Good Girls Talk About Sex

Vin goes from the prototypical good girl to a (nearly) fearless adventurer. She married young, and enjoys a positive and openly communicative sexual relationship with her husband. Vin opens up about how their initial struggle to achieve penis-in-vagina sex led her to explore erotica, kink, anal play, toys, plugs, and taboo porn, all in a curvy body. Vin is a 22-year-old cisgender female who descri...

Natalie is a 30-year-old, cisgender female who describes herself as monogamous, straight and engaged to be married.  She describes her body as petite. Natalie talks about her experiences with both binge and purge eating behaviors, and how they affected her experience of sex and her body. She also talks about sometimes trading sex for lodging when she didn't have steady housing. Natalie shares her...

I need a longer break than I anticipated, so in order to keep giving you new content, I'm releasing a handful of interviews in their uncut form. Donya started getting sexual attention very young because her body developed early. As a teenager and adult, she has experienced a wide range of relationship styles and partners. After having a child and settling into the closest thing to commitment outsi...

I told you I'd drop something fun into your feed while I'm on break and here it is! A couple days ago, I had a conversation with my friend Stefanie Michele on Instagram Live.  Stefanie is an Intuitive Eating coach who helps people break out of the binge and restrict patterns of disordered eating. We talked about the intersection of body image and sex – believing our partner actually loves our body...

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Hope is trapped in a sexually repressive, emotionally abusive marriage shaped by the patriarchal traditions and relationship culture of her country of origin. With awareness comes healing, and she hopes to spread the message to other women that they are allowed to speak up, deserving of basic decency, and even worthy of real love. Hope is a 38-year-old cisgender woman.  She describes herself as Pa...

Leah answers a listener's questions about whether she has a porn addiction, and why she can't orgasm with her husband. She talks about identifying the function of porn, not taking on shame, and navigating a relationship agreement around it.   Bookmark moments: "Am I normal?" A listener calls in with two inter-related questions: is it normal to be unable to orgasm through intercourse with my husban...

Charlotte's sexual journey has taken the deep bends—and openings—of the yoga she practices. She met her husband in a guru community, fled it, had two daughters, reclaimed her body, and is now exploring "high-fidelity" polyamory in several configurations. Charlotte is a 45-year-old cisgender female. She describes herself as white, and perimenopausal with an athletic body. Her sexual orientation and...

Leah shares a coaching session with Cindy, a married mother of one, for support around a very human variety of issues: decreased libido, sex after motherhood, love languages, pandemic life, sex for connection vs. conception, miscarriage, self-care, homework, and grace.   Bookmark moments: Cindy talks about participating in coaching in one of Leah's group sessions, and catches us up on what life lo...

Caitlin returns for a follow-up coaching session with her partner, Chris. They check in with Leah about their BDSM explorations, dom/sub dynamics, communication in and out of play sessions, aftercare, safe words, bruising, pleasure, and sourcing and trying new ideas. Caitlin and Chris catch Leah up on the new-to-them BDSM they've been exploring and what they'd like support with. They get into spec...

Tee is unhappily married, and unhappy with her sex life—like so many people. Also like too many, she experiences the lingering impacts of sexual assault. She's doing the work of setting boundaries, trying to provide a good example for her kids, and is still hoping someday she'll find a communicative and loving partner. Tee shares her first memory of sexual pleasure around age 16, having an electri...

Leah shares a coaching session with client Caitlin to give us an in-depth experience of what coaching looks and feels like. Caitlin is divorced and currently in a friends-with-benefits heterosexual relationship. She and Leah had discussed fantasies and BDSM in previous private sessions; here they focus on Caitlin's new (or perhaps not new?) sexual attraction to women, and how she might begin to ex...

Stephanie shares how childhood shame about feeling good in her body led to an eating disorder. She talks about how the eating disorder affected her ability to relate with sexual partners, including her now-husband. Healing the eating disorder has allowed her to begin relating in a new way with her body and her husband.   Stephanie shares her first memory of sexual play at age 5 or 6, accidentally...

