Full But Not Finished

In this Q&A episode, I'm answering two questions about eating disorder recovery. The first is about how to make peace with the years an eating disorder took — the grief of looking back and realizing how much of life was shaped by food, body image, fear, and survival, without blaming yourself for not recovering sooner. The second question is about why body image can still matter, even when part of...

In this episode, I'm joined by Marcus Kain Murray of Strong Not Starving for a conversation about strength training that goes beyond reps, programming, and pushing harder. We talk about what changes when training becomes something you practice instead of something you perform for approval. Marcus gets into why a workout can feel hard and still be the wrong kind of hard, how the fitness industry se...

More from Stef: Binge Eating to Intuitive Eating (BE2IE) Self-Study Course iamstefaniemichele.com/iamstefaniemichelecourse.com What happens when a food restriction is not coming from diet culture, but from an actual health need? In this episode of  Full But Not Finished , I'm answering a listener question about giving up gluten for an autoimmune condition, feeling better physically, and then sudde...

In this episode, I'm joined by Minea for a conversation about food recovery, body image, control, and what happens when you understand the concepts but still don't feel safe enough to let go. This is not a neat success story, and that is exactly why I wanted to share it. Minea talks about growing up as a child who loved food, the moment her body began to feel like something other people could judg...

Last week, I talked about resistance to exercise and how movement can become safer when it is no longer tied to weight loss, punishment, or proving yourself. This week is the other side of the coin: what happens when exercise becomes compulsive and rest starts to feel threatening. Movement can be genuinely regulating. It can help us feel strong, embodied, capable, grounded, and in control. But tha...

Exercise can be hard to separate from weight loss, calorie burning, food compensation, discipline, and body control. In this episode, I'm talking about how to rebuild your relationship with movement after dieting, binge eating, restriction, or years of using exercise as a way to change your body. For a lot of people, exercise does not feel neutral. It can bring up old rules, old pressure, old fear...

  In this episode, Stef talks with her husband, Mike, about what it was like to support her through years of binge eating, restriction, body shame, and recovery. They talk about what he noticed in the early years of their relationship, what he misunderstood, what helped him understand binge eating more clearly, and why trying to "fix" it usually didn't work. They also discuss the quieter parts of...

Hilary Duff's "Strong Not Small" campaign has brought up a bigger conversation about wellness culture, diet culture, fitness ideals, and the way bodies are still expected to show up. On the surface, "strong not small" sounds like progress, especially for millennial women who grew up in the early 2000s celebrity body-shaming era. We were taught to fear weight gain, compare ourselves to famous women...

Aging is natural, but women are rarely allowed to experience it that way. In this episode, I talk with Deb Benfield, author of Unapologetic Aging , about the pressure women face to keep defying the evidence. This conversation is really about the promise underneath anti-aging culture: that if we can stay young enough, thin enough, smooth enough, or close enough to the ideal, we might stay safe, wan...

Nutrition is a complicated, sometimes scary word after ED recovery or dropping out of diet culture. You may want more energy, steadier meals, better digestion, or a way of eating that supports your body more consistently. But the second nutrition enters the conversation, it can start to feel threatening. Old rules come back. The pressure to get it right comes back. Even a small thought about prote...

In this episode of  Full but Not Finished , I'm talking with Alison about finding food freedom as a mom after weight gain, years of dieting, and years of living in the binge/restrict cycle. The Body Image Workshop is open! Allison grew up in peak 90s diet culture, with cottage cheese, "Can't Believe It's Not Butter," and the message that gaining weight was something to fear. When her body changed...

Bad body image day? I'm sharing five things I use in real time to interrupt the spiral, work with nervous system dysregulation, and get through a trigger without letting it take over the whole day. We talk about body neutrality, somatic tools, movement, distraction, and what to do when you're too flooded to think clearly. (This episode idea came to me as I was talking to a client on Whatsapp and w...

