Goodpain Podcast

Goodpain Unplugged is a raw, unedited conversation that pulls the curtain back on the conversations we have in preparation for our seasons. Tiffany is the victim this time, as Tyler corners her to talk about what it means to "Geek Out" and why it points at the heart of Goodpain Season 3. About This Episode   Welcome to a candid conversation about what it truly means to be " geeking out ". In...

Every human life is a work in progress – literally. We are all making something: our days, our relationships, our stories, our selves. Season 3 of Goodpain asks what happens when we stop treating our lives as things that happen to us and start treating them as things we are actively making. Through conversations with makers of every kind – celebrated and unknown, professional and purely passionate...

In this episode, we take a final sprint around the track that is Season 2. Jeremy and Tyler share their brief reflections on the topic of Mature & Immature Masculinity, how it served the candid conversation for the last four months, and how it surprised them in their own personal growth. With two seasons – two dots of data – Goodpain now has a trend line, and the co-hosts consider how Goodpain...

This just ain't working for us...and it does not have to be this way. Today, our guest, Relando Thompkins-Jones of Social Justice Origin Stories and I explore how power shapes our world. We often say "just" to avoid seeing deeper truths. But maturity requires looking at the actual impact we have. We discuss who gets to set the terms of engagement. This episode explores historical design decisions...

Episode Summary In this episode, Jeremy and Tyler explore the profound responsibility of becoming a good ancestor in a world that often prioritizes immediate gratification over long-term resonance. The hosts discuss how personal maturation is found in overcoming fear and the baser instincts that keep us trapped in predictable, reactive habits. By letting go of control and the impulse to stabilize...

We have a couple more interviews coming for Season 2, but this week we take another break to bring a voice of wisdom to our audience. This week it is the man that always welcomed us into his Neighborhood, never failing to invite us to be his neighbor simply because us to know we were worth knowing.  In this recording from 2001, we hear Fred Rogers' commencement address to the graduating class...

IN THIS EPISODE What the Disconnected survey (2024) established about the college degree as the dividing line in American civic life Why the male loneliness narrative misreads the real crisis – and what "left alone by society" means instead The friendship cliff: why connections collapse after high school for men without degrees Tenuous ties and single points of failure in men's relational lives Th...

This week we sit down for a discussion with Robyn D. Walser, PhD.  Robyn  is a clinical psychologist, author, and internationally recognized trainer in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), often described as a clinician’s clinician for her deep emphasis on therapeutic presence and connection.  She is the author and coauthor of several influential ACT books, including The Heart o...

In this episode, Jeremy and Tyler explore the past as a means for informing how we can more consistently remember to make active choices. But choosing takes practice: it is easy to forget, including the ways we convinced ourselves we are certain of what will make us happy. While the word is not used, "regret" is one that could also be applied here; however, rather than use it as something to avoid...

We will return next week with more long form conversations, however, this week we continue borrowing from another voice to explore the notion of sacred inconvenience, or staying present and aware to living right now. This week we borrow the 2005 commencement address delivered to Kenyon College. The author and speaker is the late author David Foster Wallace, and the address is titled, "This is Wate...

This week we are taking a short break from our long form conversations to reflect on the idolatry of convenience .  Following a short introduction from Tyler, we share a 2004 address by author Kurt Vonnegut confronting the costs of convenience where he entreats us instead to "embrace the vitality of struggle."

This week we sit down with Chef Jay Anthony Irizzary of Cabo Rojo Cocina Caribeña , a Puerto Rican-inspired culinary brand based in Reno, NV, offering bold, authentic Latin Caribbean food and desserts. I met Jay while I was in Reno and found his restaurant my first night there. My waiter took my order, delivered my drink and my food. He was also the owner. And the chef. We swapped brief stories as...

Jeremy and Tyler take a break from their conversations to share a discussion with Amanda Jepson, Licensed Professional Counselor, Certified Sex Therapist, Board Certified Diplomate of Sexology . Amanda is an expert in sexuality including better sex intimacy and sexual trauma and instead of sex therapist hacks, she engages with a balance of maturity and fun that is approachable and honors our share...

