Heal Your Relationships

Do you know what shutting down, withdrawing, and stonewalling have in common? Do you see yourself or your spouse in that description? I have experienced this a lot in my past. I didn’t even know I was stonewalling—I didn’t have a word for it. Embarrassingly, I used to go for days without talking to the person I was living with because I was upset. So believe me, I understand how it feels internall...

Is your partner often angry or critical with you or your family? Do they sometimes overlook your feelings or opinions? I understand—it can be challenging, especially during arguments, but it doesn’t have to stay that way. There are ways to turn negative interactions, like escalating conflicts or silent treatment, into opportunities for positive change.  In this week’s episode, I’ll share a co...

Do you feel stuck and overwhelmed in your marriage? Are you constantly wondering if you should stay or leave? Trust me, I know how you feel—I've been there. In this episode, I dive deep into the three major red flags that can indicate it's time to reconsider your relationship. If you don't have any of these red flags—which is often the case—I'll also discuss the three key questions you can as...

Do you ever find yourself overwhelmed by your emotions, unsure of how to regain control? Have you ever wondered what triggers these intense feelings? For years, I struggled with these questions, feeling lost in my emotional responses without understanding why. That's when I began exploring the dynamics of our nervous system. Through this journey, I learned how our nervous system influences our emo...

Do you ever find yourself overwhelmed by your emotions? Do you struggle to connect with and manage your feelings? How about the intense ones? Does this often leave you feeling misunderstood and make it challenging to express yourself? I can relate—I spent most of my life wrestling with self-doubt and uncertainty. However, everything changed when I discovered the keys to mastering emotional intelli...

Do you find yourself overreacting at the same situations over and over again but don't know why? I have been there for SO MANY YEARS until I discovered that everything came from my inner child core wounds... all the fear, pain, and sadness that I had stuck within me. Only then, I could turn into myself and provide my inner child the new and healing experience that she was longing for. This week, w...

Do you find yourself ruminating on certain interactions more than you would like? I used to struggle with this a LOT, until I figured out what my triggers are, where they came from, and how to solve them more effectively. In this episode, I explore the concept of triggers and how to turn them into opportunities for personal growth. By the end of this episode, you will gain insights and practical t...

Do you find yourself getting triggered easily, but you're not sure why? Do you struggle to understand and soothe your emotional responses? Does all of this lead to repetitive arguments in your relationships? In this episode, we dive deep into the five essential questions that can help you heal your triggers and inner wounds once and for all: Why: Discover the deep reason why this matters to you. W...

Do arguments in your marriage escalate quickly? Are you tired of having the same misunderstandings over and over? The reason you are stuck in this power struggle is because of your conflict styles. In this episode, we explore the four distinct conflict styles and how understanding them can not just help you you solve disagreements once and for all, but even PREVENT them. P.S. Want to know more abo...

Why do some people annoy the heck out of us so much so that we ruminate or stay stuck for days, or even weeks?! Because they inadvertently have poked a CORE WOUND with you. In this episode, I’m going to share the 2-step process to healing your core wounds once and for all. Want to find your core wounds? Click here for the free worksheet -->  https://bit.ly/DrKavethaSunCoreWondsWorksheet P....

If you are an anxious attacher, and tend to complain, get angry, or plead with your partner for more attention, this is for you. The more we criticize, demand, cry, or nag, the more the other person pulls away…..which only feeds our anxiety. This cycle is exhausting and never ending. There is a better way. In this episode, I share 6 steps you can take TODAY to create genuine presence, time and con...

Why do the people we love the most, also frustrate and hurt us the most? It's because there are three relationship LEVELS, and the deepest level - where our parents, siblings, spouses and kids are - also holds our CORE WOUNDS from the past. So anything that they do, pokes those wounds, which is why we feel so easily triggered and hurt by their actions. In this podcast episode, I share what the 3 l...

