Help Them Heal-with Carol the Coach

There are lots of issues  for men about masculinity and comparison. Today, Carol the Coach is talking with Masculinity Expert Dr. Doug Carpenter, who has identified the term "Non-AlphaMale which he will be explaining on todays's show. The social perception of masculinity is very black and white: one is either an Alpha Male or a Beta Male, and there can be no variation. However, this is not the rea...

Sex Addicts can be inandated with resentments that have fueled their sex addiction. 12 Step programs like SA or SAA typically address resentments during the 4th step of recovery. Tonight, Carol will be interviewing Andre who has actively worked his program and wants others to know why it is important to manage them as they come up in your relationships.

Tonight, Carol will be interviewing Nick Stumbo, who has his own personal story of  hope and healing from Sexual Addiction. He believes that men and women need to find support, understanding and grace from thier church.  He is going to talk about the fundamental principles of healthy sexuality and freedom within the church climate. He uses Pure Desire Ministries to help people find fellowship and...

When people experience abandonment, they are much more likely to develop addictions that numb the pain. Carol the Coach replays this show to help you understand how this creates an issue with attachment that feeds into your addiction.

What does a partner's healing look like after the initial crisis subsides? What is needed when she is past the initial shock?  Tonight, Carol the Coach interviews Lyschel Burket, who knows both personally and professionally.   After years of working with women who have navigated betrayal in their marriage and her own healing journey,  Lyschel is familiar with the question "what's next?" So many wo...

Clint Davis wants to be able to talk about the balanced approach to therapy that he believes is imperative to creating real change in sex addicts. His treatment modalities include  massage therapy, chiropractic care, a dietary modifications, to engage the client in looking at all aspects of his life. He explains, "We believe that working from a trauma informed model can help people make lasting ch...

Arrest is one of the most terrifying moment of your life.  Family members may be shocked, numb, or in denial.  It is  difficult to come to terms with and when the arrest is for a sexual crime, there is additional shame and stigma.  This experience can lead us to isolation and loneliness. Prison CONversation was created to deal with the shame and isolation of criminal charges and imprisoment. Tonig...

Carol the Coach is interviewing Rebecca Maestas, LMSW, CCPS-c who uses a Couple Centered Recovery Model with her "2 Connect " groups. She has developed two groups that provide a Help. Her. Heal foundation including having the partners attend sessions at the end of the group for relational repair. The partners can seperately atttend a group to promote their healing and prepare them for the 2 Connec...

Boundaries in Sex Addiction Recovery are essential to preventing relapse. Dr. Crystal Hollenbeck is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist, an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, an APSATS Certified Clinical Partner Specialist, and a Certified EMDR Therapist. She is going to define what boundaries are and the important role they play in Sex Addiction Recovery for the addict. She will discuss 15 Boundarie...

Tonight, Carol the Carol, will be interviewing Judy Kelly, who is a CSAT, and has found it extremely helpful to use the Help. Her. Heal. book to assist addicts in helping their partners heal. She has made the techniques her own and has the  men do additional activities to reinforce the need for on-going partner sensitive activites and shame resilience.  She even has added a 5th type of communicati...

  Carol will be speaking with Tim Kiernon who will be speaking about the importance of intensive treatment of sexual addiction and compulsivity for both the addict and the spouse/ partner. It is widely known that the more treatment the addict receives, the higher likelihood of sustained recovery. Tim runs A Better Lifetime Center for Hope and Healing. The Center is beginning a hybrid therapy and c...

Tonight Carol the Coach interviews Patrick Hentsch who developed the Holistic Recovery Model which addresses the fact that living in recovery must mean much more than being abstinent (not doing certain behaviors) or being sober (having clear thoughts andemotions). It is about how we respond to our clear thoughts and emotions and allow them to guide us towards our authentic and integrated existence...