We're back! After a nearly two-month hiatus, we have a number of interviews and discussions ready as we run out the remainder of this season.  In this return episode Jeremy and Tyler consider the statement "A mature man doesn't need to prove his strength; he creates safety for others to discover theirs." Multiple questions are explored in this conversation, and relies on some current conversa...

Jeremy & Tyler are back in the studio to how culturally rewarded patterns of thinking, feeling, and acting can function like addictions for men, keeping them trapped while believing they are powerful and "in control." The cost? Over time, they diminish the man himself, shrinking his humanity, robbing his authentic relationships, mystery, interdependence, and the possibility of a larger, more t...

We return to the topic of grief as our starting point and shared story, however, this discussion goes beyond that. In it we sit down with Bill O'Melia, who was thrust into role as an advocate following the passing of his son, Drennan in 2010. Bil and his wife, Melissa, with their two surviving sons were upheld by a sudden community that rose up around them. And a couple years later, Bill found him...

This week we speak with Fletcher Galeano, author of Letters to a Living Ghost , a memoir of his personal journey that explores themes of identity, grief, and healing. His journey involved emotional abuse, parental neglect, mental illness, family estrangement, and trauma and he shares the vulnerable details in this discussion.  Fletcher Galeano's Amazon Author Page

"Whether you are rich or whether you are poor, life delivers challenges to you" and despite these challenges, our guest Deremiah points out how much embracing our choice and autonomy regardless of the circumstances defines how we live. We do not get to choose our challenges. Learning how to listen to ourselves, to listen to each other, and rise to the challenge, helps us differentiate between livi...

This week we explore what it means to be a bully, a manipulator, a tyrant, and an addict under the siren song of "winning." We ask ourselves how the reductionist and simplistic rules of sports or the battlefield do not serve the versions of leadership to which we aspire and know we are capable of becoming. Yet when we do become the bully or tyrant, we create the reflection of ourselves to which we...

Today we sit down with our friend Kyle Quincey, former defenseman in the NHL and Owner of Do Good Ranch . Kyle shares his story coming up playing hockey in Canada through the end of his storied career in the NHL. Kyle describes how the professional system reinforces the belief tha "You're never good enough" and how that takes a toll as a professional, a provider, and an individual. While Kyle's st...

Charlie Moss is an Assistant Editor at SPIN Magazine and penned a review of Director Brian Brightly's 2025 film release The Wake, a fictional exploration of men and grief. Charlie and I connected following the article drop and in a subsequent discussion around the topic, found ourselves discussing male imagination, world building, stability, and play. This episode captures that conversation. Find...

We've explored how community begins with an inner capacity for connectedness, and how that capacity must be large enough to hold intensity without flinching. But this raises a new question: if community isn't manufactured through desire or design, what actually sustains it? What keeps the connections alive across time and distance, through seasons of plenty and seasons of scarcity? The answer lies...

This week we explore our  own encounters with how traditional expectations both elevate and imprison, leading to breakdown before breakthrough. The conversation explores: "What expectations about manhood did you inherit that nobody taught you how to actually embody?" "When have you felt most trapped by the very roles that were supposed to give you strength and purpose?" "What emotions have yo...

This week Tiffany and Tyler sit down with the author of Hold My Hand, Mama , A touching story that walks readers through the circle of life from a daughter's first steps to her mother's last and beyond. Gabrielle was the recipient of the Mom’s Choice Awards® Gold and shares her story with Goodpain and what brought her to write Hold My Hand, Mama .  Author's Links: Hold My Hand, Mama Website A...

Jeremy and Tyler open Season 02 of Goodpain with an overarching discussion of masculinity, how they arrived at the topic and introduce the importance of Initiation Rites, and what happens in their absence.  The discussion moves from Aboriginal Australia to sub-saharan Africa for wisdom involving of masculine energy. Ultimately, Jeremy & Tyler share their own formative stories around mascu...