Give Grief A Chance

Coping with anticipatory grief is no different than coping with the grief you feel after someone dies. However, it does present some challenges as grieving can start before the loss occurs, and some people find themselves grieving for years.

Over 30 years ago Elizabeth Kubler-Ross wrote a book called 'on death and dying' in which she outlined the 5 stages of grief. She had been observing people who were living with terminal illness and how those stages are more likely to be experienced by a dying patient. However, they were never intended to be be used as a tool to move through grief.

Journaling through grief has many benefits, it can help you to process your thoughts and feelings because many people don't know what they are feeling until they write it down. Putting those thoughts and emotions into words gives you the time to deeply reflect and perhaps better understand that grief within you, it can also reveal things that you consciously haven't thought about. 

Using your intuition and listening to it can play an important role in overcoming grief. Listening to it can help you to tune into your emotions and express them. It can guide you to focus in and look at how you truly feel about your loss, and it can help you to identify coping mechanisms that will work best for you.  

Christine is an Intuitive Mindset Coach and Energy Worker, she uses her intuition to guide her with all of her coaching sessions and teachings and puts her heart and souls into the work she loves. Christine specializes in supporting those on their journey of awakening and offers guidance and support to those moving from grief to happiness. 

For most, the teenage years can be turbulent years, as we know that teenagers go through many changes in their body and behaviors. It's a time where they begin to breakaway from their parents to develop their own identities. Add grief and loss to the mix, and life becomes even more complex and intense.

Survivor's guilt is a particular kind of guilt that affects people who have survived a life threatening situation. Many feel guilty because they survived while others died, some feel like they could have done more to prevent or save lives of others, and there are those who feel guilty because another person died saving the. 

When someone you love has died, your grief journey begins and it can affect you emotionally, physically and spiritually. In order to heal it's important to understand the how and why you are feeling the way you do and how to cope with it. Come and listen to this week's guest who lovingly shares the loss of her husband and son, and tells how it motivated her to help others who are traveling on the...

Many people tell me that they can't let go and move on from their grief because they feel like it would be disrespectful to the person who's died or, that they would start to forget about them. And if they are not filled with such intense pain over that person being gone, surly that must mean that they no longer miss them. Or, it may seem that way.  

Our lives are full of so many losses and sadly we don't acknowledge half of them, it's usually when a loved one dies that we finally name our feelings of grief. Come and listen to my guest who is ready to share her story and give her grief a voice.  

One of the biggest problems I often see, is that once people have taken their first recovery steps, they tend to forget that grief is an ongoing process and sometimes new things about that relationship may come up. If they don't deal with those issues when they arise, they may fall back into old habits and try to stuff down any new pain. Life is work, relationships are work, and nobody, can do the...

How many times have you heard people say things like “just let it go” “move on” or “get over it.” Is it really that easy to let go and ignore the emotional pain that sits heavy in your heart? In this weeks episode I offer a few steps to begin the process of letting go and moving forward.

The thought of digging up one's past can seem very daunting and counterproductive to healing, but your past plays a much bigger role in your present than you may realise. You see, we consciously or subconsciously hold onto those past experiences, and those feelings stay with us even though they may no longer be of any use to us. 

Come and listen to my chat with our local psychic - medium David Merritt. A reading with a truly gifted medium can change your life and help you  through your grief and offer a certain level of evidence that the soul survives death. Dave has helped so many people in their time of need as he supports his clients on their grief journey, especially those who are eager to communicate with their deceas...

Grief is a journey and the roads we take are not all the same. We all have our own coping skills, healthy or unhealthy, and we all have our own way of dealing with it. One thing we can associate with grief is that for most of us is can be extremely challenging, unbelievably heartbreaking and painful. 

Sadly, we seem to think that emotions are something outside of us, but all emotions including happiness are created in our mind. Yes! bad things happen and circumstances beyond our control do affect us, especially when it comes to loss. As a society we are brainwashed into thinking we need something external, outside of us to change the way we feel. But, we need to feel in order to heal. The power...

There is no set time table for how long grief will last or how you will feel at any particular time on your journey. Living with loss is different for everyone and for most, grief never fully disappears, but there are ways to cope and tools to help you let go of your emotional pain.

I feel that many of us do not realize the amount of grief and loss that Veterans carry around with them. They experience so much loss especially if the person serves in many wars. And if they do not deal with their loss, overtime it piles up and they drag around unresolved grief, that grief those men and women carry can weigh heavy on their hearts and minds.  

When someone dies, grief begins. When grieving someone who's life is ruled by addictive behavior, your world can be full of ups and downs and  filled with so many overwhelming emotions, and most of the time, the family struggles right along with the addict. 

Some of us have become very good at holding onto put pain, mainly because we've carried it since childhood. And many can't let go of their emotional pain because they haven't accepted things that have happened in the past and without acceptance, there is no healing journey.

Death can bring out the best and the worst in families, and family dysfunction is a real thing, and it happens..lot! Estrangement, dysfunction, and conflict are significant losses that are not clearly understood by our society, but with them they bring an overwhelming amount of grief.  

Commitment is not a mere wish or a promise that can be broken, it's about staying true to yourself and staying committed to your goal. A commitment can be about taking care of yourself and to keep moving forward in life even when it feels hard. So why not, commit to YOU! 

If you've listened to any of my podcasts, you'll often hear me say that "every relationship is unique, and we all have our own unique experience with grief." Comparing ourselves to others in any way is a recipe for unhappiness because, comparing never helps, it only hurts. 

For some people they may not experience their grief the way they thought they would, or, they do not acknowledge their loss and show no signs of grief. And there are many reasons why people do not experience an emotional reaction when someone dies or they lose something significant to them. Everyone's grief is unique! 

It's not always easy to make changes especially when dealing with emotional loss. When times are tough and some of us are feeling chipped and scared, we don't seem to realize that we actually have very few useful and valuable habits to help us manage our pain and loss.