Friend Crush with Amber Akilla

something I’ve been thinking about recently is our attitude towards age and the limitations we do or don’t place on ourselves and others as we get older. I think my perspective has changed a lot as I’ve gotten older from a fear of aging to an embrace of the way that growing up means getting to have more experiences, relationships of all kinds and resources ! the mindset you bring to life determine...

thoughts on vibe curation when it comes to the people you surround yourself with ~ we are social animals but that doesn’t mean we can’t choose who we socialize with !!! subscribe for exclusive episodes & perks! ♡ ⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/friend-crush/subscribe⁠ follow me ☆ https://instagram.com/amberakilla/ https://instagram.com/friend.crush/ https://www.tiktok.com/@amberakilla htt...

SAY NO TO BAD VIBES!! subscribe for exclusive episodes & perks! ♡ ⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/friend-crush/subscribe⁠ follow me ☆ https://instagram.com/amberakilla/ https://instagram.com/friend.crush/ https://www.tiktok.com/@amberakilla https://www.youtube.com/@amberakilla https://twitter.com/amberakilla https://soundcloud.com/amberakilla https://open.spotify.com/user/amberakilla

this episode might be triggering for anyone that's convinced themselves that they like being in a situationship so listen at your own risk :) subscribe for exclusive episodes & perks! ♡ ⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/friend-crush/subscribe⁠ follow me ☆ https://instagram.com/amberakilla/ https://instagram.com/friend.crush/ https://www.tiktok.com/@amberakilla https://www.youtube.com/@amber...

bruh the only thing that can be bothersome is ppl in their trashy ass relationships trying to convince me to be as unsatisfied as them... bye! subscribe for exclusive episodes & perks! ♡ ⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/friend-crush/subscribe⁠ follow me ☆ https://instagram.com/amberakilla/ https://instagram.com/friend.crush/ https://www.tiktok.com/@amberakilla https://www.youtube.com/@ambe...

jealousyyyy is a disease fr - its a human experience, but one that when unmanaged can create more harm than good, mostly to yourself!!! how can we better understand and differentiate jealousy and envy we experience towards others and also when its directed towards us? articles referenced: https://kazmobrain.com/jealousy-definition-causes-treatment/ https://www.dictionary.com/e/jealousy-vs-envy/ su...

answering a listener message i received recently that prompted me to reflect on what it means to be a "high value woman" and my thoughts on this conversation that's been happening online, growth, trauma, grief and why people cheat. subscribe for exclusive episodes & perks! ♡ ⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/friend-crush/subscribe⁠ follow me ☆ https://instagram.com/amberakilla/ https://inst...

reflecting on recent work, capitalism, exercising, stress management and guilt. subscribe for exclusive episodes & perks! ♡ ⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/friend-crush/subscribe⁠ follow me ☆ https://instagram.com/amberakilla/ https://instagram.com/friend.crush/ https://www.tiktok.com/@amberakilla https://www.youtube.com/@amberakilla https://twitter.com/amberakilla https://soundcloud.com/...

i've done an episode on this before but i feel like its recently come up a lot in conversations with people in their early-mid 20s. my quarter life crisis was so intense but i feel like i've come out the other end better than i entered it so hopefully this gives you something to look forward to if you're going through this rn!! you are not alone

i think one of the best ways to develop healthier boundaries is to find activities that you care about that feel beneficial to you (keep you hot and having fun) and allow you to orient your schedule around them. it can't just be work because that's not always just for you, it needs to be a hobby! the dedication to investing time and or money to connecting with yourself is not only beneficial for y...

what kinds of questions can you ask to peep into someone's soul? to get a preview into how they view their relationships, particularly their relationship with you? there's one question in particular that i ask and it honestly has proven to be quite effective and revealing... especially with men lol subscribe for exclusive episodes & perks! ♡ ⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/friend-crush/su...

we previously talked about 'what do you get out of it' and recently i've been thinking about 'what do you have to offer' two sides of the same coin kinda. when we better understand who we are and what we contribute to relationships and situations, coupled with an awareness of how we want to live (hot & having fun philosophy), this also assists in how we can make more intentional decisions, better...

