Friend Crush with Amber Akilla

discussing the ways my understanding of friendship has changed as i've gotten older. what's the difference between an inner and outer circle? how to allow space in relationships rather than taking incompatibilities personally and how to deal with friend breakups. i'm gonna be on youtube moreeee make sure to subscribe please  *:･ﾟ✧*:･ﾟ✧   https://www.youtube.com/@amberakilla follow me ☆ instagram.c...

every now and then i post something random/unhinged and someone asks me 'how do you get over being cringe?' HAHAH anyways here are some of my thoughts and reflections on how i process my insecurities and try to develop a stronger sense of self. how awareness of our insecurities can be seen as a blessing, grounding practices, exposure therapy, holding space for our contradictions and why cringing a...

thank you for asking questions! this is part two of my answers ~ in this episode we cover: how much of yourself to give in dating, people pleasing being friends with an ex that hasn’t told their new partner about you what i’ve learnt this summer books i’ve read the road less travelled https://amzn.to/3UibDCS six pillars of self esteem https://amzn.to/3xAzl3r mind f*ck https://amzn.to/3LpOSsD stole...

bonus episode to celebrate the first week of friend crush season four! answering questions that were submitted to me in the last few weeks. in this episode we cover how to discern between your thoughts and beliefs, how to discern between what you need and what you think you need against other people's expectations, dating after a first love and what to do when you realise someone you were into was...

hello my sweet angels!!! i'm so happy to be back for season four of friend crush!!! the last few months have been such a wild ride and this episode is a life update/vibe check  ~ sliving, sloving, slaughing and slearning ~ thank you so much for your patience, encouragement and support! lots of love xoxoxox i'm gonna be on youtube moreeee make sure to subscribe please  *:･ﾟ✧*:･ﾟ✧   https://www.yout...

thank you for supporting friend crush so far! i’m eternally grateful!! answering some questions asked on IG in honor of this final episode for the season. i talk about how to recognize your own toxicity, what to do when you don’t approve of a friend’s relationship, what to do when your parents don’t approve of your decisions, how to deal with confrontation and more! i'm gonna be on youtube moreeee...

sharing my personal experiences with therapy and the approach i’ve taken. not diagnostic by any means but hopefully this can assist you in your own approach or journey! The Six Pillars of Self Esteem by Nathaniel Branden https://amzn.to/3D7Dmgx The Road Less Travelled by M. Scott Peck https://amzn.to/3DbJdkU How To Do the Work by Dr. Nicole LePera https://www.amazon.com/How-Do-Work-Recognize-Patte...

kicki is a chinese born artist and influencer based in berlin. we talk about her experience growing up in germany, working as an artist and influencer, how her creative hobbies have become her career, how she balances creativity with client needs and how she met her boyfriend ♡ i'm gonna be on youtube moreeee make sure to subscribe please  *:･ﾟ✧*:･ﾟ✧   https://www.youtube.com/@amberakilla follow k...

first episode in what i hope can be a lil sub-series! sharing bite-sized thoughts and reflections on breakups, boundaries, i give advice for a question regarding replying on hinge and my newly coined term - the digital restraining order. please leave a question, comment or voice message for me to share in future episodes! they don’t have to be directly related to this episode and will be referred...

please welcome the first male guest on friend crush! derrick gee is a multi-talented and faceted creative director, artist manager and radio host amongst many other things. in this episode we talk about his journey to where he is today, his work experience as a former NTS radio host and head of brand partnerships at Mixcloud, advice for creatives and artists, his recent foray into tiktok and his r...

discussing how my approach to skincare has changed - kind of like a metaphor to how my approach to life and things have changed too! i start with what it was like when i had 'problematic' skin, non-product related changes that i keep in mind and my general mindset to skincare now and what i've done to improve my skin in the last few years. a reminder that your self-worth and value is not determine...

breadcrumbing and orbiting are being discussed more and more in the context of modern dating and are likened to behaviors like ghosting. what do these behaviours entail and how can we become more aware of what we’re allowing or participating in and whether its inline with what we want from relationships of any kind, not just romantic ones! articles mentioned: https://www.brides.com/what-is-breadcr...

sharing my current life mantra/philosophy that i use to ground myself during chaotic moments for you to see whether its something you want to adopt or can help you to figure out what might work for you! i'm gonna be on youtube moreeee make sure to subscribe please  *:･ﾟ✧*:･ﾟ✧   https://www.youtube.com/@amberakilla follow me ☆ instagram.com⁠/amberakilla 小红书 @amberakilla youtube.com/@amberakilla...

