Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast

We’re back with our latest Hot Topics, where we answer listener questions from our submission form! This week, we start out with a motion-sickness-related AITA. We then advise a listener on communication in between a second and third date, analyze a drawn-out dating app conversation, and discuss how to frame when you’re taking a break from work. On the dating front, Ali & Erica both have dates...

Ask and you shall receive…it’s Ali’s brother on the pod! Drake (no, not *that* Drake) joins us for our third installment of Ask A Thirty-Something Man and we answer a ton of listener questions ranging from how guys - or at least Drake - feel about a woman asking them out to whether “bad timing” is just an excuse. In Updates, Erica shares some health news and Ali proposes a new use for the nickname...

You’ve seen the videos all over social media…for our last podcast of the year, we are bringing you our own FMH version of Dating Wrapped! We share YOUR annual dating stats plus review our own year in dating, including how many first dates we went on, how many we actually wanted second dates with, and how many went…further. We wrap things up with our dating goals for 2023, informed by what we’ve le...

We’re introducing a new series on Finding Mr. Height…Storytime! Where we’ll hear from listeners as they share their stories and the lessons they’ve learned. *Update - This previous Storytime guest has requested to be removed from the episode for identity purposes. This episode is now updates only. To submit to be a Storytime guest please see the submission form below. We'd also like to reminde...

Dating Definitions is back for round two! We continue last week’s discussion, starting with the wiiiiiild number of ghosting-adjacent terminologies. Who knew haunting and orbiting were different? And what is a sneaky link? Or a groundhog? But first, Erica has some HUGE career news, Ali gets more info on her new matchmaker date, and we both feel burned out by swiping.  Timestamps: Topic talk begins...

If you were hoping to hear us get fired up over the definitions of made-up words…your wait is over. This week begins our series on dating definitions and we kick things off with debating why all these definitions even exist. Then, we get into dating words we wish would be used *less* (here’s looking at you, gaslighting). Lovebombing and fboy make the list, too, and Erica has found the perfect AITA...

*TRIGGER WARNING* This episode contains accounts of sexual assault. If you’d like to avoid, stop listening around minute 48 (we say trigger warning within the audio as well).  Ali & Erica welcome cognitive behavior expert Allyson Roberts (@allysonroberts_ on TikTok & IG) onto the pod this week. Allyson shared her deeply-moving personal story and how she leverages her experience to coach to...

Hey, listeners! Big question for you…what’s your favorite dating app opener? We’re sharing ours this week (and Erica has an idea that Ali just might steal) plus a few that you submitted! From keeping things interesting (even when they might not be) to dealing with an empty profile, this episode has got you covered.  But first, Erica has an update on Spanikopita, of dance floor fame, and Ali recaps...

Finding Mr. Height is getting chaotic this week…chaotically single, that is. It’s our first in-person guest interview where we sit down (on lawn chairs in Ali’s empty apartment - apologies for the slight echo) with Cassidy Davis (@casidynashdavis), creator and host of the Chaotic Singles Parties you’ve seen all over TikTok. The three of us recap our night at NYC’s first installment of the party se...

It’s Erica’s first official episode as Finding Mr. Height’s new cohost! We’re kicking things off with an introduction for the listeners using questions *from* the listeners. But first, Ali recaps her second date with The Padre and encounters a Weird or Nah idea, while Erica has an unsettling experience trying to meet a man “in the wild.” Then, the two dive into Erica’s two most significant exes, E...

And…that’s a wrap for Roark! Ali & Roark sit down for the last time to record her final episode. Emotions were high during this interview-style episode where Ali peppered Roark with questions from the listeners. They dig deep into questions like, “If you could go back to Roark at the start of the podcast, what would you say to her”, “What’s your favorite nickname given to a guy,” and “What’s o...

It’s a podcast collab between Ali & Roark and Adam & Evan of the “I’ll Be the Judge of That” pod. The four debate common dating scenarios and ask – “can you?” Like – can you get engaged at another person’s party? Can you tell a friend you don’t like their partner? How about sitting on the same side of the table on a first date? You’ll hear just about every perspective on this episode. Duri...

