Friend Crush with Amber Akilla

reflecting on my first (few) crushes in god knows how long lol follow me ☆ https://instagram.com/amberakilla/ https://instagram.com/friend.crush/ https://www.tiktok.com/@amberakilla https://www.youtube.com/@amberakilla https://twitter.com/amberakilla https://soundcloud.com/amberakilla https://open.spotify.com/user/amberakilla

welcome welcome back to friend crush!!! can't believe its season five! i started this podcast during the pandemic as a creative outlet after having my original plans for 2020 cancelled, it became a way for me to process and organise my thoughts in the most cute, chaotic and critical way that i can manage. i made it back to shanghai last year and released season four after a few months of being bac...

wow i can’t believe we’re up to the 70th episode of friend crush!!! thank you so much for tuning in, sending your feedback, sending questions and topic suggestions and sharing with your friends! i’m actually so shook and can’t that you enough! we’re going to go on a lil breaky break over the northern hemisphere summer so i can focus on other projects and prepare for the next season. wishing everyo...

there's a difference between a broken heart and a bruised ego when it comes to breakups - friendship, work, romantic or otherwise. how we process and move on from different ailments requires different treatments! subscribe for exclusive episodes & perks! ♡ ⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/friend-crush/subscribe⁠ ask me a question~ receive a written pep talk from me! https://direct.me/l/67j...

they broke your trust? you DO NOT break no contact. STAND UP! subscribe for exclusive episodes & perks! ♡ ⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/friend-crush/subscribe⁠ SUBSCRIBE N COMMENT ON YOUTUBE PLS xoxo ask me a question~ receive a written pep talk from me! https://direct.me/l/67j6 follow me ☆ https://instagram.com/amberakilla/ https://www.tiktok.com/@amberakilla https://www.youtube.com/@a...

what are my thoughts on long distance relationships? is it worth the mental, emotional and financial investment? i discuss using my personal experience with long distance relationships and also reflect on where i'm at now when it comes to what i would want from a romantic commitment. subscribe for exclusive episodes & perks! ♡ ⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/friend-crush/subscribe⁠ let me...

this week's episode i attempted to answer multiple questions but only managed to answer two lol first we discuss how to start developing discipline and creating habits, how i personally managed to start being more consistent with grounding practices. secondly we talk about whether there is a binary choice between living with family and saving money or moving out and working full time. i also want...

too often we're made to feel like love and career are incompatible but i think that's an illusion. love can come from so many sources not just romance and different chapters and relationships in your life will facilitate different kinds of love and fulfilment. there's more to life than settling down, there's more to live for than romantic love and your journey will be unique to you! stay hot and h...

exploring an actually quite complex topic in today’s episode which i will continue to turn over in my mind. what do you do when your political values with a friend start to diverge into almost incompatible territories? on the one hand i think that its important to detach from the direction relationships can take and do your best to have empathy for others, while i also recognize that certain polit...

look, i go on a few tangents in this one but we're discussing betrayal trauma, sinophobia and then answering a question from a listener about how to manage expectations when working on personal creative projects versus client/ commercial projects. let me know what you thought of this episode!!!  ask me a question~ receive a written pep talk from me! https://direct.me/l/67j6 follow me ☆ https:...

you know what... its ok to not have the answer sometimes!!! quick thoughts on being patient with yourself, managing anxiety and letting time to pass so that things can fall into place. believe that what you want is already yours! if you're taking action and doing your best, trust that there are forces beyond your comprehension that will bring you in contact with people and opportunities that can m...

sharing my thoughts and reflections on messages i've received about how to navigate the post-break up period and virtual/digital relationships that don't eventuate with in-person meetings. with some expected tangents and rambles hehe ask me a question~ receive a written pep talk from me! https://direct.me/l/67j6 follow me ☆ https://instagram.com/amberakilla/ https://www.tiktok.com/@amberakilla htt...

sharing my thoughts on "de-influencing" which i refer to as "mindful consumption" ~ if you've listened to previous episodes of the podcast on skincare and self-care, i've always found that knowing i can do something that's good for me at a low cost is weirdly empowering in this capitalist hellscape that we live in lol not that i think making or spending money is "bad" but i think there's a balance...

