Gaydars for Gaysians

I'm know I'm late so I'm gonna cut right to the chase: Hayden and I talk about dating and sex as trans individuals, while Hayden also parts wisdom to the future celeb-to-be (yes, that's me, Keeping Up with Aster). Stay till the end to hear us play Fuck, Marry, Kill with cleansing toiletries (wink wink). Follow Hayden @hayden.royalty! If you want to send Kenneth a message while...

G4G has made it! We finally have a not-a-friend-of-aster guest, and they are also internet-famous! Hayden Royalty, whose coming out video had made gayby Aster cry 4 years ago, kindly visited the studio to talk about their Korean-American queer experience, nonbinary-genderqueer identity, and social anxiety. We have a part 2 lined up next week focused on dating, sex, & being internet-famous, so...

What's up Gaysians! What a ball-slapping comeback with Aster's partner-in-crime Erica Silver to spill so much tea (Trust me, so much tea).  Erica confesses her sins of calling herself feminist while being choked in bed by dom daddies, voting for democrats while fucking registered republicans, remaining Christian while being a raging bitch, & many more. We also discuss the Clubhouse p...

I'm lazy so I'm gonna get right to the point: Rowan's back and we talk about differences between Korean and American queer culture (particularly lesbian), and internalized homophobia (or how much we hate ourselves). To tip it off, we play Fuck, Marry, Kill with Rowan's favorite celestial objects.  If you want to send Kenneth a message while he's in the military, send him a...

Sit down with our guest, Dolphin, and learn all about polyamory & pansexuality. What is it like to be in multiple relationships AT THE SAME TIME? How do you deal with all the fish in the water if you don't discriminate at all? But wait...she's also a devout 유교걸 (Confucian-girl) who loves coexistence with her not-so-tolerating family. Learn all about how you can be a good Korean gi...

Fuck the gym, and get ready for this ab workout as you follow  #TinderQueen Victoria's instructions on how to cockblock. She opens her vault of  stories of horny men all around the world, encountered online and offline. Trust me, you don't want to miss this. We also tackle the question of not feeling Asian enough, and play Fuck, Marry, Kill, & Save with Tinder, Hinge, CofeeMeetsBagel...

What do you do if your friend changes genders? Aster's friend Victoria Vicious has all the answers. As #tinder-queen, Victoria shows off her #trans-ally skills to give advice on how to help your trans friend as they are socially transitioning. Aster also rants about his damned attempts of pretending to be "stealth" in front of his vocal instructor and fucked-up Korean psychiatry as...

To be fully honest with y’all, today’s episode is definitely not the easiest to follow, but we can assure you that the rough journey will totally be worth it. We start with the introduction of our guest, an extremely heterosexual Korean man (Ken can attest to this, so you know it’s true) and we take a very, very sharp turn to talk about Aster’s highschool trauma from a third person’s point of view...

Who says only straight men can date "straight" women? Sometimes, the queers do it better. In this episode, trans guy Aster invites gay girl Rowan to give tips to straight men on how to hit on straight women successfully. Before we dive into these absolutely practical pieces of advice, Aster touches on Elliot Page's coming out, the similarities between Corona and STD testings, and hi...

Our dear boy Kenneth is going off to the military, so we decided to dedicate an episode to him (finally, after all that talk about Aster). We delve deep into his biggest fears (and fantasies) being surrounded by cishet men, his question of to-come-out-or-not-to-come-out, & his overall feelings about this process.  WARNING: This is not his last episode, so stay tuned in  for our following episo...

Our SinBs hit the studio again, but this time with advice on how to escape singlehood. So here are pieces of advice that you should follow that they all haven't followed (or have tried to follow but failed). Stay tuned in to keep up with Fun, Marry, & Save with our holy SinBs till the end!   Follow our instagram @gaydarsforgaysians , our personals @asterhwang and @kenkang__ , and our yout...

Isn’t it depressing that a 23-year old has never been in a relationship? Well, most Koreans will sure think so - but we are here today to prove you wrong. To prove to you that the lives of SinBs (Single-since-births) are more full-of-love than they look, we have invited two other SinB guests who will share their life stories along with our own SinB, Ken. In our first episode about SinBs, they will...

TW: Suicide, mental health issues, depression, and anxiety. This episode, we have quite a lengthy introduction - we give you the explanation on our hiatus since we owe that to you guys and we have a little bit of fun by critiquing Call Me By Your Name with our vast literature-art knowledge. And with that, you probably can somewhat guess that this episode, we delve back into the past to celebrate t...

What’s the recurring theme of our podcast? I mean there is a lot, but the big one is STD: Sexuality, Trauma, and Depression. And this episode sort of brings all those together. You will be hearing from Aster first how his top-surgery went (and he will also give out some very useful advice to anyone considering it as well). Then you will get to listen to our possibly the smoothest transition yet so...

We’ve gone over so many topics in this podcast non-stop talking about the Gaysian Lifestyle™. But we’ve yet to cover possibly the most relevant and definitely the most traumatic one yet -- coming out to your (Asian) family. This episode, we become your wiki how and tell you step by step (with maybe too much detail) on how to actually make the best out of a dreadful event. Then we compare having to...

Sit with us in this very special episode as we talk about all things Aster -- more specifically Aster’s top surgery. Before he goes into his top surgery, we’ll get to learn what top surgery really entails, how he feels, and what took him to get here. There’s going to be a whole lot of anxiety-coping-laughters, a shit load of more traumatic stories, and possibly a few drops of tears. After this wee...

Were you ever confused when your friend said ‘That twink is so cute’? And then you tried to figure out if ‘that twink’ was that hulking tattooed guy, the long-haired girl, or the thin barista? Well we are finally here to teach you some queer lingo so that you’ll get the full tea when your friend says “Did you hear about the mtf girl dating that kinsey-level 3 twink with an Onlyfans page?” And spea...

Hurry and sit down, we need to spill the T -- and yes that is T for Trauma. This episode we talk about all the things that have scarred us for life, from that straight highschool crush (that all you queers had) to an unfortunate coming out story. So be ready to cry-laugh with us because you know trauma’s the only reason we are funny as hell today. And stay till the end to listen to us answer your...

Oh damn, look at his wrist snap, that hair flip -- wait are her nails unpainted, and did she just say Kristen Stewart? This episode, we talk about Gaydars for Gaysians: the survival of the fittest -- how we use gaydars as Gaysians to survive in this jungle of heteronormativity. Then stay as we play our own game of fuck, marry, kill with three ridiculous concepts and answer some burning questions p...

Freud always talks about Daddy issues, but does he ever talk about how it just feels so wrong to call your daddy "Appa"? Well, we’ll do it for you. In this episode, we talk about what it means for gaysians to be bilingual: honestly, a curse and a blessing. We talk aboutwhat languages we find romantic then quickly turn it into “Ooh yes, slap me and fuck me harder”. So come and sit with tw...

Straighties, be surprised because we haven’t forgotten about you --- Wait, oh my god, your friend just came out to you! What are you gonna say? What are you gonna say? WHAT ARE YOU GONNA SAY? “Oh, uh, hey look at that red car, I think it’s a Hyundai”. Uh, no. This episode, we talk about some reactions that we would hate and  love from y’all when gays come out, act ‘too’ gay, or make out in public....