! There is a more effective, easier, and more rewarding approach to improving your marriage, where you actually have powerful influence to have the loving, connected, suppo...

026    What allows us big success in one area, and not in another? The answer has to do with not just what WE THINK matters most to us, but what we prioritize with our actions.  When we truly value something, we put it at the forefront of our lives. Getting clear on this is key to success in our lives and marriages.  Sometimes, through no fault of our own, we unconsciously undervalue the things th...

#025  I am celebrating this 25th episode of the podcast with a very special guest: My hubby!  We get really open and honest and share what is great and not so great in our marriage-- so you can learn from us and make your marriage more loving and amazing. We dive right in and discuss: What it’s like for my husband to be married to an HSP-- the challenges and the joys. What an HSP brings to the rel...

024   What makes you lovable? Can you make yourself more lovable? Is it your fault if your husband isn’t finding you irresistibly lovable? Do you have to EARN his love? Or are you totally lovable right now?  Maybe it's not so cut and dry. Come find out in this episode. If you ever: have trouble saying no,  or worry about your partner getting upset,  or get defensive,  or take things personall...

#023   In this episode, I talk with Julia McGarey, the Life Coach for Parents of Highly Sensitive Kids, about how we sensitive parents can raise healthy happy kids AND have great marriages at the same time.  Although it can often feel like a great marriage and happy children are mutually exclusive, they actually can go hand in hand.  Tune in to learn how to make that the case for you and your fami...

#022  In this important episode (the last of the 3 part series about experiencing your man as a great partner),  learn exactly what to do to start encouraging your spouse to be and do more of what you’d like him to, while feeling so good about yourself--like you’re being the loving sensitive partner you want to be, too! With stories to illustrate and inspire you, what I offer you in this episode w...

#021   In the 2nd installment of this 3 part series, you will bring back some of the warmer feelings that form the basis of a truly lasting loving marriage.  Despite what we’ve been told, lasting juicy love and romance aren’t just a result of the right “chemistry”. They are built on a foundation of friendship, respect and admiration for each other.  Even in the healthiest of marriages, those are t...

020  This is the first of a 3-episode series that will help you start experiencing your man as a great partner, and have you feeling more affection and connection in your marriage. You want to love the person you’ve chosen to spend your life with. You want to love your relationship. But that may not actually be your experience much of the time. Instead, you feel hardened towards your partner. Unha...

#019  For highly sensitive people, who can tend towards perfectionism and getting overwhelmed easily, the idea of doing the work to improve your marriage can feel daunting and like just too much.  Especially if you are recognizing that you have some work on your end of things and feel you’re not doing things “right”, or you're feeling a bit discouraged that things aren't changing as fast...

# 018   When my client Lauren first came to me, she felt anxious about her relationship and all the hard emotions and conflict that was coming up. She was waiting for “the other shoe to drop”, and in need of lots of reassurance from her partner that she was loved and things were going to be alright. It was not a dynamic that led to security and feeling close to the man she loved. These days things...

#017   What we sensitive people believe about our marriages, partner, and the things that go on between us deeply impact our relationship.  In this episode, I share 10 beliefs that will truly improve your marriage in the best of ways (and what things will be like if you don't believe them--you may be able to identify yourself here). These beliefs have made all the difference in my own marriag...

016    If you feel any form of emotional suffering in your relationship--like discouragement, resentment, disappointment, hurt, annoyance, anger you don’t have to just live with it. Making your marriage a place that feels like a nourishing, joyful, safe space to come home to, instead of a cluttered, stressful, constricting  or lonely place, starts with being willing to look at what’s REALLY going...

015   Today I bring you a fresh perspective on love --one that will allow you to feel so much more love in your marriage. We love love. Unless we have some misconceptions about it, which many people do. I know I used to, and it actually made it so I experienced LESS love than I was able to. A whole lot less. I used to think if my husband did things I didn’t like, and I still felt lots of love for...

014   You may have caught on already, but let’s bring this into sharp focus: You shape your emotional experiences SO deeply.  This is the best news EVER. Because it means you have so much more power over how you feel in your relationship--and how the relationship goes-- than you've ever known. It’s time to learn to access this power--what I call Emotional Agency. In this episode, you’ll delve...

013  Today I have a powerful tool for you that you can start applying right away to limit a lot of the unnecessary pain and negative emotion that may be going on for you, so you can and start to have so much more influence over your experience in your relationship. It’s a go-to tool I use regularly in my own marriage. Your brain is a meaning-making-machine. It creates meaning automatically. This m...

012  Because you live in our world, HSP or not, you are making this mistake--at least to some degree some of the time, unless you’ve done deep work around it already.  Though it seems all innocent and well-intentioned on the surface, it’s a mistake that leads to way more heartache and strife than necessary...that’s why it’s so sneaky.  Listen in to this episode to hear personal stories and tips to...

#011 If you’re cranky, snappy, frazzled or overwhelmed a lot… Or you’re feeling numb, down, or aren't able to connect to love or warmth or affection... If you don’t have much interest in being around or touching your partner… ...You may be in what I call a Mind-Body-Heart-Slump (MBHS). Clearly, having a thriving marriage (or life) is out of reach when we are in a MBHS. Unfortunately, many of...

If you are a normal HSP, you feel irritated and annoyed at your significant other sometimes. Maybe a lot of sometimes…And likely more so in these times, love in the time of corona….with perhaps your only social outlet being your partner! Even in normal times….there are many reasons for this. Especially for the sensitive soul.  But feeling annoyed a lot is an all too common struggle and makes a pre...

My highly sensitive client, Jade, was having a very rough time with her man, taking things personally, feeling angry at him much of the time along with a lot of blame and resentment. And he was not being very proactive about improving things. She wasn’t sure the relationship could work.  Luckily, she listened to her inkling that maybe she could shift the tides by making some changes herself.  Afte...

#008   You didn’t get married to just tolerate your relationship. You signed up for something way better than that. You want to truly enjoy your marriage. But sometimes “working” on your marriage can feel like another tiring chore--one that you’re all alone in. If you’ve ever felt that way, or asked yourself,  “ Why do I have to be the one to put effort into this relationship ?”, you likely aren&a...

#007   If you’ve ever felt like your man doesn’t love you enough, or you long for a kind of connection with him that feels ever-elusive, this episode will help you really understand that it is not because of who you are. It’s not that he doesn’t love you. Actually, it’s not even about you. Not understanding your partner’s inner world is no surprise--he’s likely quiet or mum about it. But once you...

#006 If you often --or even just occasionally-- feel feelings of frustration, anger, resentment, or hurt in your relationship,  or conflict is common, this episode is key for you. In it, you will develop an essential understanding of where so much of the upset, hardship, and pain comes from in your marriage,  and how to start loosening its grip.  As humans, whether highly sensitive or not,  we all...