High Level Wife Podcast with Chelsey Holm

Send us Fan Mail What has your attention right now? Because whatever consistently has your attention is shaping your heart. In this episode, we’re exploring one of the most powerful principles in spiritual formation: attention shapes affection. We’ll talk about why the enemy fights for your attention, how what you repeatedly notice changes your marriage, your parenting, and your relationship with...

Send us Fan Mail Why does God care so much about being first? Because whatever comes first shapes everything that follows. In this episode, we’re unpacking the biblical principle of first—from Genesis to Matthew 6—and discovering why seeking God first isn’t another box to check but the foundation for peace, wisdom, and right order. When God has your first attention, every other decision begins to...

Send us Fan Mail What if God isn’t withholding an answer… what if He’s building your foundation? So often we bring God questions about decisions, timelines, relationships, parenting, or the future, while He’s inviting us into something much deeper: seeking Him first. In this episode, we’ll unpack why God often focuses on the condition of our hearts before the circumstances around us, what the wild...

Send us Fan Mail What you reach for first every morning reveals what is leading your heart. In this short episode, we’re talking about why right order isn’t a religious routine- it’s the foundation for daily surrender. If you’ve been feeling reactive, overwhelmed, or spiritually dry, this simple shift could change everything. Support the show Chelsey Holm | the Wife Coach " I help Christian w...

Send us Fan Mail START HERE: Learn the Biblical Feminine Methodology. Go from carrying it all to free From exhausted, stressed & overwhelmed to relaxed, present and flourishing From disconnected & hurt to deep intimacy and healing But this isn’t your typical marriage tips: this is Holy Spirit transformation that starts with right order and full surrender. You’ll learn to: Die to self! Be r...

Send us Fan Mail Communication isn't the deepest issue in most struggling marriages. Repentance is. In the final episode of this series, we're talking about the uncomfortable but freeing truth that transformation begins when we stop asking God to change everyone else and invite Him to search our own hearts. We'll unpack why communication tools can never replace surrender, why repent...

Send us Fan Mail God is a God of order, and when our lives drift out of His design, we often experience unnecessary overwhelm, frustration, resentment, and exhaustion. In this episode, we're talking about what right order actually looks like in everyday life. From putting God first to stewarding yourself well, prioritizing your marriage, and leading your home with intentionality, you'll...

Send us Fan Mail Peace isn't something you buy. Joy isn't something you chase. Self-control isn't something you white-knuckle. They're all fruit. In this episode, we're diving into John 15 to discover what Jesus actually meant when He said, "Abide in Me." We'll explore why so many wives are trying to produce the fruit of the Spirit while feeding the flesh, h...

Send us Fan Mail What if the reason you keep feeling stuck isn't because you lack peace—but because you've been chasing relief instead? In this episode, we're unpacking the difference between temporary relief and the lasting peace that only Christ produces. We'll talk about why we reach for quick fixes when life feels overwhelming, the difference between rest and escape, and wh...

Send us Fan Mail What do you reach for when life feels overwhelming? For some wives it’s scrolling. For others it’s shopping, food, busyness, wine, supplements, endless productivity, or simply staying distracted. This episode isn’t about condemning a product or a habit. It’s about asking a deeper question: What are we asking created things to do that only Jesus can do? We’ll explore the modern cou...

Send us Fan Mail Do you love Jesus, love your family, and still feel anxious, overwhelmed, overstimulated, and like you’re constantly carrying the weight of everyone else’s world? In this episode, we’re diving into the story of Martha and Mary in Luke 10—not to shame busy wives, but to uncover what Jesus was actually addressing. Martha wasn’t rebuked for serving. She was anxious, troubled, and dis...

Send us Fan Mail This vulnerability series isn’t ultimately about communication. It’s about the Gospel applied. In this episode, Chelsey Holm unpacks God’s design for intimacy through vulnerability—not just so couples can feel closer, but so they can become one, reflect Christ, and live on mission together. From Genesis to John 17 to the fragrance of Christ in everyday life, this conversation will...

Send us Fan Mail You want to be vulnerable… but what do you actually say? In this episode, Chelsey gives you the practical framework to express hurt, loneliness, rejection, overwhelm, and disconnection in a way that creates intimacy instead of conflict. If you’ve ever found yourself blaming, shutting down, over-explaining, or hoping your spouse can just “figure it out,” this episode will help you...

