Having It A.L.L.

What are the beliefs, stories, experiences that you've pushed down so deep into your soul, that the thought of bringing them into the light is terrifying? That's what we're talking about in today's episode! If you're listening to this show it's because you desire to have it all and you're hoping to get some ideas, motivation, tools, belief systems to help you achieve that. My message today is simp...

How intentional are you with sex? Sex is a thing that requires zero maturity or acquired knowledge to participate in, yet can be extraordinary risk from both a physical and emotional standpoint. So today I'm talking about the practice of setting intention for your sexual intimacy, and how it can transform not only your experience of the sex you're about to engage in, but also what happens after th...

What beliefs are you currently holding that is robbing you of your health, happiness, and power? Today I'm talking about the power (and consequences) of your beliefs. Your internal conversations and the beliefs associated with them are something you rep more than any workout. So what beliefs have you been strengthening? Links: http://www.matthewbivens.com/trust/ https://www.instagram.com/p/BsnwZP0...

How do you define purpose, vision and passion? I've had a love hate relationship to the ideas of purpose, vision and passion. At times I've been fired up to connect with my purpose, create my vision, and feel my passion. And at other times I've compared myself to others I thought had them, and judged myself for not. In today's episode I'm talking about the difference between purpose, vision and pa...

Are you pursuing money believing that when you get it your life will finally be better? Today I'm going to shatter a few cases of denial, by letting you know that if you're chasing profits without purpose then you will NEVER have it all. Why? Because having it all is so much bigger than the next $10,000 in income, or the next business deal (or the next romantic relationship). Yet, it's very easy t...

How attached are you to the way you feel your life should look like? If you're frustrated with the way things are right now... If you're annoyed because something in your life is not going according to your plan... If you're experiencing anxiety because the goals you set are not being met in the timeframe you wanted them to... Then we are in the same place, and this episode is for you. Learn more...

Do you know where your money is going? Knowing where your money is going each month (aka budgeting) is one of those habits that is incredibly challenging for a lot of us to build and maintain. But part of having it all means that we have a handle on our finances, and so in this episode I'm taking you through some basics of budgeting and sharing with you a few tools and methods I use in my househol...

What is your word for this year? You may be used to creating new years resolutions or setting yearly goals. But I have something even more simple and effective - coming up with a single word that embodies the life you wish to live, the person you wish to become and the results you wish to create in the coming year. In this episode I share with you a simple process for coming up with your word for...

Have you started planning your goals and resolutions for 2019? There's one thing you want to make sure you do before you write your goals in stone, and that's take a deep look at how you showed up in 2018. In today's episode I'm walking you through a self assessment process (the same one I use with all of my coaching clients) that will help you chart the course for where you want to be in 2019. Ge...

Did you know that magic and gratitude were major factors in "having it all" to me? That's sort of a trick question, because if you've listened to the show before you know that they are DEFINITELY ingredients to the having it all formula. In today's episode I'm using this Christmas holiday to share magic and express gratitude to the seldomly celebrated people who make the holidays possible and magi...

Are you feeling stuck in life right now? Feeling stuck is something that we all can relate to, because at one point or another we've been there. It's not a fun feeling, and normally it turns into self criticism and judgements that we're not doing/being enough (smart enough, hard working enough, creative enough, opportunistic enough). For today's episode I was inspired by a message I heard from Mel...

What regrets do you have in life? In today's episode I'm sharing an essay written by Bronnie Ware - a nurse who took care of patients in their final days of life. Over the years of her work, she asked her patients if they had any regrets from their life as they faced their death. The patterns she saw emerge with deep and powerful. I share with you the 5 regrets of the dying in this episode, so you...

How do you stop the process of self sabotaging? That's a million dollar question if I've ever heard one! I think most, if not all, of us can relate to self sabotage. We know what it feels like to see the potential for our greatness, and to do things to undermine our success. In today's episode I'm answering a great question from a listener that starts with self sabotage, and ends up going into som...

Have you ever felt like your life was not working? That in one (or many) areas of your life, things are just off and not where you want them to be? Maybe you're in that place right now. I recently had a very powerful and humbling experience that showed me why a few areas in my life were off, and today I'm sharing that insight with you. In today's episode you'll hear about the one area where, if yo...

When was the last time you were truly inspired by someones act of kindness and love? For me, it was just a few minutes ago, and this gesture is the reason for today's episode. I'm rebroadcasting an episode from a few months ago called Paying Forward Positivity, and it's because of what I just saw on my Instagram account -- an example of one of you, a listener of Having It A.L.L., taking me up on a...

What was the last empowering and loving daddy-daughter interaction you witnessed or experienced? Hopefully you don't have to think too hard to come up with an example. But unfortunately it can be harder to think of examples of loving interactions between daddy's and daughters than disempowering ones. Today I'm sharing exactly why and how I believe daddy-daughter dates can heal the world. This epis...

Do you set new years resolutions? If so, how often do you complete them? And more importantly, what is your experience of your new years resolution? As you can tell by the title, I don't like new years resolutions at all. I'm all for people committing to better themselves, but the new years resolution framework is not set up for you to succeed. In today's episode I share why I dislike new years re...

For today's episode I'm bringing you an interview that I did with Dr. Kyrin Dunston on her podcast "Her Brilliant Health Radio". I had a great time talking with Dr. Kyrin about nurturing relationships, achieving an abundant loving life, finding balance in life, discerning your own inner voice, and living life from a place of passion. Links: https://www.kyrindunstonmd.com/herbrillianthealthradio/hb...

Do you have the life you want today? Very few people can honestly say "yes" across the board. And that's totally cool. Many of us are on the journey to creating the experience we want in life. But there is a large group of people who reject the journey altogether, and are frustrated that they aren't getting the results they way. If that's you, then tune in because I'm about to give you a reality c...

Can you think of a time when you questioned the timing of something? Maybe you've taken a big step in your life recently, and you're judging the fact that it didn't happen earlier. Or you so desperately want something to happen TODAY, and you're frustrated because it doesn't seem to be anywhere in sight. In today's episode I'm sharing a perspective with you that will impact how you think about the...

Why do some men seem like completely emotionless creatures? Why does it seem like men go out of their way to bury and hide their feelings? Why do men avoid vulnerability so vehemently? In today's episode I'm sharing the truth that all men have feelings and emotions, and I'm discussing why so many of us choose not to show them. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What is the cost of your pursuit of perfection? Today I'm bringing you a bonus episode (actually you'll get a few bonus episodes this week!). I'm talking about perfection and the belief that things need to be perfect in our lives before we take action. Many times we seek perfection because we're scared of something, and by the end of today's episode my intention is that you have greater insight on...

Do you feel you have work-life balance? If you are, don't stress out. I was too. But I've realized that this concept of work-life balance does so much more harm than good, and actually results in a very ineffective way of looking at our lives. In today's episode I'm sharing with you a different perspective for looking at how you can balance out the important things in your life. This perspective i...

Are you familiar with visualization? It's a technique that world class athletes and high achievers of all types, use to literally put themselves into a higher state of being mentally and emotionally. I've been practicing it for a bit now, and in today's episode I'm sharing with you what the practice is all about, how it's done, and why I absolutely feel it's a powerful pathway to reprogramming you...

Be completely honest with yourself: are you currently taking on the responsibility for another person's emotions? If so, you want to listen to this episode several times. In today's episode I'm giving some raw and honest feedback directed at those of us who feel like our jobs are to make others happy. It's a dangerous game to play that almost always results in frustration, resentment, and the brea...