hello angels!! i'm sharing my thoughts around video titles and subjects where people think they've wasted their life. although i understand the sentiment of these videos i think that sometimes they can be disempowering and there are other ways we can frame and understand our experience of life! sliving requires slearning - some lessons take us longer to learn than others and although there is a ti...

let's talk about how i've changed my understanding of people pleasing and what it means as well as how you building awareness around how you are treated vs how you want to be treated is important in taking action to living a slay life!!!   also i'm going to continue to try and update audio podcast bc i don't want to gatekeep and i don't want ppl to drive and get distracted with video!!! takes...

let's talk about HEART BREAKKKK and the period between a break up and actually moving on - does your ex come back? does it matter if they do? sharing my own thoughts and feelings along with some comments i received on tiktok videos i've made on this topic.   SUBSCRIBE ON YOUTUBE PLS  https://www.youtube.com/@amberakilla i said i wouldn't update podcast audio but ppl have said they still...

welcome backkkkk - a lil q&a for y'all ! maybe i do this once a month?? let me know what you think !   ask me a question~receive a written pep talk from me! https://direct.me/l/67j6   the podcast is moving to video format!! make sure to subscribe  *:･ﾟ✧*:･ﾟ✧  https://www.youtube.com/@amberakilla follow me ☆ https://instagram.com/amberakilla/ https://www.tiktok.com/@amberakilla...

ranting about gaps in communication hehehe sometimes i think we overlook how important it is to become aware of the ways we share our reality and how we connect with others and build relationships.  i discuss a framework/formula that i think helps to structure communication for any relationship context - friendship, romance, work - and then go on a bunch of tangents as usual.  maybe social media h...

welcome to the second boy confessions episode!!! this episode provides a perspective that is so different to the previous episode, i hope you enjoy! "Ash" is in his early mid-30s living in LA - we cover his thoughts on the notorious pick up artist bible "The Game", authenticity in dating, dating apps, how his first love has affected his expectations in dating, how he has become aware of his people...

i loved this conversation i had with actress, writer and content creator Nadine Milad - grab a snack and get comfy because we cover soo much in this episode from ghosting, authenticity online, friend break-ups, being recovering people pleasers and so much more. let me know what you thought of this episode and if Nadine and I should do more episodes together! i'm gonna be on youtube moreeee make su...

part two of the quarter life crisis discussion ~ i read some submissions from listeners on the topic and provide my perspective and thoughts. i actually think in the months since recording these episodes i care even less about age and more about being hot and having fun!!! it's natural to feel external pressures on the timeline of your life, but your life is for you to define! would love to hear y...

part one in a series of episodes where i discuss the quarter life crisis and pre-30 panic. i’ve thought about this a lot as i get to the tail end of my 20s so i’m sharing my thoughts here with you! books mentioned: six pillars of self esteem https://amzn.to/3xAzl3r i'm gonna be on youtube moreeee make sure to subscribe please  *:･ﾟ✧*:･ﾟ✧   https://www.youtube.com/@amberakilla follow me ☆ instagram...

keep your expectations low, your standards high.... & don't feel like you need to reward the bare minimum!!! slightly modifying a saying that i've carried with me through the years. how could i have held myself back like this!!?? anyways, we slive and slearn and level tf up. books mentioned six pillars of self esteem https://amzn.to/3xAzl3r i'm gonna be on youtube moreeee make sure to subscribe pl...

so excited to share the first boy confessions episode!!! anonymously interviewing men so they can share honest reflections, opinions and experiences on masculinity, life, love, friendship, work and more. “Timothee” - 33 is Asian-American, born and raised in Los Angeles and currently living in Shanghai working as a creative director for an international brand.  in this episode we discuss the influe...

what's the difference between a friend with benefits and a booty call? is it worth risking a friendship? do they even make sense??? lets discuss lol i'm gonna be on youtube moreeee make sure to subscribe please  *:･ﾟ✧*:･ﾟ✧   https://www.youtube.com/@amberakilla follow me ☆ instagram.com⁠/amberakilla 小红书 @amberakilla youtube.com/@amberakilla ⁠ patreon.com/amberakilla⁠ ⁠instagram.com⁠/friend.crus...