High Level Wife Podcast with Chelsey Holm

Send us Fan Mail Learn how to make space for and support the mission in your family. You bear your husband's authority, not to mention the power of the newness of life by the Cross. Walk in your authority and identity on SUBmission in your marriage! Support the show Chelsey Holm | the Wife Coach " I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God’...

Send us Fan Mail What are you focusing on that is showing up as complaint in your life? Dive in with Chelsey on the topic of complaint and how it's a bigger thing than you think. Plus 2 passages that give warnings on the devastation of complaining. Support the show Chelsey Holm | the Wife Coach " I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God’s...

Send us Fan Mail What did you expect when you got married? Those unmet expectations are the seed of resentment that drains your marriage of the tender love you once had for your husband. Learn to ditch the expectations and have a right view of God, your spouse, and yourself in marriage. You'll feel so free, you won't even believe it! Support the show Chelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "...

Send us Fan Mail Your eyes and ears are the gateway to your mind- what you fill it with is what then overflows from your heart through your words and actions. So what or who is getting your attention? Is it your husband? Or is it your phone?  Let's bring awareness and shift the atmosphere to deeper connection in marriage, sister! Support the show Chelsey Holm | the Wife Coach " I help Ch...

Send us Fan Mail Happy Mother's Day! (a few days later since I recorded this earlier this week- I like to extend the fun, ya know) Update on the 5k with Emma this past weekend and sorrow over remembering a decade ago when I wanted my kids and husband just to leave me alone for Mother's Day.  If you've felt this- you're not alone. But also, it's time to actually enjoy your...

Send us Fan Mail Remember when you saw all the good things in your man? You saw it and then you said it to him. I bet that man felt like he was 10 ft tall and could move mountains for you.  Let's bring this back into the atmosphere of your marriage, sis! Support the show Chelsey Holm | the Wife Coach " I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to...

Send us Fan Mail Anyone can serve your husband; only YOU can enjoy him and delight in him. Let's dive in and bring awareness so you can make some powerful shifts in your marriage today! Support the show Chelsey Holm | the Wife Coach " I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God’s design in marriage, motherhood, and life. " First step? G...

Send us Fan Mail HLH and HLW cut out alcohol and other substances early in the program which is harder for some than others, but it's necessary. Why? Substances take the edge of discomfort off and inhibit oneness, unity, and growing up that is necessary for vulnerability within marriage. Also, if you aren't the one who has or is working on giving up substance reliance, you must put on a...

Send us Fan Mail We recently had new friends over for dinner and she sent us a text after saying "Thank you so much for having us over tonight!!! We loved hanging with you guys. Your home is so full of love and so healing (which we know is Him!) but it was so beautiful to see. We can't wait to hang again!"  What do people experience when they walk into your home? Wife, you have the...

Send us Fan Mail I was co-leading a mediation session between a hurting Christian couple last week, and the Spirit kept urging me to see this husband's lonely heart, to see this wife's hurting heart, and to help them see each other for the first time as 2 broken, hurting, but redeemed people.  In in this episode, Chelsey challenges you to put off division and to pray the hard prayer that...

Send us Fan Mail Did you know that 66-75% of young adults raised in the faith, walk away from the faith in their years following leaving the nest? Rather than the allure of being exposed to all new stuff they didn't previously have access to and now they do, might it be a LACK of witnessing the fruits of marriage God's way in their own parents' marriage that led to a disconnect in f...

Send us Fan Mail How you obey the Father today, informs how you submit within your own marriage. You will not flourish in marriage God's way until you learn obedience from the right heart posture to God first.  Chelsey dives into Israel's obedience to the Lord in the book of Numbers and how this overflowed from their fear of the Lord. This same heart posture is the key to submitting with...

Send us Fan Mail Vows say "for richer, for poorer" but when 70% of couples argue about finances... and money is consistently ranked as one of the leading sources of conflict in marriage- the reality is radically different from the original intent. Financial disagreements are a very strong predictor of divorce, and when it's "often" it's nearly 3x more! Chelsey dives d...

