Hard Feelings | a mental health podcast

I wish I was the type of person to just get excited before a concert, but I'm not! I get anxious about everything that could go wrong and everything leading up to it. Despite that, seeing live music always makes it worth it to me! Luckily I've found some tips to help with the overstimulating and someone unpredictable environment that is a concert! Listen to Pink Pony Club by Chappell Roan! https:/...

Lots of young girls get tested for adhd and are deemed "normal" because they aren't hyperactive and are well behaved in class. I believe I'm one of those girls! A lot of my anxiety stems from not accommodating my own needs and forcing myself to suffer just to be normal and hating myself for being naturally "lazy". But its amazing how much accommodating my needs fuels my creativity! Listen to So Hi...

Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria: finally a name for feeling like you're going to pass out every time a social interaction gets awkward! Luckily, there's ways to cope with rsd while living with adhd and it is possible to overcome its challenges! Just don't beat yourself up if embarrassment exposure therapy doesn't always go well! Listen to girl i've always been by Olivia Rodrigo! https://open.spoti...

Are you lazy or are you actually just tired for a very specific reason? Spoiler! You're not lazy because laziness is just tired in a shame costume! Taking time to rest and for self care is SO important when it comes to our mental health. Shaming ourselves for resting is a waste of time but resting is not! Listen to Who's Afraid of Little Old Me? by Taylor Swift https://open.spotify.com/track/6k8mX...

Setting boundaries is not my strong suit and I wanna work on it, but guess what? I also hate conflict and find it to be terrifying and anxiety inducing! How am I coping? I'm brain dumping to y'all and journaling a lot! Let me know if you have any tips!🫶🏻 Listen to Espresso by Sabrina Carpenter https://open.spotify.com/track/2qSkIjg1o9h3YT9RAgYN75?si=937c807c1eff4296 ✨more✨ Hard Feelings eps! h...

Why are you cheering for everyone but you?! (me too, dude.) Once we figure out how to seek approval only in ourselves and NOT in the opinions of others, its over for y'all! Listen to Bodyguard by Beyonce! https://open.spotify.com/track/6Y4rniIxibegzsg8cdWAWV?si=a7e3089acdfd45c3 ALSO Listen to Good Luck, Babe! by Chappel Roan! https://open.spotify.com/track/0WbMK4wrZ1wFSty9F7FCgu?si=eeff273b6a4748d...

I only learned recently that heightened anxiety during pms is a thing and my world has been rocked! I was having some of the worst anxiety days of my life in the 1-2 days before starting my period and thought it was just a "me thing" but turns out its very common! Listen to Heart of the Woods by Kacey Musgraves! https://open.spotify.com/track/1sNAeNdDVPVBgsGg9SqWHX?si=ace35d270b7a46fa ✨more✨ Har...

Pick and choose your battles?! Girl, I'm choosing ZERO battles, I'm fighting for my life making small talk! Being a people pleaser for most of my life has led me to questioning my sense of self and whether its easier to be agreeable or face conflict. As always, please let me know your thoughts! I don't always reply to comments bc I get overwhelmed by being perceived lol but I do read them and I ap...

Journaling is brain dumping AND trauma dumping and I love her for that. It's not quite the same as my human therapist, but it works in a pinch (spiral)! Overcoming anxiety is really hard dude, give yourself a break and a little treat for your hard work, okay?🫶🏻 Listen to Everyday is a Winding Road by Sheryl Crow! https://open.spotify.com/track/0t6DAi9KEiaWOtgTTXGhD2?si=604917483f094ad1 Four Prog...

Have you ever seen one of these "balanced life" charts? I have a love hate relationship with them. Being adhd, I love a visual aid to help me remember things, but having chronic anxiety, I hate the pressure to make each category even. So I think I will use this mental health tool as more of a reminder to reflect, rather than mandatory homework! Listen to Astrud Gilberto's bossanova hits! https://o...

Welcome to another very rambley chaotic episode where I talk about how I've been craving a lot of alone time recently and what's been helping me get introspective in a way that isn't meditating in a traditional sense! I explain it better in the video lol! Hope you're having a good week! Sending you love! Listen to "I Don't Like My Mind" by Mitski https://open.spotify.com/track/1l0BBsLElenQWul8Fn8t...

Do you know the feeling when you know need to focus because you have so much to do but you can't focus because you're anxious and you feel exhausted before you've even done anything? Me too! I've had a particularly overwhelming week this week, but I made it and I wanna share how I dealt with it! stress ball/hand massager link! https://amzn.to/3I8NFF2 adhd daily to do list link! (the one I have is...

This week I am struggling with patience and presence! Time is going by so quickly and I feel like I'm wasting it if I'm not doing something "important" 100% of the time and its exhausting! I have expend so much energy being anxious about the future and embarrassed about the past, and being present just feels peaceful. Listen to "Slow Down" by Laufey https://open.spotify.com/track/4KLZOU5V5XuEkvytS...

