Helping Couples Heal Podcast

In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane discuss setting goals and intentions for the new year and the difficulty that might arise in the process when thinking about and planning for the future for couples trying to heal their relationship after betrayal. Our intention for all of our listeners as you begin the new year is healing and peace. 

In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane talk with Jake Porter of Daring Ventures about trauma, addiction, secure attachment, grief and loss, and how to reconstruct a relationship that has been traumatized by betrayal. We discuss how couples can create new meaning in their relationships after betrayal and the importance of working together to develop a shared collabora...

In the face of betrayal, healing may seem like an impossible task for male partners.  Male betrayed partners are often overlooked in the treatment of betrayal trauma. In this episode, Marnie and Duane address the challenges that male betrayed partners face in the aftermath of betrayal and emphasize the need for support in their healing process.  Men are often taught to be strong and emotionally st...

In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, hosts Marnie Breecker and Duane Osterlind emphasize the importance of adopting a restorative justice model when healing a relationship after betrayal. They advocate for moving away from a punitive mindset and instead focusing on healing, repairing the harm caused, and fostering understanding. The hosts address common misconceptions, such as the...

In this episode, Marnie and Duane welcome Stan Tatkin back to the Helping Couples Heal podcast to continue their discussion about healing relationships after betrayal and to talk about his new book In Each Other's Care: A Guide to the Most Common Relationship Conflicts and How to Work Through Them.  This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking to understand how to create relationships base...

In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane talk about being responsible for your healing and what that means. While building a treatment team is critical for successful recovery and healing, advocating for yourself is equally important.  Therapy/therapeutic coaching is a collaboration and partnership between the treating professional and the client/clients.  Learning to...

In this episode of The Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane talk to Ted Bunch, author, educator, activist, lecturer, and Chief Development Officer at A Call to Men, about the collective socialization of Men, the "Man Box" and how these social constructs directly impact our lives and relationships and, specifically, infidelity, betrayal, and sex and pornography addiction.   Since...

In this episode of the Helping Couple Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane talk with author Stephanie Sarazin about her book "Soulbroken: A Guidebook For Your Journey Through Ambiguous Grief," written in the aftermath of her own experience of intimate betrayal. Frequently, betrayed partners report intense feelings of grief as a result of the discovery of betrayal. Grief is a word we are all fami...

In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane talk with Carol Juergensen Sheets (AKA Carol the Coach) about Help. Them. Heal., her newest book about helping couples heal their relationship after sexual betrayal. She also shares about the Early Recovery Couples Empathy Model (ERCEM) and how she trains professionals in this model to help them in their work with clients in mov...

In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane talk with Gemini Adams, Trauma Recovery Specialist, Educator, Author, and HCH Coach, about the importance of including somatic practices in the treatment of Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (C-PTSD). Talk therapy and coaching have tremendous value and are often much-needed resources for individuals suffering from mental he...

In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane bring you part 2 of their conversation with Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt. Harville and Helen talk about the history of IMAGO dialogue (now called Safe Conversations) and share their social vision of moving from an individualistic civilization to a relational civilization as the next stage of human social evolution. Th...

In part one of this special episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane talk with relationship experts Harville Hendrix and Helen  LaKelly Hunt about their relationship history, the struggles that almost led to divorce, and how these experiences gave birth to the co-creation of Imago Relationship Therapy and more specifically the Imago Dialogue that they now refer to as Safe Conv...

In this episode of Helping Couples Heal, Marnie and Duane answer a listener's question about how to live in limbo, without safety, after choosing to stay in a relationship after betrayal.   https://helpingcouplesheal.com/ https://helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/

In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane talk with Zoe Kors, certified Sexolgosit and HCH's resident Sex and Intimacy Coach, about healthy sexuality and sexual integration in the context of healing from betrayal and relational trauma.   Here is the link to the Sexual Reintegration Online Self-Guided Course. https://helpingcouplesheal.com/reintegration-course/

In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane discuss the biology of partner trauma responses through the lens of attachment theory and safety. Conceptualizing partner trauma from this lens allows those who have betrayed to learn the necessary relational skills to help heal. In this short but informative episode, Marnie and Duane address the complexities of healing from bet...

In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal Podcast, Marnie and Duane talk with a couple about how the HCH couples community has profoundly changed and transformed their relationship. As Corrie and Pat reflect on their experience, Marnie and Duane discuss the importance of community and connection in healing from betrayal trauma.

We hope you enjoy this special edition of the Helping Couples Heal Podcast. This is a repost of an interview on Sex Help with Carol the Coach where Carol interviewed Marnie about the Helping Couples Heal Online Couples Community and why community is so important for couples recovering from betrayal trauma. To learn more about the community, click the link below. https://helpingcouplesheal.com/help...

In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Duane and Marnie answer a listener's question about what to expect further along the recovery road for a couple recovering from betrayal trauma. What does moving forward look like after early tasks such as disclosure have been achieved? What's on the other side? Should there be more to compensate for years of acting out and integrity abu...

In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane discuss the importance of full transparency in a relationship traumatized by betrayal. Often we hear from hopeless partners who are in so much pain because after the discovery of betrayal, there remains a lack of integrity, specifically when it comes to full transparency.   Full transparency allows a partner to move from a place...

In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane discuss the importance of managing expectations around the time it takes to heal relationships after the discovery of betrayal.  Learn more about our workshop: https://helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/ Learn more about our online couples community: https://helpingcouplesheal.com/helping-couples-heal-online-couples-community/

In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane discuss the topic of shame, the greatest obstacle/barrier to healing relationships after betrayal.  It is crucial that a betraying partner be accountable for their betrayal; shame doesn’t accomplish that. Shame makes healing much harder, perhaps impossible.  What accompanies shame most often is the feeling of hopelessness becaus...

PLEASE READ BEFORE LISTENING: Please be advised that we will be talking about sexuality in this episode and, at times, will be using graphic language that may be triggering or bring up uncomfortable emotions for some. The content of this episode will not be appropriate for those of you who have recently had discovery, are in acute trauma or crisis, and/or have not yet (or have just started) to wor...

In this episode, Marnie and Duane discuss the topic of pornography, specifically in the context of betrayal. This episode isn't a moral debate about pornography. Instead, it is a candid discussion about the traumatic impact of discovering a secret sexual life on an unknowing partner. "It's just porn" is often used as a way to minimize the damage or pain experienced by the partner w...

In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Duane and Marnie discuss how the compartmentalization of trust can hinder relational healing and further traumatize a betrayed partner.   While many betrayers are able to understand why their partner can no longer trust them when it comes to sexual and relational fidelity, many do not understand why their partner is no longer able to trust them...

In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane address therapeutic separation in the context of betrayal and relational trauma, a topic often talked about but not often understood. They discuss everything from what it is and what it is not to why a therapeutic separation can feel threatening or scary and why (if used correctly and with professional support and guidance) it c...