Send us Fan Mail Women often think they’re being vulnerable because they’re talking. Explaining. Processing. Venting. Sharing every detail. But sometimes all those words are keeping the real heart hidden. In this episode, Chelsey unpacks the feminine side of vulnerability and why so many wives communicate around the wound instead of revealing it. You’ll learn how self-protection can show up throug...

Send us Fan Mail Learn how male vulnerability often shows up in unexpected ways—and how understanding the heart underneath your husband’s behavior can help rebuild intimacy, connection, and oneness. What if your husband is more vulnerable than you think… you just don’t recognize it? In this episode, Chelsey breaks down the masculine side of vulnerability and why many men reveal their hearts differ...

Send us Fan Mail Discover why vulnerability feels so difficult, what you’re actually protecting, and how trusting God allows you to move toward deeper intimacy, healing, and connection. If vulnerability is the pathway to intimacy, why is it so difficult? Why do we want connection but pull away? Why do we long to be known yet struggle to reveal what’s really happening inside of us? In this episode,...

Send us Fan Mail Discover why vulnerability isn’t sharing more information- it’s revealing what’s true, and why that is the foundation of intimacy, connection, and oneness. You can talk for hours and still feel disconnected. You can share your schedule, your plans, your frustrations, and everything that happened during your day… while never revealing your heart. In this episode, Chelsey  unpacks o...

Send us Fan Mail Some wounds didn't start in your marriage. They started years earlier. Childhood rejection, abandonment, criticism, betrayal, disappointment, neglect—and then marriage has a way of exposing what was already there. In this episode, Chelsey shares why deep wounds often create deep patterns of self-protection, how God uses marriage to reveal what He intends to heal, and why heal...

Send us Fan Mail Learn the five shifts that help couples tear down walls, rebuild trust, and move from self-protection to true oneness in marriage. 🔥 Most couples don’t wake up one day disconnected. The distance happens slowly. One hurt.  One disappointment.  One misunderstanding.  One act of self-protection at a time. Before long, walls replace vulnerability, pride replaces humility, and couples...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever found yourself reacting more strongly than a situation seems to warrant? Maybe it’s fear, frustration, anxiety, defensiveness, or discouragement. You know what God says, yet you still find yourself stuck in the same patterns. In this episode, Chelsey explores how past hurts, disappointments, and survival patterns can quietly shape the way we respond to our present ci...

Send us Fan Mail Learn how old receipts from your past may be shaping your present reactions—and how God uses surrender, renewal, and new experiences to rewrite the story and create lasting transformation. What if you’re not reacting to what’s happening right now? What if you’re reacting to a receipt from years ago? The husband who feels unwanted.  The couple stuck in the same argument.  The woman...

Send us Fan Mail Learn how to identify the subconscious self-protection keeping you stuck, surrender it to God, and move toward deeper intimacy, healing, and oneness in marriage. “I forgave… so why do I still react this way?” Many couples find themselves stuck in a frustrating cycle: they want connection, intimacy, trust, and oneness, yet something inside keeps pulling the brake. In this episode,...

Send us Fan Mail Most couples think conflict is what destroys intimacy. It’s not. Self-protection is. A husband jokes instead of admitting he feels rejected. A wife withdraws instead of admitting she feels hurt. One pursues. One avoids. Different behaviors. Same root. Self-protection. In this episode, Chelsey unpacks the hidden ways self-protection shows up in marriage, why God often uses marriage...

Send us Fan Mail Many couples think they have a communication problem when they actually have an ownership problem. When hurt, frustration, loneliness, and disappointment go unnamed, it's easy to fall into blame, defensiveness, criticism, and distance. But emotional intimacy grows when two people learn to take ownership of what they're feeling, anchor themselves in truth, and move toward...

Send us Fan Mail It’s not challenging for our brains to remember all the times we were hurt. Why? It’s a self protection mechanism. But self protection and oneness cannot coexist.  So the world says cut off what hurt you and forget about it! That’s not biblical. We see time after time examples of God Himself commanding the Israelites to REMEMBER what He did, where He rescued them from, how He prov...