HER Dating & Relationship Secrets

Friends who are single and in a couple often stop seeing each other as much — why? Barry reviews the feelings of discomfort, not fitting in, social pressure and other challenges that separate friends along the single-coupled divide. He then gives solutions for singles and couples to hang out together so both benefit from one another. Diverse friendships are important for having healthy, empowered...

Don’t Put Your Life On Hold (No More Waiting!)

Barry describes the increasing phenomenon of abstract loss: the feeling of losing connection despite logically knowing the person is there. This happens when a date or partner are physically present but emotionally elsewhere (like paying attention to their phone or thinking of something else). Barry gives examples and, of course, immediate actions and solutions.

Barry explains why dating and relationships are a rollercoaster of emotion. What fuels these extreme highs and lows? How do we get off the rollercoaster? Barry answers both questions.

Is Age important in dating and relationships? Barry pulls back the curtain on how it is not the age but the stage that matters. He gives three examples of how different stages can mean different priorities and values. He shows how your age and a partner’s age do and don’t matter. Listen up!

Barry describes the three steps to communicating your needs: Identify, Give Yourself Permission, then Use the ‘I-We-You’ template to communicate them. You deserve to have your needs met and to express them with ease!

Barry discuss the decision of whether to block an ex on social media. We explore factors like length of relationship, social and professional context, whether it’s emotionally healthy to be connected, and how to assess what you really need here.

Barry talks about making a new start: how this is possible for single people to break old dating patterns, and for people in relationships looking for their relationship to improve or possibly end — a new start can mean many things. Barry covers how to renew your dating and relationships bu making a new start and showing up differently today!

Barry describes all the ways to create connection. He goes through the various types of connection with self, and others, sharing lots of ideas to use for feeling more connected and loved.

In this powerful, deep episode Barry walks us through “Conditional & Unconditional Love”! He explains the difference, starting with our childhood and parents, then describes how this shows up in dating and relationships for us as adults. He shares a path for realistic love that is accepting and meets our needs!

In “Hidden Fear (That Must Be Identified & Released)” Barry shows how our hidden fears disguise themselves and destroy dating and relationships — he teaches how to identify forms of hidden fear and gives multiple examples of how it shows up when meeting, dating amd in long term relationships with people.

Barry explains why the smarter you are, the harder dating and relationships can be. He gives two examples and an approach to moving from our head to our heart.

Do You Change Yourself For Love?

Barry describes the hormonal effect of cuddling and being held through oxytocin, it’s impact on creating a healthy relationship, and how single people and people in relationships can maximize cuddling and being held. He also mentions the main blocks and wounds that get in the way of having lots of cuddling and being held.

In “Parents (How They Affect Your Relationships Today)”, Barry explains the power of the parent-child relationship on our dating and relationship pattern. He covers the origin and mechanisms if how we inherit those patterns and beliefs and gives several actionable exercises to become aware of your parents’ effect on you and how to handle it!

Barry details how to feel free while dating or in a relationship — how to untether yourself from worrying or being restricted by other people’s opinions, judgement or reactions. How to worry less, stress less, and be carefree and yourself!

Barry explains how most relationship and dating problems start as small, incomplete conversations and how to have a complete conversation!

In “Focus Determines The Quality Of Your Dating & Relationships” Barry shares the three arenas of focus: self talk, meeting and dating, and partnership. He shares how to focus more on what is positive and right than what’s negative and wrong, while still staying in reality.

Forgiveness

Barry explains how knowing what you need in a relationship drives your relationship pattern. It begins with your met and unmet needs as a child, in your parents’ template, and continues into adulthood. He shares how we often have one top need we are conscious of, but a different subconscious need — which leads to partners and relationships that aren’t what we want them to be. Barry explains how to...

Barry describes “How A Man’s Relationship With His Mother Affects Your Relationship With Him”. He walks through Mother-Son relationship dynamics that can impact his relationship with you. Barry shares two valuable questions to consider about his Mom and the relationship blueprint he learned. Plus, a key thing to look at to decide if he is healthy or toxic.

Self-Worth and Healthy Relationships - I am Worthy of Love!

Barry describes how empowered dating & relationships depend on the power of choice, backed by action. He gives examples in dating and relationships of how past choices and subconscious choices affect our relationships, and of how making a powerful choice looks: choosing to let go of what we had previously been choosing, and taking an action to implement that choice. This is a key episode and conce...

It’s SO important to have a break from our driven, busy lives! Barry describes how giving yourself a FULL day off of tasks and emotional responsibility and worrying is important and restorative! Single people beed this space to re-fill their own cup, and attract a healthy partner. Those in relationships need it to find space for re-connection with each other! It is so healing amd energizing — list...

We all need love. Barry Talks about the various forms of love we need early in life, and throughout our life. He gives examples of lack of love and it’s impact on us. He then shares a simple exercise to increase the love in your life. If you want and need more love, this episode is for you.