HER Dating & Relationship Secrets

In “The Way Into A Man’s Heart (To Be The Only One In It)” Barry shares the biggest mistakes people make when wanting a man to love them, how to avoid those mistakes and how to be the ONLY one in a man’s heart! You cannot miss this episode.

Good Friends & Family, Bad Advice

Barry describes how to assess a partner who deserves you — he shares Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh’s 5 elements of a thriving relationship and how to change your focus from your partner or potential partners traits to whether you and this person have these 5 elements in your dynamic.

Barry describes why Self Awareness determines your chances of a reality-based, healthy relationship. He describes how men are usually raised to have lower self awareness in certain areas, and how to spot it in a man. He then explains how to create your own self awareness, reduce your blindspots and strengthen your relationship with yourself, and others! Don’t miss this one. Without self awareness,...

Barry delves into how our childhood attachment style affects our adult relationships! He also offers a special gift at the end!

Barry covers “How A Man Shows You He Loves You”. He walks through the different ways men express love, the difference between sincere love and him just saying and doing things to get what he wants, and how to tune in to your love radar.

Barry describes how to know if a man will actually change.

Barry gets into detail about ‘Type A’ Personality Men. Why they are attractive to many women. What it’s like to date them and be in relationships with them. What’s really go on inside them, and what’s really going on inside you.

Barry explains how our body environment and it’s health affect our dating and relationships through things like energy level, stress, irritability, appearance, confidence, sexual chemistry, illness and others. He offers a simple, quick action to take today to ensure you are healthier so you can have a healthy, empowered relationship. Listen up!

Barry dissects the different ways your Father figure can impact your current dating & relationships — he gives examples of Fathers who were not present, present but dysfunctional, present and “perfect”, and the current ways your pattern will show up. These include being a rescuer/fixer, have abandonment triggers, safety and control issues, comparing men to an unreal standard, and more.

Getting Out Of Your Head (Stop Over-Thinking)

Barry explains how and why we can think the grass is greener on the other side: single people yearning for a partner, couples yearning for a different partner or to be single. He shares how to begin assessing if this is a healthy intuition or an unhealthy one, then describes the concept of Fantasy Contamination and balancing reality with fantasy. Also, he shares what to focus on to help us stop co...

Barry shares how to meet new men or connect with the man you are with. This is a simple change in approach that makes it much easier for a man to connect with you!

Barry shares the secret to having men REALLY listen to you. It’s bot complicated, but we are usually unaware of this as we speak. He also gives you a fun way to practice this!

Barry shares a powerful concept that neuroscience has revealed. Object Constancy is a developmental stage that affects emotional attachment — Barry describes what it is, how it develops, how it can contribute to fear of abandonment and anxious attachment style if not fully developed, plus how to see what your level of object constancy is and how to improve it.

Barry goes deep into the topic of “Bringing The Best Out In A Man”. He covers how to do it, what works, what doesn’t, doing it while meeting & dating new men, doing it with a long term partner, how Man-Mode can be activated simply, and the main subconscious blocks, beliefs and wounds that get in the way. This is a must-listen if you want to be treated well.

Barry cuts right to the chase and gives you one quick exercise to prevent disappointment with men!

Barry describes how a case of the “What Ifs” damage dating and relationships. He describes how our minds are trained to worry about future pain and fear based on past wounds and trauma. Then he gives us a way to separate the unhealthy What Ifs that are just past wounds from the real present moment situation, and how to take action when real issues are present now.

Barry describes the experience of asking ourselves, “Is He Worth It?”. Whether it’s a single woman deciding if it is worth the time and energy to go out on a date on a weeknight, or a woman in a relationship asking if the person she is with is worth the sacrifices and tolerations, Barry explains how to handle the situation. This episode ends with an action-focused question for you to ask yourself!...

Barry shares about the role of laughter in dating and relationships. He discusses how it can be sought out in a partner to compensate for an imbalance in our own life, or can be used positively in attraction and dating, or as a very healthy component of a long-term relationship. He explains how to incorporate healthy laughter into your dating and relationships.

Barry explains “The Real Reason People Don’t Have The Relationship They Want (And What To Do About It)”. He gives examples of this overlooked, underestimated factor then teaches an exercise that will help you solve it.

Barry explores the common worry “Does he love ME or my ____?” (Money, Looks, Status) and gives two solutions.

Barry discusses how studies show self-reported ‘wants’ tend to be inaccurate in dating, and the importance of distinguishing wants from needs to have a healthy relationship. This helps avoid narcissists and people pleasers, creating an equitable dynamic based on self knowledge and what really matters most.

Barry explores the different stages of “Living Together & Living On Your Own” as a single person and a person in a relationship — each one can bring up emotional needs and fears. He details these and what to do to experience the joy, love and connection of living together without losing yourself in the process.

How Relationships Are Like Investments. Barry shares how to invest your heart wisely.