What happens when two body image coaches start talking "off the record"? (also: Join The Body Image Workshop this May for more of this type of conversation) In this special joint episode, Stefanie Michele - a Binge Eating Recovery Coach and Kristina Bruce, a Body Peace Coach share a raw, unedited conversation that was originally happening offline. We realized the "good stuff" coming up was too imp...

If you feel like you think about food more than other people, or your appetite just seems… bigger — this episode is going to matter. This episode is about   appetite and mental hunger , and why both are so often misunderstood in binge eating recovery. A lot of people assume that thinking about food a lot means something is wrong. Or that if a "normal" meal doesn't satisfy them, they're doing somet...

Why does body image get so much harder when you go away, even when you thought you were doing pretty well?  You're out of your routine, around other people more, dealing with different clothes, different food, different plans, different mirrors, and less of what normally helps you feel like yourself . It makes sense that body image can get activated there.. In this Q&A episode, I'm answering liste...

After a recent trip to the beach with friends, I found myself thinking: body image doesn't ever "finish" or resolve in a permanent way. It shifts, it resurfaces, and certain environments bring it right back to the surface. In this episode, I talk through what came up for me on this trip and why body image often intensifies on vacation. Being out of your routine, in different clothes, around other...

Anger is one of the most important emotions in recovery, and one of the hardest for people to let themselves feel. In this episode, I talk about why anger gets such a bad reputation, why so many of us are afraid of it, and why I think it is deeply connected to body image, shame, binge eating, restriction, and boundaries. Many people associate anger with aggression or danger. Others grew up in envi...

In this Intuitive Eating Q&A episode, we're unpacking three nuanced questions that often come up in recovery and food freedom work:   ✨ How to say no to food without slipping back into restriction ✨ Whether eating lighter before a brunch or event can still be intuitive ✨ Why food can feel less exciting after recovery — and what that means   Many people assume food freedom is only about permissi...

Processed foods are having a cultural moment, and the way they're discussed online is so extreme that it's hard to know what to trust without feeling stressed or guilty. In this episode, I'm talking about why the fear-based language around ultra-processed foods is such a red flag, and why I don't trust conversations that rely on absolutist claims meant to scare you into compliance (or sell you som...

If you're in recovery and you keep hitting the same walls, you might need more help than you want to admit. In this episode, I'm talking about what it looked like for me to recruit support during my all-in recovery from years of binge eating + restriction, and why it can feel so loaded to say, "I can't do this by myself right now." Here's what we get into:  Why needing help can feel like a charact...

Many of us live in a nervous system state where movement, productivity, and momentum feel like safety. Slowing down doesn't feel restful — it feels threatening. And when the body starts asking for less, the mind often panics and tries to think, plan, or "fix" its way out. This episode explores what happens at the edge of capacity, when exhaustion collides with fear, and your system begins demandin...

In this Q&A episode, I answer three listener questions that sit right at the intersection of body image, recovery, hormones, and nervous system patterns—especially in midlife. First: a listener in perimenopause is struggling with body acceptance and has convinced herself she needs to lose weight now to "get ahead" of the weight gain she expects menopause will bring. We start by naming what this fe...

Restriction doesn't only mean "eating less." It can also mean living with food rules in your head, shutting down emotions you don't know how to hold, or staying stuck in a stress state without relief. Any of those experiences can create a scarcity of safety, and scarcity is one of the biggest drivers of binge eating and overeating. This episode breaks down four types of restriction: • Physical res...

Ever feel bad about your body and go straight to food? That moment feels confusing, self-defeating, and impossible to explain to anyone who hasn't lived it. This episode is about that moment — why it happens, what's actually driving it, and why the reaction makes far more sense than you've been told. Inside this conversation, we look at the psychological and nervous-system dynamics that turn body...

For years I have talked about binge eating, compulsive eating, and the binge & restrict cycle — and how chaotic and dysregulated those patterns feel in the body. But what if restriction itself is also a form of nervous system dysregulation ? In this episode, I break down how food restriction shows up inside the four trauma responses — fight, flight, freeze, and fawn — using polyvagal theory, nervo...