Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast

It’s our fourth Ask A Man interview, featuring Erica’s close friend, the hilarious Jourdain Fisher. This one starts out spicy with some O-related listener polls and then we move on to peppering Jourdain with questions. And our producer Mike gets involved too! It’s a fun one all around. In updates, Erica has several blasts from the past - and even has a date scheduled with one of them! Ali recaps l...

*CW: This episode centers on body image and mentions intentional weight loss & disordered eating. We continue our Storytime series highlighting listener stories with Heather Boddy, a plus-size fitness professional who shares her journey with body image. The three of us dive into what fitness means to her (and what it does not), her best tips for hyping up our friends in their own journeys, and...

How’s your dating app prompt game? Ali & Erica are here to help you step it up as they brainstorm their best answers to popular prompts! You’ll be starting better conversations in no time. But first, Ali has a very loud first date and Erica shoots her shot with a mutual friend. Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 19. If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone els...

Don’t think you can relate to non-monogamy? Psychotherapist Rachel Wright just might change your mind. We talk about how relationship frameworks are changing, her personal journey from monogamy to non-monogamy, the difference between rules and agreements (and how to determine them), plus much more from listener questions! In updates, Erica channels vacation energy to meet a man in the wild and als...

We Met At Acme host Lindsey Metselaar joins Finding Mr. Height this week! We debate a slew of Weird or Nah and Mythbusters submissions, then dive into what Lindsey’s learned from marriage and her journey with being sober. We wrap things up with some stellar dating app banter suggestions, pulled straight from your Hinge submissions. But first, Erica gets a blast from the (recent) past on Valentine’...

By popular demand, Erica & Ali are debating etiquette “rules” from New York’s Magazine recent article. We tackle things like “never purposefully wake up your significant other” and “you can tell any lie to leave a drinks date early.” And we get your opinions on them too! It’s a fun one all around. In updates, Erica is still in Las Vegas and on a bit of a dating hiatus while Ali pushes herself...

This week is chock-full of practical nuggets as we welcome somatic relationship coach Lauren Zoeller to the pod. Together, we break down her nervous-system-based approach to coaching and even do some group exercises that you can follow along with at home. We’re all feeling a little less anxious after this one! But first, Ali & Erica are reporting live from Vegas. Ali shares a non-update update...

Erica and Ali are back with our second installment of debating dating theories! This week, we cover theories like “if it’s not a f*** yes, it’s a f***no,” whether we’re more likely to value someone who “made us work for it,” and more. In updates, Ali has her first date with The Roommate and Erica says goodbye to King of Queens. Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 36. If you'd like t...

It’s time for a debate! A TikTok dating theories debate, that is. This week, we’ve found some popular theories to discuss, including red nail theory, having a “roster,” coffee as a first date, and manifesting your perfect partner. In updates, Ali meets (another!) man in the wild and Erica gets a blast from the past in her DMs. Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 32. If you'd like to...

It’s a longgg awaited topic on FMH - plastic surgery and cosmetic procedures. We dive into the shift in recent statistics in these areas and how the last few years have shifted all of our perceptions of ourselves. Then, we get personal, both sharing our own experiences with plastic surgery and how we feel about it years later. In updates, Erica has a fun facetime and a promising mini golf adventur...

Have you ever swiped on a dating app in a group of friends and felt a sense of community in your shared experiences? Our guest this week, Lane Moore, brings that feeling to the stage in her hilarious Tinder Live shows. We chat about green (and red) flags on a dating app profile and share our best tips! In updates, Erica has a man in her DMs and Ali starts the year off with 2 cancelled dates (whomp...

We’re back with our latest Hot Topics, where we answer listener questions from our submission form! This week, we start out with a motion-sickness-related AITA. We then advise a listener on communication in between a second and third date, analyze a drawn-out dating app conversation, and discuss how to frame when you’re taking a break from work. On the dating front, Ali & Erica both have dates...

Ask and you shall receive…it’s Ali’s brother on the pod! Drake (no, not *that* Drake) joins us for our third installment of Ask A Thirty-Something Man and we answer a ton of listener questions ranging from how guys - or at least Drake - feel about a woman asking them out to whether “bad timing” is just an excuse. In Updates, Erica shares some health news and Ali proposes a new use for the nickname...

