Good Girls Talk About Sex

In part 2 of my conversation with Jessi Kneeland, we talk about working through the messaging I received as a child about my body and sexuality, learning to say "no", and how women protect men's feelings during heterosexual sex. Thanks to Jessi for interviewing ME! She is an amazing body image coach and I highly recommend following her on Instagram and signing up for her weekly #TransparentTuesday...

Julia and her partner have agreed to a certain amount of openness in their relationship – openness that they haven't taken advantage of yet. But their conversations on the topic – and Julia's clear-headed consideration of the potential pitfalls – provide an amazing example for anyone who is considering opening this door with their partner. In fact, it's so good that I think it should be required l...

Good Girls Talk About Sex is now a weekly show! Every other week you'll get these shorter solo episodes where I tell bits of my story and answer YOUR questions about sex and sexuality. Thanks to Jessi Kneeland for interviewing ME! She is an amazing body image coach and I highly recommend following her on Instagram and signing up for her weekly #TransparentTuesday emails . Also, the Am I Normal? qu...

Jillian offers us a glimpse into a story that I am intimately familiar with. It's the story of having huge blank spots in your memory along with an aversion to sex. There's nothing specific to grab on to so you can say, "This is what happened," but it's obvious that something happened. I usually sit back and let the guests tell their story, but in this instance, Jillian is actively searching for a...

Voluptuous Leah is a plus-size model and Instagram influencer. At the time this episode is released, she has over 166,000 followers and she regularly posts photos of herself, her adorable dog Luna, cute plus-size fashion, and plus-size lingerie. You can find her on Instagram at Voluptuous Leah and her website at www. VoluptuousLeah.com She is a 31-year-old, cis-gender female who describes herself...

Part 2 of our conversation with Brianna! Today she details her recent entrance into the swinger lifestyle with her husband.  She spares no details about how they discovered their mutual interest in swinging, their early conversations, and their first experiences.  She talks about the state of their relationship and how swinging has affected it, her feelings about monogamy, jealousy, and so much mo...

Brianna grew up in the Baptist church where she learned that sex was sinful. Today, Brianna talks about her childhood sexual explorations with other little girls, her unfortunate first relationship with a boy, and the beginning of her relationship with her husband, including their recent introduction into the world of swinging. Brianna is a 30-year-old cis-gender female who describes herself as wh...

Timari is a 37-year-old, cis-gender woman who describes herself as white, straight, monogamous, married and the mother of two children. She is a listener who contacted me to say that she'd like to talk about her history with abortion, because it hadn't been addressed much on the show yet. Along the way, we also talk about being raised in the Mormon church, being in an abusive marriage and cheating...

In this short solo episode, Leah talks about what she has learned since spoke to you directly in January - what she affectionately thinks of as her "breakdown" episode.  Also: Valentine's Day wishes and good news about the future of the "Good Girls Talk About Sex" podcast! Update:   Since this episode was released, the podcast has concluded. Here's how you can find me now: Book a FREE no-pressure...

Tenisha is a 29-year-old, cisgender woman who describes herself as black, heterosexual, monogamous, average body type, currently in a relationship, and Christian. A few months ago, Tenisha interviewed me for her podcast Choose Love . During that conversation, Tenisha mentioned that she was a practicing Christian who chose a period of intentional celibacy as an adult. So of course I wanted to inter...

Jazz is a 31-year-old gender non-conforming, femme-identified person who uses the pronouns "they" and "theirs". They describe themselves as black, polyamorous, and pansexual with an active dating life. The major theme of this episode is gender. Jazz talks about how genitals are not the be-all-end-all of gender. If all of the recent talk about gender as a spectrum has you confused or uncomfortable,...

In this special episode, Leah talks about her recent slide into anxiety and depression. The "too long, didn't listen" version is: the podcast will continue on a regular schedule, but I'm taking a step back from everything else to give myself some time to reset and refocus. Also, listener emails mean the world to me, so if you want to send something please do: leah@goodgirlstalkaboutsex.com .   Upd...