Dr. Evelin Dacker returns to answer a listener's question about common and chronic UTI's that occur after sex. She breaks down the how and why, and addresses prevention and treatment. She explains how naturopaths can restore balance to your vaginal ecology without creating a medical wasteland, and recommends some home remedies so that you too can help your vagina help itself.   Listener question:...

"Deaf U" star Alexa Paulay-Simmons gets candid about who she is (and always has been) as a sexual person, and how that's shaped her life—both on the inside through her choices and experiences, and on the outside with the tight-knit Deaf community and the show's global audience. Alexa is a 24-year-old cisgender female. She describes herself as white, straight, monogamous, with a sporty body. She wa...

Hey friends, You'll notice this isn't the regular episode you were expecting!  The regular episode was loaded into the feed, and some of you may have already downloaded and listened to it. However, I made an error in the production of this episode so, in fairness to our guest, I've pulled the episode to fix it. Here's what happened – Our guest, Alexa, is Deaf and we did the interview through an in...

"The story of our pandemic sex life: it has not been pretty." Host Leah gets raw and real about how her intimate life has weathered the storm of a year-long international crisis, and about how confronting her partner's depression spiral turned out to be a better strategy—for both of them—than enduring it competently. We have transcripts! Plus: part of why that is awesome is our upcoming interview...

Debbie was formed by experiences of both pleasure and pain. She was blessed with good early relationships, but also is a survivor of the epidemic of sexual abuse in elite women's sport. Her faith in herself helped her choose to heal. Debbie is a 52-year-old cisgender female.  She describes herself as white, heterosexual, monogamous, married, and post-menopausal.  She describes her body as average....

STARS is an easy-to-remember acronym for conversations that lead to awesome consensual sex. Dr. Evelin Dacker developed the STARS method to create a way for potential and current partners to have a thorough and safe conversation about physical and relationship expectations. What is the STARS conversation? Plus, if you've had it before, you should have it again. Dr. Evelin Dacker explains sex posit...

Lachlan was born with a vagina. His is the story of how a boy learned to be a girl, then learned to be invisible, then a lesbian, before learning that he could just be who he was all along, except that it's still … complicated. Lachlan is a 41-year-old transgender man. He describes himself as white, straight-ish, monogamish and single. He describes his body as a round, cuddly bear. Lachlan shares...

What kind of touch do you enjoy? Have you thought about the ways, and places? Touch is a many-splendored thing. If you don't know what kind of touch you like, there's nothing wrong with you—but you have some (really fun) homework to do! A chorus of voices answer the question "What is your favorite kind of touch?". Leah answers. She first discovered what kind of touch she likes while drifting durin...

Leah met Gretchen at Sex Geek Summer Camp. They realized they share remarkably similar journeys; both started having sex later in life, believed that they were broken, then sought out sexual experiences and healing. Significantly, both engaged the services of a tantric practitioner. Gretchen is a cisgender 46-year-old cisgender woman. She describes herself as bisexual and polyamorous.  She describ...

Even people who think they're sexually open have hard red lines. This week Leah digs into discerning where your absolute no's are, why they might be there, and how to share them with your partner(s). A chorus of voices answer the question, "What are your hard red lines?" Leah talks about her own hard red lines, a surprising number of which have to do how she is treated rather than specific acts. L...

Candi lives with Muscular Dystrophy. She shares how it progressed and how it changed her physical capabilities over her lifetime, and what it's like to date and to have sex with a visible disability. She also opens up about loving rough sex and BDSM, despite an appearance—and often others' assumption—of fragility. Candi shares her first memory of sexual desire, a seemingly spontaneous discovery of...

After having a baby, a mom is left feeling alone in the process of re-learning her body. Leah explains why it's more than okay to seek support, and how that can generate its own kind of healing.   A listener gave birth 3 years ago, and is still struggling with her altered body. She asks if she's supposed to deal with it on her own, or if she can ask per partner for support. Leah shares her own str...