Have you ever experienced anxiety? You are going about your day, minding your own business, when bam, suddenly something happens and next thing you know, you are feeling anxious, overwhelmed or triggered. You know what you "should" do, but in the moment, all that seems so far out of reach, and you can't seem to calm yourself down enough to think clearly. Why is that?! In this episode, I’m going to...

For years, I've lived my life having an insecure attachment style. Even when I first heard about the topic, I didn't quite connect with it. Looking back, I wish I had paid closer attention to it sooner in my life. In this episode, join me as we delve into the origins of attachment styles. What are they? How do the different character styles manifest in our interactions? And most importantly, how d...

Securely attached people have 10 universal habits. Once I figured this out, I wrote them down to carry with me at all times. Because it helps me figure out exactly what to do when I feel hurt, annoyed, or at odds with someone I care about. It took me 15 years of trial and error to compile this list. I hope to save you that time. Don't forget to subscribe! ------------------------------------------...

Do you have an anxious attachment style? Here are 8 oddly specific traits that you might be struggling with, and what you can do right away to begin healing. FREE tools: Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —>  https://bit.ly/RelationalIQ-Newsletter Need more customized support? Apply for a Relationship Breakthro...

For years, I would get hurt, triggered and worked up easily. And I tried everything that my therapist suggested. Counting to 10, using I-statements, deep breaths….nothing worked. It took a couple years, but I finally figured out why. It was because I was not engaging my frontal lobe. When my frontal lobe is not online, I can’t stop the triggering thoughts and feelings. But how do you switch your f...

Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is the power to choose our response..." - Viktor Frankl. We know that we should pause when we are triggered, so we can choose a different response. A healthier one, that is more aligned with our values. But it’s so hard to do at the moment, right?? In today’s episode, I will show you HOW to actually pause, even if you’ve tried and fail...

Most couples therapy goes in circles because they jump straight to communication tools. The problem is, without building a foundation of inner calm and confidence, no amount of communication tools will work in the heat of the moment! But, how do we build inner calm and confidence?? There are 3 parts to it - Emotion Regulation, Know and Meet Your Needs, Honor Your Boundaries Emotion regulation incl...

Do you postpone your dreams and aspirations to “someday” in the future? I've been there. The bummer was that the future always seemed….well, in the future lol. Just out of reach. I finally realized that what I had was a wish, not a plan. So I went to work trying to bring my future self into my present. After many many failures, I stumbled onto a 3 calendar system that has truly changed my life. We...

After working with hundreds of clients, I’ve noticed that there are two types of marital arguments. The day-to-day kerfuffles; and the big repetitive arguments. Most therapists approach both as communication problems. But each type stems from a different core issue, and thus they require very different solutions. In this episode, I share the two things you can do to shift daily irritability in the...

Contempt is a feeling of disgust and moral superiority over someone else. It usually stems from loneliness, and years of resentments, mixed with feeling helpless to change the dynamic. In today's episode, I share the 3 steps to shifting contempt to connection. If you or someone in your life struggles with contempt, please share this episode with them. It may have a huge ripple effect on their live...

I am a collector of good ideas. Over the years, these ideas have helped me hone my intuition, repair relationships, honor my boundaries, and take brave action even when it was a bit terrifying. I would not have the life I have now without these guiding principles. They are my North Star. In today’s episode, I share the top 8 ideas (+1) that have changed my life. Enjoy!   FREE tools: Get...

Today, we are speaking with one of my fav people in the world - Dr. Erica Bove! She is a renowned OBGYN doctor, and now also a fertility coach! She shares a wealth of information for anyone who is themselves or knows someone who is, going through the long winding road of fertility treatments. In 2019, Erica did our programs as a client, which sparked her interest in coaching. She went on to become...

  I have been addicted to sugar for about 10 years. And trust me when I say, I have tried every single freakin’ diet to beat this. It either wouldn’t work at all (for ME), or it would work temporarily but the cravings would get too strong after a while and I’d give up. But for the first time ever, I have been off sugar for 60+ days, and I more than anyone else am surprised lol. I think there...