Shockingly, Ali & Roark haven’t dedicated a podcast to the topic of cheating yet. Today changes that. They start by discussing a well-known dating question: once a cheater always a cheater? And then address listener questions such as how to not bring past cheating trauma to new partners, how to bring up suspicions of cheating with your partner, and when to tell someone you have suspicions of t...

Ali & Roark can’t resist recording a super-sized episode when Therapy Jeff is the guest! Jeff joins the podcast for a Grab Bag episode that covers everything from the “ick” to the honeymoon phase to sleeping with someone “too early” to liking bad boys (and girls)! Of course, Jeff tackles all the questions like a pro. You won’t want to miss this one. During Updates, Roark goes to dinner with he...

Ali & Roark are doling out advice again on another Hot Topics episode. During Updates, Roark sees a friend on Bumble and shares bad news about The Writer; and Ali is scheduling dates now that she is illness free. Then, they answer listener questions about noticing a new dating prospect pulling away, feeling uncomfortable with a date’s alcohol consumption, and deciding whether to continue seein...

Ali records with author and financial expert Nicole Lapin this week. They talk about how finances can affect relationships and cover topics ranging from pre-nups, developing “FQ” (aka financial intelligence), and how to discuss your credit score, debt, and financial goals with your partner. During Updates, Roark describes her horse-girl adventure and Ali has to back-burner some dates due to illnes...

Thoughts and prayers to Ali & Roark this week as they wade into the murky waters of dating and finances. Money can be quite the taboo topic and they hope to start breaking that down by discussing sensitive questions like how to split finances, financial power dynamics and insecurities, and of course, they couldn’t not discuss the classic – who pays on a first date? Ali tells Roark about a firs...

Ali & Roark record another Hot Topics episode this week – which is perfect because Roark’s entire personality is complaining about the LA heat wave. Don’t worry, she also updates on the Writer. Ali also has some big home-related life updates and has a few Bumble irons in the fire. Instead of Weird or Nah this week, Ali tries to find how many people are weird like her and use the “grimace emoji...

This week, Ali & Roark chat with Kendra Allen aka Your Break Up Bestie! They talk all about actionable steps to recover from a break up, and they dive into Kendra’s new book, “The Break-Up Workbook.” For example – how to deal with getting your stuff back, cleansing your social media, and whether the no-contact rule is the way to go. Before Kendra joins the pod, Roark shares her great third dat...

Did you manifest this episode? Or are you more of a skeptic? Either way, Ali & Roark welcome Haley Hoffman Smith to the podcast to talk all about manifesting. Haley is an author, podcaster, and manifestation coach and breaks down the concepts for Ali, Roark, and the listeners. They learn what exactly manifestation means, discuss all kinds of manifestation basics like how to get started, and Ro...

Ali & Roark are back this week with another career podcast. This week they’re talking about skills that make someone a good manager, how to be intentional in your career, and navigating imposter syndrome. During the Updates section, Roark had a quick catch-up with the Ranger, but also has a new guy which is the most excited she’s been about someone in a while. Ali is back on Bumble with a vira...

It’s a perfect week for a grab bag because Ali & Roark are a little all over the place this week. During Updates, Ali debriefs on the Disco Ball and Roark has a bad date (and the texts to prove it). Then they answer a variety of questions such as double-messaging on dating apps, dating someone who still co-habitates with their ex, how to respond when your new partner “drops a bomb,” and dealin...

Ali & Roark take a detour this week away from dating and into careers. They share their very different career paths and start answering some listener questions about finding mentors, asking for a raise, and developing work/life balance. As always, there is way too much to get to so they’ll definitely be doing more career-focused content. Keep the questions coming! In the Updates section, Roark...

It’s a Finding Mr. Height first – someone we have dated is on the pod! Ali & Roark welcome the next “30-something man,” who happens to be Mr. Nobody. He answers questions about being friends with exes, date prep, feeling ready for exclusivity, and picking someone up IRL. First, during updates, Roark tells a story about a man from the past who slid into the DMs recently, and Ali shares a story...

Ali & Roark return to the topic of bad dates this week. They analyze what a “bad date” even is and how to determine if you're on one, and how to navigate asking for a date to be over, or how to get out a second date you don’t want to go on. In the Updates section, Roark discusses going on Facetime dates versus IRL dates, and Ali discusses her communication cadence with The Disco Ball. Time...