From Surviving to Thriving: A No Tools, No Techniques Shift from Stress and Overwhelm to Fulfilment

I spent so many years being busy! I wore it like a badge of honour. 'How are you, Clare?', people would ask. 'Busy!', I would answer proudly. I was in a rush to get somewhere. Always with the sense of 'when I get x, I will feel y'. I tried to control people and circumstances and even MY thoughts, feelings, and behaviour. Busy! Busy! Busy! But once I realised that the outsid...

Here is part two of ChatGPT's definition of confidence. Confidence can manifest in various ways, such as the willingness to take risks, assertiveness in communicating, and the ability to handle challenges and setbacks with resilience. It can be built through experience, competence, positive feedback, and supportive relationships. Listen as I unpick this definition from an inside out perspective. G...

What is going on when confidence dips? … … can seem like a really complicated question to answer. Especially if we are to believe that confidence is something we get from the outside world; from tools and techniques designed to apparently build confidence. But what if what was actually happening was that confidence was simply being covered over by our conditioned thoughts about ourselves? What if...

Confidence can easily look anything but inherent. It can feel more like something which is fleeting and hard to keep hold of. But something huge happens when we start to look towards the inherent nature of confidence. That which is there in very small children but then seems to disappear. Once you see that your confidence is permanent, essential and characteristic, a whole new version of you can e...

Feelings have a lot in common with unpleasant smells. A metaphor which can help us see the nature of feelings. Once we see the nature of feelings and how they work, we can be less caught up in trying to change them. Join me as I explore this from a new perspective. Get a FREE GIFT: 5 Simple Truth to Take You Closer to Calm: https://claredownham.com/5-simple-truths-to-take-you-closer-to-calm/ Get f...

I searched on ChatGPT for the definition of confidence. This is part one of what it said, 'Confidence generally refers to a belief or trust in oneself, one's abilities, knowledge, and judgment. It is a feeling or attitude of self-assurance and belief in one's capacity to accomplish a task or succeed in a particular situation.' Listen as I unpick this definition from an inside out perspective. Get...

We are all born confident. We learn some things which cover it up. Things which kept us safe at one stage. Things which are now getting in our way. We can unlearn those things. We can learn new ways to be, do and feel in the world. We just have to know it is possible. Join me as I explore this from a new perspective. Get a FREE GIFT: 5 Simple Truth to Take You Closer to Calm: https://claredownham....

Do you feel like you are playing confidence hide and seek? Like it is there one moment and gone the next. Perhaps this is causing you to avoid things you would really love to do. Maybe it means you can't ask for what you want. Once you know that confidence is the constant and thought is the fluctuating part, all that changes. Join me as I explore this from a new perspective. Get a FREE GIFT: 5 Sim...

I have been exploring the 3 Principles for just over 3 years. This weekend I reflected on how I have changed. I thought you might like to hear about it. With the understanding that the change is possible for you too. Join me as I explore this from a new perspective. Get a FREE GIFT: 5 Simple Truth to Take You Closer to Calm: https://claredownham.com/5-simple-truths-to-take-you-closer-to-calm/ Get...

Have you noticed how confidence can suddenly emerge. Before you are doing the thing, anxiety is rising. When you step up and do it, the anxiety falls away. It's all about where your attention is. On thinking about the thing or doing the thing. Join me as I explore this from a new perspective. Get a FREE GIFT: 5 Simple Truth to Take You Closer to Calm: https://claredownham.com/5-simple-truths-to-ta...

Confidence can seem complicated to understand. It can seem even more complicated to get. It looks like something we have to look for endlessly. But once you understand how confidence really works, it becomes naturally abundant. Join me as I explore this from a new perspective.  Get a FREE GIFT: 5 Simple Truth to Take You Closer to Calm: https://claredownham.com/5-simple-truths-to-take-you-closer-t...

You might have noticed that you feel confident in some situations but not others. Maybe you think that it's because some situations are more comfortable. But really that's not true. Your feelings have nothing to do with the situation and everything to do with your thinking about the situation. Once you see this, you can do so much more no matter how you feel. Join me as I explore this from a new p...