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an introductory exploration into the history of hookup culture... is it as fun and empowering as we're made to think it is? everyone is different but there are some general trends that studies suggest, let's discuss and explore~ hook up culture wiki  https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hookup_culture ana psychology https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pIh8LqU7s-o gatekeeping in casual entanglements https://w...

breakups are fucked but i think they create opportunities for us to learn more about ourselves and develop resilience if we choose to see them this way. in this episode i outline 12 different things i try to keep in mind when it comes to break-ups and any major transition periods in my life. i think the key is remembering that appreciating what’s “good”, requires experience of what’s “bad”. an inc...

what do we think about the west elm caleb tiktok drama? i care less about the individuals involved and more about the ‘cultural implications’ and discourse surrounding it. if you need context, give it a quick google but i’m sharing my thoughts in this week’s episode! GQ article https://www.gq.com/story/who-is-west-elm-caleb twitter thread mentioned https://twitter.com/mattruby/status/1484583381073...

how can we make sure that we are streamlining our approach to social media, friendships, romance and even our wardrobe so that we can prioritise quality over quantity? i read Cal Newport’s book “Deep Work” in an attempt to learn how to better manage my time but the ‘any benefit mindset’ (also referred to as the 'any benefit principle' in this episode)  that he critiques in relation to our approach...

where is the fun in romance? did it catch covid and pass away??? thinking about crushes, how people’s limits differ and how do the traditional values we were raised with indirectly affect the way we approach romance. apologies for the background noise in some sections of this episode!! follow me ☆ instagram.com⁠/amberakilla 小红书 @amberakilla youtube.com/@amberakilla ⁠ patreon.com/amberakilla⁠ ⁠i...

what’s your relationship with technology like? after noticing my own struggle to stay focused i’ve been trying to find different ways to maintain a sense of mental peace amongst information overload. how does social media impact the brain and what can we do to ensure that we can enjoy the benefits of social media while managing the downsides. Huberman Lab Podcast - Controlling Your Dopamine for Mo...

a lil reflection on things i've learned over the last year, building off from the 2020 realizing things episode~ i talk about how ritual and new habits have helped me stay grounded (which i can't stop talking about), my experience with therapy and how i'm constantly reckoning with the fact that healing is not linear. wishing everyone a safe and blessed holiday season!!! thank you for your support...

i keep seeing people talk about this but i feel like there’s something missing from this idea… how can we shift our perspective so that we can move on from disappointment and manage our expectations? follow me ☆ https://instagram.com/amberakilla/ https://instagram.com/friend.crush/ https://www.tiktok.com/@amberakilla https://twitter.com/amberakilla music & mixes ☼ https://soundcloud.com/amberakill...

what's the difference between your hardware and software and how can you make sure both are being looked after? sharing my thoughts on different self-care practices, perspectives and approaches that have allowed for me to have a more holistic approach to well-being that address both body and mind.  disclaimer: i am not a health professional by any means, this is based on my personal experience. if...

where do we place micro-cheating on the spectrum of infidelity? how has technology impacted the different ways that we can betray our partners? is there a single definition of micro-cheating or does it depend on the individual? i look at what dating experts have to say and share your thoughts and perspectives! articles mentioned: https://www.huffpost.com/archive/au/entry/micro-cheating-what-is-it-...

what are the ways that we are being told to settle at our own expense? what does it really mean to have personal standards and boundaries and how can we define this for ourselves? sometimes i think when Ghandi said “be the change you wish to see in the world” this is what he meant!!! follow me ☆ instagram.com⁠/amberakilla 小红书 @amberakilla youtube.com/@amberakilla ⁠ patreon.com/amberakilla⁠ ⁠ins...