Finding Traction: Recovery from Porn

Continuing on from the last podcast, Vern in this episode explores, Vern explores 9 different types of childhood experiences, and explains how each scenario often leaves that type of child susceptible to certain key emotional triggers that activate their inner child. If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.c...

Do we have an inner child - and if do we need to learn to soothe it or just give it a smack! If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com If you want to check out more porn recovery resources or learn more about the 52 Week Video course Finding Traction go to the website: https://www.bandofbrothers...

How long will it take me to get over my embedded porn habit. In this episode Vern explores that question and gives some hope (as well as a some realism) in this recovery journey. If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com If you want to check out more porn recovery resources or learn more about t...

You've heard the jokes - you might be a redneck if... Here's a question - you might be an emotional Neanderthal if... If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com If you want to check out more porn recovery resources or learn more about the 52 Week Video course Finding Traction go to the website: h...

If you have been listening to the previous couple podcasts you know how much Vern has been impacted by the writings of Andrew Bauman. In this episode we actually get to interview the man! Andrew is the author of a number of books including - the Pyschology of Porn and the Sexually Healthy Man - they can be purchased on Amazon If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to conn...

PSR stands for Pornographic Style of Relating. Vern Explores this provocative concept based on the writings of Andrew Bauman. If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com If you want to check out more porn recovery resources or learn more about the 52 Week Video course Finding Traction go to the we...

What does it mean to be sexually healthy vs. being unhealthy? Join Vern as he walks through a concept he learned from Andrew Bauman's book of the same title. To see this talk in a diagram go to the following link.... https://andrewjbauman.com/what-is-a-sexually-healthy-man/ If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbro...

Vern recently did a crazy thing on the freeway he now regrets (after paying a big fine) Lots of things we do seem like a good idea at the time but don't stand the test of a sober second thought. If nothing else this podcast will teach you what not to do ... If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail....

What type of man does not look at porn? Do you know any of them? Do you want to be that kind of man. In this episode Vern explores the idea of growing into this kind of man. If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com If you want to check out more porn recovery resources or learn more about the 52...

Can we look at porn and remain unchanged? To say it another way - does porn make me a dick? If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com If you want to check out more porn recovery resources or learn more about the 52 Week Video course Finding Traction go to the website: https://www.bandofbrothers....

We all need hope on the journey. As the year comes to a close - Vern explores in greater detail how we can all hold onto hope. If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com If you want to check out more porn recovery resources or learn more about the 52 Week Video course Finding Traction go to the w...

Hide and Seek is one of the earliest games we learned as a child. It is unfortunately one of the oldest games we have used to remain hidden in our struggles. In this episode Vern looks at our propensity to run and hide. If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com If you want to check out more porn...

Stop the steal these days has a particular political meaning to a certain group of people, but in your life how has porn stolen from you? In this episode Vern talks about how to regain and reclaim what has been stolen from you. If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com If you want to check out m...

In this episode Vern explores some of those childish ways of thinking that we need to grow out of if we are going to grow up before we grow old! If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com If you want to check out more porn recovery resources or learn more about the 52 Week Video course Finding Tr...

This podcast is based on a summary of a lesson found in Vern's Finding Traction Course. If we are going to be successful in porn recovery we will need to deal with the challenge of technology. In this episode Vern gives some ideas how to do that. If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com If you...

Do you ever find yourself thinking that "when this happens then I will do this or that" In this episode Vern is joined by David (his Iowan guest) and they explore how this way of thinking doesn't help us in the long run. If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com If you want to check out more por...

We are all passionate about many things including politics. I have found out in working with many guys, however, is that we often use distractions (including politics) as a form of distraction to keep us focusing on what is really important. However you vote, you will find this temptation one you need to be aware of! If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with...

Is it possible to find a way back to healing when you're sexual behaviors have so hurt your wife? In this episode Verns introduces Clinton and Charity Munoz who have both come through their own marriage difficulties and work with couples who have experienced similar hurts. If you want to contact Clinton and Charity you can do so at https://restored2more.com/ If you want to connect with Vern direct...

It's hard to live in this world without getting triggered one way or another. The key is to prepare for the next time you are triggered. In this episode Vern talks about how to deal with your next trigger... If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com If you want to check out more porn recovery re...

It is not uncommon for even motivated guys to have a number of "false starts" when it comes to getting out of the starting blocks. In this episode Vern explores what is necessary to get off to a good start in porn recovery... If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com If you want to check out mor...

What is the biggest lie you will need to confront if you are to distance yourself from your porn behaviors... take a listen If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com If you want to check out more porn recovery resources or learn more about the 52 Week Video course Finding Traction go to the webs...

To get started down the road to recovery requires courage at a number of levels. In this episode Vern talks about what will be necessary to "grow a pair" when it comes to moving toward the life and relationships we desire for ourself. If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com If you want to chec...

Making a commitment to do anything - especially recovering from porn requires us to look at both sides of commitment - in this episode Vern explores that concept... If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com If you want to check out more porn recovery resources or learn more about the 52 Week Vid...

Why do I keep doing the same things over and over? When I look back it is necessary to see the common cyclical steps of my behavior if I am going to be able to reverse engineer this cycle toward a different outcome. If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com If you want to check out more porn rec...

For years I believed that I would get better when this thing or that thing happened first. In this episode I outline 5 myths that I believed that were simply magical thinking. These myths don't serve us and in fact keep us stuck in our porn behaviors. If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com If...