Our confidence can seem to go up and down. Once minute we are rocking it. The next we feel wracked with fear. It can leave us unsure if confidence will show up when we need it. But the main problem is a misunderstanding about what confidence is. Once this misunderstanding is cleared, life gets easier. Join me as I explore this from a new perspective. Get a FREE GIFT: 5 Simple Truth to Take You Clo...

I went all round the houses looking for the way to be more productive. I tried every tool and techniques. I tried therapy. I poked around in the past looking for the cause. Then I met a coach. He taught me a simple truth. Productivity naturally emerged. No more tools and techniques. No more therapy. Join me as I explore this from a new perspective. Get a FREE GIFT: 5 Simple Truth to Take You Close...

Productivity working from home is so much harder than when you are in the office is yet another lie you have been told! It’s another outside-in lie. Your outside circumstances have no impact on your ability to do something. Unless there is actually someone sitting on your chest, preventing you from moving. I know it feels like it sometimes but there isn't really anyone there. If you can move your...

If you want to be more productive, the first thing is to get your hands on manual for you. Because everything works better once you have the manual. Even you! The manual gives you the means to understand! To understand your psycho-spiritual system. To understand your thoughts and feelings. To understand the reasons for your behaviour. Join me for a story today as I explore this from a new perspect...

I wonder how many productivity hacks you have tried. I invested in a fair few myself over the years. Some helped a bit but nothing really seemed to really resolve the issue. I realise now that it was because they were all outside hacks. They did not help me understand what what going on inside me. Once I understood the inside, the outside productivity fell into place. Join me as I explore this fro...

Searching for the reason we don't feel motivated can take us down many rabbit holes. Therapy Tool and Techniques Many, many books I tried them all. To the point of frustration! Once we realise that it is simpler than we think, we can stop al that searching and get on with our lives. Join me as I explore this from a new perspective. Get a FREE GIFT: 5 Simple Truth to Take You Closer to Calm: https:...

Something amazing happens when you do something you have been resisting. A big chunk of your conditioning starts to fall away. It’s like the protection is no longer needed. The thinking which was keeping you safe. And the more you do it, the more free you become. Of course it helps to know that the feeling of resistance is coming from your conditioning and not from the thing you need to get done....

There are some misunderstandings about love. They are like all the other misunderstandings about the human experience. They point to our experience being created outside in not inside out. The misunderstanding which creates so much suffering. Love is what you are made of. It is at your essence. It does not come from outside. When you see this, you find yourself feeling love more of the time. Join...

It can seem like feeling motivated is something to seek. A feeling we can get from the outside world. There are all sorts of tips and tricks. Just try searching on Google!! But what if all this was based on a misunderstanding about what motivation really is. Join me as I explore this from a new perspective. Get a FREE GIFT: 5 Simple Truth to Take You Closer to Calm: https://claredownham.com/5-simp...

Have you ever pondered the cause of perfectionism? It's interesting and perhaps not what you expect. Once you see the cause, it begins to fall away. A subtle raising of awareness which changes everything. Join me as I explore this from a new perspective. Get a FREE GIFT: 5 Simple Truth to Take You Closer to Calm: https://claredownham.com/5-simple-truths-to-take-you-closer-to-calm/ Get full access...

How do you feel about putting yourself out there? Inviting people to work with you. Requesting a raise. Asking that special someone out on a date. Does fear come up. Does it feel like you can't do it. Do you stop in your tracks? Something amazing happens when you see the truth of our separate realities powerfully. You stop taking things personally and make the request. Join me as I explore this fr...

Perfection does not exist  It's an illusion  But seeking it can create a lot of stress.  Join me as I explore this from a new perspective. Get a FREE GIFT: 5 Simple Truth to Take You Closer to Calm: https://claredownham.com/5-simple-truths-to-take-you-closer-to-calm/ Get full access to From Surviving to Thriving at claredownham.substack.com/subscribe

I would say there is a pretty clear link between perfectionism and procrastination. If we have an idea about how something has to be, it might seem overwhelming. As a result we might not get started. Or if we start we may never finish. Join me as I explore this from a new perspective. FREE DOWNLOAD: 5 Simple Truths to Take You Closer to Calm - https://claredownham.com/5-simple-truths-to-take-you-c...