You’ve seen the videos all over social media…for our last podcast of the year, we are bringing you our own FMH version of Dating Wrapped! We share YOUR annual dating stats plus review our own year in dating, including how many first dates we went on, how many we actually wanted second dates with, and how many went…further. We wrap things up with our dating goals for 2023, informed by what we’ve le...

We’re introducing a new series on Finding Mr. Height…Storytime! Where we’ll hear from listeners as they share their stories and the lessons they’ve learned. *Update - This previous Storytime guest has requested to be removed from the episode for identity purposes. This episode is now updates only. To submit to be a Storytime guest please see the submission form below. We'd also like to reminde...

Dating Definitions is back for round two! We continue last week’s discussion, starting with the wiiiiiild number of ghosting-adjacent terminologies. Who knew haunting and orbiting were different? And what is a sneaky link? Or a groundhog? But first, Erica has some HUGE career news, Ali gets more info on her new matchmaker date, and we both feel burned out by swiping.  Timestamps: Topic talk begins...

If you were hoping to hear us get fired up over the definitions of made-up words…your wait is over. This week begins our series on dating definitions and we kick things off with debating why all these definitions even exist. Then, we get into dating words we wish would be used *less* (here’s looking at you, gaslighting). Lovebombing and fboy make the list, too, and Erica has found the perfect AITA...

*TRIGGER WARNING* This episode contains accounts of sexual assault. If you’d like to avoid, stop listening around minute 48 (we say trigger warning within the audio as well).  Ali & Erica welcome cognitive behavior expert Allyson Roberts (@allysonroberts_ on TikTok & IG) onto the pod this week. Allyson shared her deeply-moving personal story and how she leverages her experience to coach to...

Hey, listeners! Big question for you…what’s your favorite dating app opener? We’re sharing ours this week (and Erica has an idea that Ali just might steal) plus a few that you submitted! From keeping things interesting (even when they might not be) to dealing with an empty profile, this episode has got you covered.  But first, Erica has an update on Spanikopita, of dance floor fame, and Ali recaps...

Finding Mr. Height is getting chaotic this week…chaotically single, that is. It’s our first in-person guest interview where we sit down (on lawn chairs in Ali’s empty apartment - apologies for the slight echo) with Cassidy Davis (@casidynashdavis), creator and host of the Chaotic Singles Parties you’ve seen all over TikTok. The three of us recap our night at NYC’s first installment of the party se...

It’s Erica’s first official episode as Finding Mr. Height’s new cohost! We’re kicking things off with an introduction for the listeners using questions *from* the listeners. But first, Ali recaps her second date with The Padre and encounters a Weird or Nah idea, while Erica has an unsettling experience trying to meet a man “in the wild.” Then, the two dive into Erica’s two most significant exes, E...

And…that’s a wrap for Roark! Ali & Roark sit down for the last time to record her final episode. Emotions were high during this interview-style episode where Ali peppered Roark with questions from the listeners. They dig deep into questions like, “If you could go back to Roark at the start of the podcast, what would you say to her”, “What’s your favorite nickname given to a guy,” and “What’s o...

It’s a podcast collab between Ali & Roark and Adam & Evan of the “I’ll Be the Judge of That” pod. The four debate common dating scenarios and ask – “can you?” Like – can you get engaged at another person’s party? Can you tell a friend you don’t like their partner? How about sitting on the same side of the table on a first date? You’ll hear just about every perspective on this episode. Duri...

Shockingly, Ali & Roark haven’t dedicated a podcast to the topic of cheating yet. Today changes that. They start by discussing a well-known dating question: once a cheater always a cheater? And then address listener questions such as how to not bring past cheating trauma to new partners, how to bring up suspicions of cheating with your partner, and when to tell someone you have suspicions of t...

Ali & Roark can’t resist recording a super-sized episode when Therapy Jeff is the guest! Jeff joins the podcast for a Grab Bag episode that covers everything from the “ick” to the honeymoon phase to sleeping with someone “too early” to liking bad boys (and girls)! Of course, Jeff tackles all the questions like a pro. You won’t want to miss this one. During Updates, Roark goes to dinner with he...