self-deprecation can seem harmless at times but i feel like when taken to far it can really get in the way of your ability to grow and expand how you see yourself. wild the ways that we can be our own worst enemy! in this episode i discuss how i've come to better understand how to manage self-deprecation in ways that aren't self-destructive. subscribe for exclusive episodes & perks! ♡ ⁠https://pod...

there's a difference between being critical and being a hater. haters are just losers in disguise and here’s why! subscribe for exclusive episodes & perks! ♡ ⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/friend-crush/subscribe⁠ follow me ☆ https://instagram.com/amberakilla/ https://instagram.com/friend.crush/ https://www.tiktok.com/@amberakilla https://www.youtube.com/@amberakilla https://twitter.com/a...

so often in life and in love we are bamboozled by other people's validation and desire and forget to ask 'what am i getting out of this', 'how do i feel' ?? this doesn't mean we have to be entirely self-serving but it also doesn't mean we have to be entirely self-sacrificial. i implore you to take a pause and consider this if you find yourself in a mental or emotional spiral over a person or situa...

i think its quite common for listeners of the podcast to be the 'friend group therapist' - the person that everyone goes to for advice when they're going through it. its not that you need to swing to the opposite end of the spectrum and cut people off at the slightest request for your attention but sometimes we need to consider the capacity to which you plug into other people's problems. i feel li...

so u are going through a hard time rn whether its a break up, friend break up or any other situation where you might feel blindsided and heartbroken. sometimes we are at risk of overanalysing these kinds of situations as a coping mechanism or as a way to avoid facing painful and uncomfortable feelings but in my experience, dealing with feelings first allows for clarity to come much sooner. subscri...

i've been thinking about the subtle difference between being offended and being disrespected - maybe in a general sense the difference doesn't matter to that many people but i think having an understanding for myself has allowed me to determine what is worth my energy, who is worth my time and what opportunities being offended or disrespected can actually provide in having more self-awareness. in...

GIRL CONFESSIONSSS this episode was so fun to record, "Sarah" and I have been internet friends for some time now and we barely scratched the surface in this conversation. we cover her experiences on hinge, one of her icks, age gaps in dating, who is expected to pay on the first date, friends to lovers, growing up and dating as a woman of colour in australia and more!!! i hope you enjoyed this epis...

patriarchy is exploiting all of us but how come women can have low self esteem and still manage to look good while being oppressed and men just have low self esteem ... kinda sad follow me ☆ https://instagram.com/amberakilla/ https://instagram.com/friend.crush/ https://www.tiktok.com/@amberakilla https://www.youtube.com/@amberakilla https://twitter.com/amberakilla https://soundcloud.com/amberakill...

our first boy confessions episode for the season!! 'christopher' just turned 30 and is currently taking some time off from his tech job to rest and reflect. we discuss his dating expectations, how his views on dating and relationships have changed, whether "the spark" is a real thing, dating as a scapegoat from big life changes... and more, i hope you enjoy! let me know what you thought of this ep...

my current thoughts, feelings and understandings around boundaries, how they differ from standards, expectations, preferences and conditions. 'boundaries' is a term that is thrown around the same way 'authentic' is but just because people throw a word around doesn't really mean they understand, let alone practice what they preach hehe subscribe for exclusive episodes & perks! ♡ ⁠https://podcasters...

i noticed a few of comments on tiktok from people who have gotten romantically involved with their friends. the friends to lovers are? we love! but its not always that simple and it doesn't always work out the way we expect or hope for... so what do we do? what have i done? let me know if you've been through this or are going through it - let's discuss!!!! follow me ☆ https://instagram.com/amberak...

you know i feel like so much of my 20s has been about 'what' am i doing with my life, but in the last few years i've focused more on 'how' i am experiencing life, 'am i enjoying myself?' aka am i being hot and having fun and if not, how does a life well lived feel and look like to me and how can i take intentional action towards it? how can i balance portfolio interests with personal interests at...

tale as old as time... you know "what's best" for someone and for some reason they're not doing what needs to be done to be better???? WHYYYYYYY subscribe for exclusive episodes & perks! ♡ ⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/friend-crush/subscribe⁠ follow me ☆ https://instagram.com/amberakilla/ https://instagram.com/friend.crush/ https://www.tiktok.com/@amberakilla https://www.youtube.com/@am...