Heal Your Relationships

If you want to change something in your life - a habit, a situation, a relationship pattern - but despite all your good intentions, you can’t seem to do what it takes at the moment, this episode is for you. We all know about our comfort zones and growth zones. But did you know there is another zone that can make or break your plans? Tune in to learn about this THIRD zone, and why it’s the sec...

This weekend, we had less childcare help than we usually do. And although I was dreading it, it turned out to be an eye-opening experience. One that has shaken me awake. I hope that it gives you the loving jolt you need as well. Enjoy! FREE tools: Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —>  https://bit.ly/Relational...

Does therapy work? Yes and no. Therapy is a “top-down” approach that can at best give you 30-40% relief. You will keep your head above water. But if you want to feel calm, confident, connected, and courageous - we need a three-pronged approach. I call this the Tripod Model, and in this episode, I will share with you what goes into each pillar of the tripod, so you can go from simply surviving, to...

Some of us get so caught up in what could go wrong, that we stay paralyzed. This is the worst decision though, since joy and fulfillment is always on the other side of fear. In todays episode, I share a little known method for removing the shackles of extreme anxiety. If you use this technique consistently, you will feel calm, confident and courageous to take the action toward the life you want. F...

Many of our clients say they have lost themselves in the race to the top. A decade of busyness later, they look around at all the fancy things they have accumulated, and instead of feeling joy, they feel….numb. If you are in this boat too, please know you are not alone. It’s a good thing that you are pausing to notice your own boredom and exhaustion - it means you are waking up. The way back to yo...

I used to go through life in a trance. Feeling sad, flat, annoyed, empty, lonely and anxious….all the while running more and more frantically on the proverbial treadmill. This set up inner conflict, which spilled over into my life in all kinds of awful ways. In todays episode, I’ll share my process for knowing if YOU are out of alignment with who you truly are, and how to course correct, so you ca...

Happy New Year!!  On today’s show, I share 5 questions that will help you create the most alive, nourishing, and fulfilling life in 2024. Grab a journal and pen, and let’s go! FREE tools: Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —>  https://bit.ly/RelationalIQ-Newsletter Need more customized support? Apply for a...

A few months ago, I did an episode called “What’s Your F Type?” that you all LOVED. We have been getting a lot of questions about those tools, so I’ve decided to do a LIVE training on them inside our free FB group next week (link below to join). Here is an encore, so you can come prepared with your own questions for our live session! Enjoy and see you soon! ----------------------------------------...

The older I get, the more I realize the power of pausing, slowing down and making conscious choices in the moment. It’s not easy. But if we want something new, we have to do something new, am I right? Lucky for us, Dr. Jessie Mahoney is an expert in pausing and bringing presence to our homes, workplaces, and day to day lives. And she shares so many pearls of wisdom in this conversation. As we head...

If you are holding on to something from the past - a memory, an incident, a relationship hurt - it’s likely impacting the way you show up until the present. Self-forgiveness is not about agreeing with your past decisions.  It’s about processing the wound, so it can heal, instead of stay open and fester. In this episode, I will share 3 ideas and 3 tools that have most helped me on my own self-...

After studying and helping people heal their relationships for over a decade, I’ve noticed THREE things that successful relationships have in common. No, they are not: compatible values, attraction or even shared goals. They are: Earned security, Micro-repairs and Inter-dependence. Tune in to learn what these are, and how to build them into your own life. Then, register for our FREE “Rel...

Anything that’s worth having is going to require persistence and motivation. But how do we keep up motivation when life gets in the way? It’s so easy to give up, or get distracted, right? The solution is to find your North Star. This is your deepest reason for being on the journey. The thing that lights you up. The WHY that will keep you going even when you stumble, or feel discouraged. Tune in to...

Happy Thanksgiving to all who celebrate! Thanksgiving is about family, good food, and gratitude. But most people get the gratitude part wrong. Gratitude is not just about remembering events or people that you are thankful for. When done right, it can be a powerful way to heal our whole nervous system. In this episode, I will share the most important part of gratitude, and a simple exercise you can...