Every bold makeup look and goofy video I post is for my 13 year old self who was so bold and creative but so shy and self conscious. I find writing to my younger self to be very therapeutic and highly recommend you try it! Listen to "Letter to My 13 Year Old Self" by Laufey https://open.spotify.com/track/59Y1f3y8FuLjadWY9Bx2LC?si=1e971176121d403a ✨more✨ Hard Feelings eps! https://www.youtube.com...

Anger is a feeling I struggle with HARD. I don't want to be big, violent or loud which is what I always associated with anger, but anger can actually be an asset! It let's you know that your needs aren't being met or you are facing an unjust situation. Let it fuel your confidence, don't push it down! Listen to "Tin Man" by America https://open.spotify.com/track/4uTTd2SlalZoG0zVgI63kH?si=f8fb50e55a...

embracing tiredness, rest, dreaminess and more Winter (hard) feelings! Seasonal depression hit me like a load of bricks this year, but I'm not gonna let it keep me down...unless by down you mean laying down because I will certainly be doing a lot of that! Link to the stress ball soup dumpling! (affiliate) https://amzn.to/3HoaODc Listen to "Dreamer" by Laufey https://open.spotify.com/track/1YxQxV5s...

Welcome to season 2 of the Hard Feelings Podcast! Not to brag, but I feel anxious every single day so needless to say, I have some experience with regulating my nervous system! Lol shout out to my therapist for giving me coping mechanisms that I can pass along to you! Let me know how you keep panic attacks at bay, or at least make them more tolerable! Listen to "Vampire Empire" by Big Thief https:...

Feeling embarrassed or constantly ashamed? Hey I'm right there with ya! It sucks, but we got this! Embarrassment exposure therapy (not real therapy just a thing I'm trying) has been working great for me, but I'd love to hear how you're coping with anxiety and embarrassment on your mental health journey! Listen to "Love Is Embarrassing" by Olivia Rodrigo https://open.spotify.com/track/26QLJMK8G0M06...

I had a huge anxiety win this week! I spoke on a panel for the first time and it went really well despite me absolutely panicking before lol. Today I wanna talk about how important it is to decompress and rest after an anxiety inducing event no matter how big or small! Listen to "Northern Attitude" by Noah Kahan feat. Hozier https://open.spotify.com/track/4oEf84vBYVftf6KmZexhVo?si=5befa0028a07482e...

My huge goal for 2023 and beyond has been to hone my intuition! I know my intuition is strong, but I also know that my anxiety and fear cloud my judgement a lot. The Universe is clearly testing me tho because I have an amazing opportunity to speak on a panel. Will I let my fear and anxiety keep me from taking on this new challenge? No way dude! Listen to "Is It New Years Yet?" by Sabrina Carpenter...

Holidays can be a ton of fun but also come with a lot of stress and pressure! I try and remind myself that the true meaning of the holidays is spending time with family, but I'd be lying if I said I wasn't spiraling over how I'm gonna cook a turkey in my nyc apartment! Luckily, I've got some good coping mechanisms and they're probably not what you'd expect!👀 Listen to "Solstice" by Matt Berry htt...

Fear has a gift too! You might not see the gift until after you've faced your fear, but it's a really good one! Also fear and worry have a lot of overlap but they feel wayyy different in the body! For me, identifying physical sensations helps me to identify what I'm feeling easier! I had a lot of fun rambling in this ep, thanks for listening! Listen to "A Troubled Mind" by Noah Kahan https://open....

Everybody knows comparison is the thief of joy but it doesn't make it any easier to not feel jealous! Jealousy is an extra hard feeling for sure and has been weighing on my mental health this week leading to more anxiety so let's talk this out! Listen to "Jealousy Jealousy" by Olivia Rodrigo https://open.spotify.com/track/0MMyJUC3WNnFS1lit5pTjk?si=475fac4a913d45ae ✨more✨ Hard Feelings eps! https...

I'm in my melancholy era just in time for 1989 Taylor's Version and honestly, I'm just baking in it! Fall brings up so many nostalgic childhood happy memories for me, but it can also leave me feeling sad for no apparent reason (aka melancholia). Tell me how you deal with feeling melancholy! Listen to "A Street That Rhymes at 6am" by Norma Tanega https://open.spotify.com/track/4xsYQI1apu1XXe53gNIhI...

This week's episode is essentially me brain dumping all of my feelings surrounding guilt and how it feels like its just gonna looming above me all the time and I know I don't need it, but I also struggle to accept it! I'd love to hear how you deal with unwarranted feelings of guilt! And warranted ones! Listen to "Growing Sideways" by Noah Kahan https://open.spotify.com/track/0k6FzyQqRzIVSWW4d0ISH5...