Helping Couples Heal Podcast

A note to our listeners: We want you to know how sorry we are that it's been so long since we released a podcast episode. Please know that you've been on our minds and in our hearts; it's just been a particularly crazy busy time for us and we're doing our very best to meet the needs of all of our clients, staff, and listeners. Sadly, there just isn't enough time in the day. Ple...

In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, author and transformational journalist Neil Strauss joins Marnie and Duane once again to continue their conversation about his personal journey of betrayal and healing and the transformative work that changed his life.  Part 1 https://helpingcouplesheal.com/the-truth-a-conversation-with-neil-strauss/

In this episode of Helping Couples Heal, Marnie and Duane, explore why betrayed partners often still don't feel safe even after sexual recovery has been achieved. 

In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane respond to a listener's request for guidance about couple therapy, including when it is and isn't clinically recommended and the indicators that it is too soon or not soon enough. Betrayed partners commonly report that they have been pushed to do therapy as a couple early on in the process before they are ready and while...

In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane talk with Stan Tatkin - clinician, researcher, teacher, and developer of the psychobiological approach to couple therapy (PACT) neuroscience and the role of attachment theory in healing betrayal and relational trauma.   Please listen carefully to every word of this interview if you are someone who has betrayed your partner and c...

In this episode, Marnie and Duane discuss the unique and often challenging process of finding the "right" help in the aftermath of betrayal. They stress the importance of a collaborative and systems-focused approach to relational helping and address the potential pitfalls of using a non-relational model, including further trauma.

In this episode, Marnie and Duane address the topic of grieving during the holidays, when loss and grief are often felt more acutely. The holiday season, which extends from Thanksgiving to the beginning of the new year, is a very long stretch of time when there is an expectation of celebration and joy. This can feel very incongruent for those in recovery from betrayal and relational trauma because...

In this episode, Marnie talks to Ryan Angulo, a Los Angeles based Polygrapher who she has been working with since 2008. With differing opinions amongst treatment professionals and clients alike about the efficacy of polygraphs in the context of sex addiction and betrayal trauma recovery, traumatized couples are often left confused, frustrated, and uncertain about whether or not to include the poly...

This episode of the HCH podcast focuses on the shame many betrayed partners' experiences related to their decision to stay in the relationship with the person who betrayed them. In this conversation, Marnie and Duane conceptualize the shame of staying as another burden partners must bear in the aftermath of the discovery of betrayal.   You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at helpingcou...

In this episode, Marnie has an uncensored and candid discussion with New York Times bestselling writer and transformational journalist Neil Strauss. Neil talks openly about his sex addiction recovery journey as chronicled in his book "The Truth: An Uncomfortable Book About Relationships" With humor, humility, and honesty, He shares many of the lessons he learned in treatment, including the...

In this episode of Helping Couples Heal, Marnie and Duane talk with Dr. Rob Weiss, a clinical sexologist and the Chief Clinical Officer at Seeking Integrity in Los Angeles. In his book "Out of the Doghouse; a Step by Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating," Rob offers concrete steps men can take to rebuild trust, restore intimacy, and heal relationships traumatized by betra...

In this episode, Marnie and Duane share and address a listener's question about the role of empathy and emotional attunement in healing relationships traumatized by betrayal.  More specifically, they conceptualize shame as a barrier to relational healing and explore the importance of shame reduction in treatment.  You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at  http://www.helpingcouplesheal.c...

In this episode, Marnie and Duane discuss why emotional attunement is a necessary component for relational healing and why the" right words" without a felt sense of compassion for what your partner is experiencing and feeling just isn't enough.  They also explore the role of empathy in emotional attunement and why compassionate empathy is crucial to healing partner and relational traum...

In the final episode of a 3-part interview with Dr. Omar Minwalla, Marnie and Duane continue the conversation about integrity abuse disorders and gender pathology in the context of betrayal trauma. You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at  http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/ Learn More About Our Helping Couples Online Workshop at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/  

In this special edition of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane speak to those impacted by betrayal about the added stress and trauma caused by the current global crisis and the importance of social connection during a time of physical distancing and isolation. You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at  http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/ Learn More About Our Helping Couples Hea...

In the second of a series of three interviews, Marnie and Duane continue their conversation with Dr. Minwalla about integrity abuse disorders; the clinically significant deficits in integrity and patterns of psychological, emotional and relational abuse which cause complex trauma symptoms in betrayed partners.    

In the first of a series of three interviews with Dr. Omar Minwalla, Marnie and Duane explore the impact of emotional and psychological abuse in the context of betrayal trauma and explain how this kind of abuse is part of a larger problem that Dr. Minwalla calls an integrity abuse disorder. You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at  http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/ Learn More About Our Hel...

In this episode, Marnie and Duane interview "Marsha and Michael" about their relational recovery journey in the aftermath of sex addiction and betrayal. With incredible vulnerability, they share with us how they survived and healed from relational and betrayal trauma To protect their anonymity, we have changed their names and used software to disguise their voices.    You can find out more...

Marnie & Duane discuss why it is so difficult to rebuild trust after betrayal. You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at  http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/ Learn More About Our Helping Couples Heal 2-Day Workshop at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/  

In this interview of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane speak with our colleague Dan Drake, LMFT, CSAT-S about the process of the formal therapeutic disclosure. We discuss and explore the value of disclosure and its impacts on recovery from betrayal and relational trauma. We address some of the most common questions and discuss the importance of safety and therapeutic support in th...

In this episode, Marnie and Duane speak with Stefanie Carnes about the evolution of the partner trauma model and the necessary shift from the codependency model in treating betrayal trauma. You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at  http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/ Learn More About Our Helping Couples Heal 2-Day Workshop at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/  

In this episode, Duane and Marnie will introduce and explain the fourth (other) circle and explore how it changes the treatment for both partners and promotes relational healing for couples impacted by betrayal trauma. The Three Circle Plan originated from Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA) and has been effective for years in helping sex addicts achieve and maintain sobriety. However, in a field that con...

In this episode, we discuss universal partner trauma responses and explore how the discovery of betrayal creates a crisis for the entire family system.   You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at  http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/ Learn More About Our Helping Couples Heal 2-Day Workshop at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/  

In this episode, we talk with John & Jane (not their real names) about their recovery journey through betrayal and relational healing and how the trauma model changed the trajectory of their healing.  This episode is filled with hope for those who are still suffering.   You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at  http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/ Learn More About Our Helping Couples Heal...

In this episode, we interview Dr. Omar Minwalla, Clinical Sexologist, licensed psychologist and founder of The Institute for Sexual Health about his compulsive-abusive-sexual relational disorder model.  Dr. Minwalla explains how his model significantly changes the treatment of betrayal and relational trauma.   You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at  http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/ Lear...