Tonight, Carol the Coach, will Debra L. Kaplan who is an expert on sex, money, and power in relationships. Debra is a CSAT who also had a history of working on Wall Street. It is no surprise that she sees many couples who have had sex addiction and still battle being in a controlling relationhip that results in feeling exploitive. Battle of the Titans is a book about power and how to masterfully b...

Happy Labor Day! This is a repeat of a 1012 show on abandonment.

Tonight, Carol the Coach interviews Steve Devlin, EdM. PhD, who explains that most of his professional career (1984-2007) was spent as a university-based researcher examining trends in aging, higher education, and deinstitutionalization.  By all measures his career was on a successful path.  Yet, throughout most of his adult life, he was accompanied by an addictive personality.  In July 2007 he hi...

Sometimes, couples seem to be at an impasse as to how to heal from sexual betrayal. Tonight, Carol the Coach will talk to Allana Pratt, Intimacy Coach about the work that she advocates to get couples to move beyond the anger by raising their vibrational energy to increase their sense of intimacy and compassion.

For the last ten years, Brianne, had a secret she  kept from all but a handful of people — I'm a recovering sex and love addict. When she learned to to share her secret, she has been able to change my life and, in the process, help other people to find peace in theirs. 
In March, Brianne Davis,wrote her  first article for the HuffPost; I'm A Sex And Love Addict. Here's How I Realized I Had A Probl...

Men are not the only ones who struggle with addiction and other sexually destructive behaviors. Women struggle, too. And in recent years a growing number of women are struggling with online and sex addiction. Often it is harder for women who want help with these struggles to find it. Most resources seem to be geared towards men, so even seeking help adds a distinct type of “shame” for women who wa...

Tonight Carol the Coach will be interviewing Rich Badami who will be talking about how mindfulness, meditation and breathwork can calm anxiety and stress. She has an event called "Freedom From Trauma - Powerful and Profound Practices to Heal Trauma and Consciously Create the Body, Mind, Spirit You Truly Desire. Listen in as we discuss the power of thought and how it can transform trauma.

There are many helpful treatments that can alter the urges and cravings of a sex addict. Concurrently, hypnosis has been used as an adjunct therapy for the limiting belliefs that both addicts and their partners have as a result of the sexual addiction, Tonight, Carol the Coach interviews Elena Mosaner MS who is a certified hypnotherapist, ICF certified coach, author, and member of the National Gui...

Sexual betrayal trauma is devastating and takes a long time to recover from.  Couples can survive infidelity, sex addiction and betrayal trauma.  As you know Carol the Coach believes that here are certain things that the person who did the betraying must do to help his or her partner heal and there are tell-tale signs of recovery that the partner can look to help build trust and help him or  her t...

It is mindboggling to know how to talk to kids. The parent child relationship is an intimate one, and as a clinician that works with families impacted by sex addiction, Dr. Piper Grant will discuss the importance, and how to talk to your children about sexual addiction. She will discuss what factors will need to be considered in order to assess appropriateness of a disclosure, how to have the conv...

The body and the brain want to heal. Many times talk therapy is not enough to heal the trauma that may have resulted in sexual addiction or trauma betrayal. Tonight, we will look at a documentary following two people using two different somatic therapies, EMDR, and transromational bodywork to overcome their past traumas. The Light, a documentary produced and directed by Bradley Mason features fell...

Carol the Coach interviews Carl Thomas who believes we need to reframe our conversations around the issues of addiction and focus more on the importance of healing the individual rather than the “evils” of and the sex industry. Over 8+ years of experience in this field and he has never seen a man find true & lasting freedom simply by controlling his environment. He believes that all the filter...

There is a new therapy model that is taking the country by storm. In her new book, Altogether You: Experiencing Personal and Spiritual Transformation with Internal Family Systems Therapy, Jenna Riermersma helps clients to make sense of their pasts. Jenna explains that "IFS is a way of understanding ourselves that takes into account that we all have different parts." IFS helps us relate to our part...