Having It A.L.L.

Be real with yourself: are you waiting for someone or something outside of yourself, to come and give you the life that you desire? At any level? Today's episode is a deep look into my own beliefs that have been keeping at a certain place in my life. I'm sharing a raw audio, recorded in my car as an epiphany was washing over me. *EXCITING ANNOUNCEMENT* The new TRUST Challenge is here! Join us as w...

What does "having it all" mean to you? It's a question I have asked so many people on this podcast. And I've received so many unique answers. Well, today I'm bringing you an interview/conversation with the man who helped me develop that question (and this very podcast), and who has been an incredible influence in my life -- Day Adeogba. We go wide and deep on this one, and I promise you'll underst...

When you think about sex, what is the goal for you? Is it to have an orgasm, or to make sure your partner has one? Is it to show your partner how much you love them and to validate your relationship? For most of my life, the goal of sex was orgasm. But there are other goals of sex that can create a much more powerful, loving and connected experience. Today I'm diving into the goal of sex and am se...

As your responsibilities go up (new children, new job, more lovers), is your capacity to handle these new responsibilities going up as well? For most, the answer is something like "I don't even think about my capacity when I take on new life stressors". And if that sounds like you, then this episode will help you become aware of your current capacity and will give you very actionable steps to rais...

How do you bounce back when your world gets rocked? When everything seems to be going wrong in your life? When your dreams are shattered? In today's episode I share with you what inspired me to jump off the couch, grab my mic, and record this very podcast! Also, check out the Life By Design, Not By Default Virtual Summit where I'm speaking about love, relationships and sex. Here's the website: htt...

What is a moment or experience that completely transformed who you were as a person? For me the biggest one was experiencing the birth of my daughter, Maya. Today is Maya's 2nd birthday (September 11, 2018), and on this special day I wanted to do something different on the podcast. So I'm sharing the story of her birth, from the early signs that Sarah and I realized labor was starting, to when we...

What is something that you've always wanted to do, but you know you've let fear and discomfort hold you back? It's the first week of September, and that means Fall is officially here. You've been putting in deposits into your tank for a while now, and now it's time for you to act. In today's episode I'm setting up a context for getting into action to do things you've been afraid to do, to experien...

What does surrender mean to you? When I started working with a coach I would hear the word "surrender" a lot. I had a hard time with that word, because for a long time "surrender" was a word of weakness and giving up. Today my context around surrender is much different, and I use the word all the time. In this episode I want to give you an alternative context for "surrender" that can empower you a...

When was the last time you intentionally created time for you to check out and recharge? Last week I talked about balance and gave you a different way to think about the elusive work-life balance. Well today, I'm putting it into practice! Sarah and I decided to take an impromptu vacation. We were feeling the impact of going hard for the last few months, and recognized we needed a break. Learn more...

How are you currently experiencing life? I'm not talking about the results you're creating. I'm talking about your EXPERIENCE of it all. In today's episode I'm digging into why your experience of life is truly what matters, and how you can change it for the better. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What does living a balanced life mean to you? Similarly, how do you define health and fitness? And how do your perceptions of these concepts impact your overall wellbeing? In this episode I'm talking about how you can view the idea of "balance" in a way that doesn't leave you feeling defeated and frustrated. I'm here to present to you an idea of how you can balance out your health and fitness in a...

How healthy would you say your attachment is with your partner? I don't know where I picked it up, but somewhere in my adolescence I adopted the belief that a healthy relationship was one where I could not be happy if my partner was not happy. In today's episode I share an email from a listener who opens up on her relationship attachment. I appreciate her vulnerability and courage in this one beca...

How willing are you to receive and surrender to healthy feedback that comes from a trusted source?  Be honest with yourself.  In today's episode I'm sharing the three types of feedback that exist, and talk about why each one is essential for your own growth and evolution. I also dig into why you keep experiencing the same results over and over in your life.   Learn more about your ad choices. Visi...

How full is your personal TRUST account? I'm not talking about a financial trust account. But the account we all have within us that measures how much TRUST we have in ourselves to do the things we say we're going to do. Chances are, it could use a few more deposits! Join us in the TRUST Challenge and make the commitment to daily deposits for the month of August 2018, and experience the massive im...

Today is a bit of a deviation from the normal episode. I was very inspired last night by something I saw on Instagram (it's rare, but when it happens it's potent), and I wanted to share this message with you all. There are people in your life who you know, and many who you don't, who are influenced and inspired by you everyday. They see who you are choosing to be, and it gives them strength and ho...

What are the myths and stereotypes around masculinity that you’re holding and giving strength to? What are the myths and stereotypes around masculinity that you’re holding and giving strength to? Throughout my 31 years I've picked up all sorts of ideas around what it means to be a man. So many of those ideas reinforce dated and unhealthy stereotypes. In today's episode I share my biggest stereotyp...

How comfortable are you saying "no" in your life? So many of us struggle with saying no when people make requests of our time, space, energy, money, or love. We want to please. We want others to like us. We don't want to be seen as unhelpful or unavailable. In today's episode I talk about the challenge of saying "no", and give you very concrete and actionable tips for strengthening that muscle wit...

What does it look like to create your ideal life RIGHT NOW? I want you to seriously ask yourself this question. Because chances are you're reciting some version of this to yourself: "My ideal life is when I have XYZ, or when I accomplish 123, or when ABC things happen for me". It's a normal thing to do. But what's on the other side of that coin is the feeling that we are not able to create and exp...

What is one belief that you know has radically transformed your life for the better? Beliefs are something I talk about a ton on this show. The beliefs that you choose to wear on impact your actions, your habits, your relationships, your perspective on life. I use the phrase "choose to wear on" incredibly intentionally as well. In today's episode I share with you three specific beliefs that I have...

How are your rituals impacting your life? Big question, I know, but the point is to get you to reflect on your rituals and how they are impacting your day-to-day. Today's episode is part 2 of my series where I share with you the rituals that I've cultivated and use to help me win in my health, relationships, business and spirituality. Today I'm talking about Business and Spirituality. Learn more a...

How are your rituals impacting your life? In today's episode I share with you the rituals that I've cultivated and use to help me win in my health, relationships, business and spirituality. The habits I've created in these areas help to raise my energy, improve my health, enrich my relationships (with my spouse and others), and deepen my connection with myself and with source.  Learn more about yo...

What does your extraordinary life look like? On today's episode I'm bringing you something different. Normally I'm the one interviewing other people, but today I'm the one being interviewed! This past week I was interviewed by Tiago Buhr, host of The Extraordinary Life Podcast. On his show, Tiago interviews people to learn insights on how to create an extraordinary life in all areas: business, fre...

When was the last time you intentionally tried to get rejected? I was talking with a friend recently and he told me about a concept called “Rejection Therapy” that he was introduced to in business school, which completely changed his relationship to fear and rejection. On today’s episode I invite my friend Alex Grodnik onto the show to talk to me about rejection therapy and how it helped him gain...

Have you ever felt completely lost in your life? Like you didn't know what you were "supposed" to do, who you should be as a person, and what your true passion was? Geeze, I sure have! I spent years in a state of confusion about all of those things. And truth be told, the fog is still lifting. In today's episode I'm sharing the mic with Paul Colaianni - personal empowerment coach and host of The O...

How intentional are you with the way you start and end your day? For years I completely neglected the importance of my morning and nighttime routines. But as I grew older, began to take on more roles and responsibilities in my life, and began to feel the weight of life itself, I realized that the way I began and ended my day had a tremendous impact on what happened during my waking hours. In today...