Having It A.L.L.

Have you started planning your goals and resolutions for 2019? There's one thing you want to make sure you do before you write your goals in stone, and that's take a deep look at how you showed up in 2018. In today's episode I'm walking you through a self assessment process (the same one I use with all of my coaching clients) that will help you chart the course for where you want to be in 2019. Ge...

Did you know that magic and gratitude were major factors in "having it all" to me? That's sort of a trick question, because if you've listened to the show before you know that they are DEFINITELY ingredients to the having it all formula. In today's episode I'm using this Christmas holiday to share magic and express gratitude to the seldomly celebrated people who make the holidays possible and magi...

Are you feeling stuck in life right now? Feeling stuck is something that we all can relate to, because at one point or another we've been there. It's not a fun feeling, and normally it turns into self criticism and judgements that we're not doing/being enough (smart enough, hard working enough, creative enough, opportunistic enough). For today's episode I was inspired by a message I heard from Mel...

What regrets do you have in life? In today's episode I'm sharing an essay written by Bronnie Ware - a nurse who took care of patients in their final days of life. Over the years of her work, she asked her patients if they had any regrets from their life as they faced their death. The patterns she saw emerge with deep and powerful. I share with you the 5 regrets of the dying in this episode, so you...

How do you stop the process of self sabotaging? That's a million dollar question if I've ever heard one! I think most, if not all, of us can relate to self sabotage. We know what it feels like to see the potential for our greatness, and to do things to undermine our success. In today's episode I'm answering a great question from a listener that starts with self sabotage, and ends up going into som...

Have you ever felt like your life was not working? That in one (or many) areas of your life, things are just off and not where you want them to be? Maybe you're in that place right now. I recently had a very powerful and humbling experience that showed me why a few areas in my life were off, and today I'm sharing that insight with you. In today's episode you'll hear about the one area where, if yo...

When was the last time you were truly inspired by someones act of kindness and love? For me, it was just a few minutes ago, and this gesture is the reason for today's episode. I'm rebroadcasting an episode from a few months ago called Paying Forward Positivity, and it's because of what I just saw on my Instagram account -- an example of one of you, a listener of Having It A.L.L., taking me up on a...

What was the last empowering and loving daddy-daughter interaction you witnessed or experienced? Hopefully you don't have to think too hard to come up with an example. But unfortunately it can be harder to think of examples of loving interactions between daddy's and daughters than disempowering ones. Today I'm sharing exactly why and how I believe daddy-daughter dates can heal the world. This epis...

Do you set new years resolutions? If so, how often do you complete them? And more importantly, what is your experience of your new years resolution? As you can tell by the title, I don't like new years resolutions at all. I'm all for people committing to better themselves, but the new years resolution framework is not set up for you to succeed. In today's episode I share why I dislike new years re...

For today's episode I'm bringing you an interview that I did with Dr. Kyrin Dunston on her podcast "Her Brilliant Health Radio". I had a great time talking with Dr. Kyrin about nurturing relationships, achieving an abundant loving life, finding balance in life, discerning your own inner voice, and living life from a place of passion. Links: https://www.kyrindunstonmd.com/herbrillianthealthradio/hb...

Do you have the life you want today? Very few people can honestly say "yes" across the board. And that's totally cool. Many of us are on the journey to creating the experience we want in life. But there is a large group of people who reject the journey altogether, and are frustrated that they aren't getting the results they way. If that's you, then tune in because I'm about to give you a reality c...

Can you think of a time when you questioned the timing of something? Maybe you've taken a big step in your life recently, and you're judging the fact that it didn't happen earlier. Or you so desperately want something to happen TODAY, and you're frustrated because it doesn't seem to be anywhere in sight. In today's episode I'm sharing a perspective with you that will impact how you think about the...

Why do some men seem like completely emotionless creatures? Why does it seem like men go out of their way to bury and hide their feelings? Why do men avoid vulnerability so vehemently? In today's episode I'm sharing the truth that all men have feelings and emotions, and I'm discussing why so many of us choose not to show them. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What is the cost of your pursuit of perfection? Today I'm bringing you a bonus episode (actually you'll get a few bonus episodes this week!). I'm talking about perfection and the belief that things need to be perfect in our lives before we take action. Many times we seek perfection because we're scared of something, and by the end of today's episode my intention is that you have greater insight on...

Do you feel you have work-life balance? If you are, don't stress out. I was too. But I've realized that this concept of work-life balance does so much more harm than good, and actually results in a very ineffective way of looking at our lives. In today's episode I'm sharing with you a different perspective for looking at how you can balance out the important things in your life. This perspective i...

Are you familiar with visualization? It's a technique that world class athletes and high achievers of all types, use to literally put themselves into a higher state of being mentally and emotionally. I've been practicing it for a bit now, and in today's episode I'm sharing with you what the practice is all about, how it's done, and why I absolutely feel it's a powerful pathway to reprogramming you...

Be completely honest with yourself: are you currently taking on the responsibility for another person's emotions? If so, you want to listen to this episode several times. In today's episode I'm giving some raw and honest feedback directed at those of us who feel like our jobs are to make others happy. It's a dangerous game to play that almost always results in frustration, resentment, and the brea...

What is the quality of your life right now? In today's episode I'm sharing with you 8 key areas of life you want to take a look at periodically to assess the overall quality of your life. This episode is inspired by fellow greatness seeker, Lewis Howes. It was on his Instagram page that I saw him post about these 8 areas, and it moved me to share it with you all. Here is the original IG post from...

Did you know that letting go in life is a choice? Yes, it’s moment-to-moment choice where you decided whether you will release what you’ve been fixating on, or add to your fixation. Many of us can get down with the idea of “letting go”, but we fail to realize that it’s a constant choice that we must make again and again through our days, weeks, months, years. We falsely believe that we can “let go...

Are you practicing sexual healing? So many different things can come up when we think about sexual healing. From healing past traumas to healing physical conditions to Marvin Gaye (seriously, that was my entire context until a number of years ago) -- we each have our own relationship when it comes to healing things in a sexual context. In today's episode I'm joined by my incredible wife, Sarah Biv...

Where do you spend most of your emotional time and energy: in things you can influence or in things you have zero control over? If you're a proactive person who takes response-ability for their lives, then you absolutely focus on the things you can influence. Reactive people spend their time focusing on things that they have zero control over. The difference between circle of influence and circle...

What does being proactive mean to you? I would say "It means taking initiative". But I have learned that to Be Proactive means so much more. And understanding this meaning is imperative if you want to have it all and lead an abundant loving life. In today's episode I bring in one of my favorite books, Stephen Covey's 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People. Get ready to get your learnin on! Learn more...

When do you apologize for something you've done? When is it appropriate to come clean in a situation, versus letting things go and moving on? In today's episode I'm replying to a listener message about knowing when to come clean, clear the air or let it go. This is such a common thing for all of us, and my intention is to give some perspective on fully owning your decisions. Learn more about your...

If you were to take an audit of the environments you spend most of your time in, would you say that they uplift you, do nothing for you, or drag you down? In today's episode I explore environments and talk about why it's so important that we are picky with the people and places we surround ourselves with. I also give you a few action items for taking a hard look at your environments and making som...

How do you like to be loved? How does your partner prefer to be loved? Are they loving you in the style in which you like to be loved, and vice versa? Today I'm sharing my favorite tool for creating a powerful relationship, and I'm taking up a notch by showing you how Sarah and I have turned the 5 Love Languages into a much more powerful tool for building our amazing relationship. Oh, and are you...