Send us Fan Mail While implementing these rules for communication won't address the root issues of your marriage, it WILL help you move faster in the SAME direction towards healing and oneness.  In this episode, Chelsey shares 3 rules she and Zach implemented and still use today! Support the show Chelsey Holm | the Wife Coach " I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and...

Send us Fan Mail Galatians 1:6-9 reveals the highly likely reason for where you are in marriage today: Anything that is Jesus+this or Jesus-that is a false gospel that keeps you stuck, frustrated, in conflict and not walking free.  Dive into the one, true gospel and be free! You have received mercy; now walk free in it! Marriage is ground zero for this sanctification process to be magnified so you...

Send us Fan Mail A passive husband doesn't look weak; he actually looks like this...  Support the show Chelsey Holm | the Wife Coach " I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God’s design in marriage, motherhood, and life. " First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect.  👉🏼 Access...

Send us Fan Mail Listen to the recap of 7 ways God ministered to Chelsey's heart during a recent time of feeling a little downtrodden and be encouraged too!  God is SO good!  Support the show Chelsey Holm | the Wife Coach " I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God’s design in marriage, motherhood, and life. " First step? Grab the 30...

Send us Fan Mail Has your marriage become too serious? And that has overflowed to the bedroom? It's time to bring back the fun, laughter, excitement, and intimacy God's way!  Chelsey shares some ways to keep it light and fun as you delight in one another, tasting and seeing God's goodness! Support the show Chelsey Holm | the Wife Coach " I help Christian wives surrender fully,...

Send us Fan Mail How often do you run back to the Lors in times of trouble, but quickly grow complacent in times of ease? That used to be me too!  Our marriage breaking was what made me go running back to the Lord and to stay rooted in Him ALWAYS from that point onward. Over the years, the Lord has taught me the power of the weapons I have in Him. Weapons that ACTUALLY destroy strongholds and is D...

Send us Fan Mail I thought this would be the shortest episode ever because I wanted to go all Truth, no love of: "If you refuse to forgive others, your Father in heaven will not forgive you." And then the Holy Spirit gently nudged me (punched me in the face) and reminded me of the love part... So let's dive into forgiveness and letting go God's way wrapped in both Truth and lov...

Send us Fan Mail Take a peek into my morning car ride convo with my youngest, Bo, about the goodness of God, how He is the Giver of good and perfect gifts, and how we can ask Him for things. If you think God is a genie or a distant dad- you need this episode! Short, sweet and so powerful! Child-like faith, let's go! Support the show Chelsey Holm | the Wife Coach " I help Christian wives...

Send us Fan Mail If you love biblical study from the perspective of God's unchanging character, specifically how we see that thread from OT to NT, you'll love this deep-dive on "minister" and "ministering". THEN we bring it all home in how this functions within covenant marriage, and specifically physical intimacy. *we're digging into original Hebrew and Greek, p...

Send us Fan Mail My dad told me for years that leadership can be really lonely when you're pouring into others. It reminds me of Moses leading the Israelites.  You know me- always sharing the messy middle, showing my cards, and challenging you with an invite to learn right along with me. God didn't make us for isolation- that's where the enemy wants us.  Support the show Chelsey Hol...

Send us Fan Mail If you're honest, what patterns have emerged around initiation and follow through? For Chelsey, there were decades of opening the door only to close it, creating a pattern of rejection and denial. This isn't God's design for intimacy! Let's dig deeper into the importance of follow through from a right heart posture and understanding of intimacy and desire God&a...

Send us Fan Mail How we approach intimacy MUST flow from the RIGHT order! This allows us to be filled from the vertical to then overflow to the horizontal. If we approach from the WRONG order, we get stuck in low level "fixes", box checking, and wrong heart posture. Learn how to stop filtering physical intimacy through your flesh, and start learning sex within covenant marriage in the Sp...