When someone hurts our feelings, how can we know if our response is justified, or… if we are overreacting? I used to spend hours ping-ponging between blaming someone else for being selfish/rude Vs. blaming myself. If you can’t decide whether you are being taken advantage of by someone, or overreacting because of your own triggers….tune in. This episode will show you how to discern the answer once...

Your emotions are not a result of what's happening around you. They are an interpretation of what's happening around you. Tune in to hear me explain this concept, plus a simple way you can use it to shift your mood anytime. P.S.:  Want to learn more about how you can use this to SOLVE ARGUMENTS?? Come join us for the free training! Register here -->  https://bit.ly/ConflictCureChallen...

Inside our “Heal Your Relationships” program, we promise to help you eliminate at least 2/3 of the recurrent, repetitive arguments in your marriage, in less than 90 days. So, what are those repetitive arguments? There are 8 of them: ·     Sex ·     Money ·     Parenting ·     Chores ·  &nb...

A few months ago, I did an episode called “What’s Your F Type?” that you all LOVED. We have been getting a lot of questions about those tools, so I’ve decided to do a LIVE training on them inside our free FB group next week (link below to join). Here is an encore, so you can come prepared with your own questions for our live session! Enjoy and see you soon! ----------------------------------------...

Stonewalling can wreak havoc on a relationship. I have been on both ends of this, and know how hopeless it can feel. I want you to know there are simple steps you can take, whether you are the one stonewalling, or on the receiving end, that can begin to shift things. In today’s episode, I will go over: What stonewalling is and why it happens.  The two types of stonewalling, and 3 Tips for sol...

Are you a Hailstorm or a Turtle? Hailstorm = one who brings up complaints; Turtle = the one who shuts down/gets defensive and/or walks on eggshells. To the turtle, the hailstorm seems like someone who is needy, clingy, demanding, and critical. --> "I can never satisfy her, so why try?" To the hailstorm, the turtle seems like he/she doesn't care, is defensive, is not a team player, and maybe eve...

Raise your hand if you sometimes want your spouse to stop giving you solutions and instead just listen?! 🤚 Ugh, so frustrating, right?  Why does this happen?  Because most of us are not taught about the 3 layers of Emotional Intimacy. We operate only on the INFORMATIONAL level - which is useful, but if that's your only level of relating to others, you end up feeling lonely and insecure....

Emotional sobriety, a phrase frequently used in AA meetings, holds a special place in my heart.  It's not just a phrase; it's a state of being – a state where clarity reigns, where nothing muddles your thoughts or numbs your senses. In this state of clarity, you're fully present, unburdened by the weight of your fears or any substances that might dim your light. It's in this space that your r...

Understanding your attachment style is like turning on the light in a dark room. It gives you the kind of clarity that also brings relief because you grasp your behaviors and your partner's behaviors more deeply. Going through life in the dark about your attachment style is like taking a road trip with no GPS, no roadmap, and no clue about your destination.  Trust me, I've spent three decades...

I've been down that road before, dragging my ex-partners into couples therapy, hoping it would work like a magic fix.  But honestly, it often felt like taking two steps forward and then three steps back. It was like slapping a band-aid on a deep wound. Sure, the couples therapy sessions were helpful while we were in them. We'd talk, share, and sometimes even find moments of clarity. Then, we'...

Unconditional love is only possible if you give your loved one unconditional freedom to be exactly who they are.  If you constantly judge yourself, criticize how you act, and only see your limitations, then you're shooting yourself.  And how you treat yourself often spills over into your interactions with the world. You may judge how others should act, what's right or wrong, and what the...

Certain beliefs in relationships are like undercover agents, quietly wreaking havoc beneath the surface. They slip in, often unnoticed, yet their impact can be profound. Have you ever noticed how convincing yourself about what your partner is thinking can be astonishingly deceptive? It's one of those sneaky things we do.  The romanticization of relationships we're bombarded with through the m...