It's been a year! In this final episode of 2019, we revisit some of our most popular conversations so far. We've got excerpts from the Q&A portions from episodes featuring Danielle, Betsy, Jessi, and Michelle. Much of this material ended up on the cutting room floor the first time around, so it's all-new content for regular listeners (Patreon supporters got a sneak peek at these extended conversat...

Lisa is a 40-year-old cis-gender woman who describes herself as white, currently in a relationship that is heterosexual, monogamous, and long-distance. She has also long been attracted to women and is considering the likelihood that she is bisexual. Major themes in this episode include body image and eating disorders, sex outside marriage, long distance relationships, and exploring kink. Lisa's di...

Sarah is a 35-year-old, cis-gender woman who describes herself as white, married, monogamous, and pansexual. She clarified however that while she has experienced attractions to people of all genders, her sexual experiences have been limited to cis-gender males. Through her teens and early 20s, Sarah dated MUCH older men. She reflects back on those experiences, sorting through the ramifications of...

Michelle is a 42-year-old, cis-gender female who describes herself as black and married. She is currently sorting through whether she is gay or bisexual, and in the process she and her wife have opened up what was previously a monogamous marriage. Major themes in this episode include discovering (and re-discovering) sexual orientation, mismatched libido in a marriage, infidelity and honesty within...

Jo is a 58-year-old, cis-gender woman who describes herself as white, heteroflexible, and in a friends-with-benefits situation. She deals with ongoing physical issues that make sex challenging. Her preferred relationship style is "none" – as in, she doesn't want a defined romantic relationship. Before we started recording she said, "I don't want to be picking up your socks or do your laundry. I ma...

Shasta is a 45-year-old, cis-gender woman who describes herself as Canadian First Nation/Cree, heterosexual, monogamous, and married to her husband who she has been with for 20 years. Major themes in this episode include balance of power in heterosexual relationships, bedroom boredom in a long-term relationship, and working to heal childhood issues as an adult You can find Shasta online at www. Sh...

Aimee is a 37-year-old, cis-gender woman who describes herself as white, straight, and married. Although Aimee considers herself monogamous, she has recently begun an affair with another man that her husband does not know about. We talk about this extensively in the second half of the episode. Many people like Aimee are struggling in unhappy marriages and looking for affirmation and connection out...

Erin is a 34-year-old, cis-gender female who describes herself as queer, in a new relationship, she isn't certain of her preferred relationship style. Erin deals with OCD, plus related mental conditions that cause her to pull her hair (Trichotillomania) and pick her skin (Dermatillomania). Those conditions cause her nervousness when exposing herself with a new partner. Major themes in this episode...

Martyna is a 29-year-old, cis-gender woman who describes herself as white, heterosexual, monogamous, and in a relationship. She grew up in Poland and now lives in South Africa. Martyna deals with depression, and she talks today about how that has affected her relationships and sex. She also talks about how the season 1 STARS episode affected her thinking about how to talk about consent. You can fi...

Margot is a 39-year-old, cis-gender woman who describes herself as black, British, bisexual and currently in an open, long-distance relationship. She also travels widely and lives for extended periods in other parts of the world, giving her insight into different sexual cultures around the world. Major themes in this episode include open relationships, later-in-life sexual explorations, and learni...

Diana is a 37-year-old, cis-gender woman who describes herself as white, heterosexual, married and monogamous. Diana had a traumatic birth with her older son, which led to a disconnection from her body and her pleasure. She was able to have a vaginal birth with her younger child, which helped reconnect her with her body and sexuality. Major themes in this episode include sexuality after trauma fro...

Davina Bookbinder is a 33-year-old, transgender woman who describes herself as white, Jewish, queer, polyamorous and actively dating. Major themes in this episode include being transgender, discovering and navigating gender identity, and sex as a trans woman. Davina is a good friend and she and I have had long conversations about gender in general and her gender in particular.  It is because she a...

Jane is a 36-year-old, cis-gender woman who describes herself as white, heteroflexible, monogamous and with a partner of three years. Jane went to Catholic School while she was growing up in Scotland and in her family she learned that certain topics should never be discussed – including sex. Major themes in this episode include difficulty in communicating about sex, body image and sex, and explori...