Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast

Bela Gandhi, dating coach and founder of Smart Dating Academy, joins us this week to answer your questions! Tune in to find out why she insists her clients do video dates before IRL dates, one of the steps in her tried and true method to help her clients find partnership, particularly later in life or after divorce. In Updates, Ali may have discovered a Bumble hack and a listener may have discover...

How did 2023 go for us? We’re breaking it down this week. How many first dates did we go on? What lessons did we learn? And did we succeed at “more kissing, less crying”?? Plus, we’re sharing what you, the listeners, learned this year. In updates, Ali is feeling meh about seeing Billy Joel again and the ladies announce their next NYC live show on Saturday, January 20th! Snag your ticket at the lin...

In honor of our recently-launched mother/daughter trip to Portugal, Ali & Erica have invited their moms on the show! We’re answering your questions: everything from who our moms think we should date to their best tips for lasting relationships. Get a glimpse into our relationships before the trip and learn more about the itinerary at the links in either of our IG bios. We’re staying in the hea...

It’s that time of year where we all agonize over what to get the men in our lives, whether they’re partners, brothers, sons, or friends. So Ali & Erica sat down with Sebastian Conelli & Robbie Nunes, co-hosts of the Loud About Nothing podcast, to talk gifts. The four of us reveal the best (and worst) gifts we’ve ever gotten plus brainstorm ideas for you to use yourself! But first, Ali host...

Are you too picky? Ali & Erica aim to find out this week as we dive into a book that regularly makes the rounds on social media: "Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough" by Lori Gottlieb. We discuss things that used to be dealbreakers but aren’t any more, whether women need to “settle” more, and how we each navigate our preferences in dating. But first, Erica goes on a de...

Are you waiting for marriage? Or just curious what dating is like for someone who is? Comedian (and Erica’s former roommate - literally, ROOMmate) Paul Schissler joins us to chat about his journey doing just that. We answer listener questions ranging from when to divulge to people you’re dating to how to ensure you’re on the same page with what post-marriage intimacy might look like. But first, Er...

Have you ever thought that your city is the worst for dating? Turns out most of our listeners do…so Ali & Erica are putting that to the test this week. We’re “traveling” to different cities in our dating apps and reporting back on our findings - plus sharing feedback from the listeners! Did we skip your city? Let us know at findingmrheight.com/podcast . In Updates, Erica is unsure how to proce...

We’re back with the second installment of our fertility series, interviewing a very special guest - Erica’s doctor at Spring Fertility, Dr. Peter Klatsky! We start out by busting a few fertility myths and then get into questions from our listeners! Dr. Klatsky advises us on selecting a fertility provider, pulls back the curtain on egg freezing statistics, and so much more. In Updates, Erica has a...

Ali & Erica are taking listener questions (and bring back Weird or Nah!) in this week’s Hot Topics episode. First, we debate a listener’s screenshot dilemma and discuss setting boundaries in early dating. Then, we discuss how (or if) to tell a friend you think she’s settling. And finally, a listener writes in for advice on working with her ex who is dating someone new. In Updates, Ali has a ve...

Are you supervising your brain? Do you even know how? Kara Loewentheil , J.D., Master Certified Coach, and host of the  UnF*ck Your Brain  podcast is here to help. On this week’s episode, we explore topics of anxiety, particularly in the bedroom, and how to navigate through them. Kara explains how she worked to re-train her thoughts and we dive into how socialization impacts how we think. In Updat...

Are you skeptical about life coaches? Rachelle Indra, who literally is one herself, was too! Ali & Erica are truly enthralled by her insights this week, so much so that we actually had to FORCE ourselves to end the interview. In particular, we dive deep into moving through heartbreak & healing going into a new relationship. We also touch on balancing self compassion with accountability and...

What do men wish women knew about them?? Well, we asked them for you (and pulled even more insights from around the internet). We hear about things like: avoiding subtlety/hints, how men don’t want to keep chasing you, and gosh darnit it’s nice to be the little spoon sometimes! But first, The Drummer’s performance does not live up to Erica’s expectations but she has another IRL experience to balan...

Have you wondered what the transition is like from single and dating to being in a relationship? Author and lifestyle blogger Mariann Yip is telling Ali & Erica all about how she went from publishing a book about her NYC dating life to starting a family…all within a year! We chat about first dates, feeling lonely in parenthood, and letting go of what you thought your timeline would be. In Upda...

Ali & Erica are taking rapid fire listener questions this week in the latest Grab Bag episode! Topics range from defining “exclusive” vs “official,” determining if someone is ready to date, setting boundaries with advice from friends, to ending a date. In updates, Ali is crushing her IRL activities challenge (but hasn’t forgotten about the apps!) and Erica dips her toe back into the NYC dating...

Jared Freid is fresh off his hilarious Netflix special, 37 & Single, and answering your listener questions! What’s the right way to set two people up? Are there certain dating app answers he hates seeing? And many more, followed by what might be our new favorite game: Pick The Ick. In Updates, Erica hears back from The Accountant and embarks on an NYC dating challenge. Meanwhile, Ali is feelin...

We’re talking finances this week, with Ashley Feinstein Gertsley, CFP and founder of The Fiscal Femme. Are you wondering where/how to start investing? And if you’re even ready to do that? Or maybe you’re trying to create and stick to a spending plan. Ali & Erica learn some things too as we dive into all things money. But first, Erica has an update on The Accountant and Ali is back from camp wi...

If you knew you’d meet the person you’re going to marry in 5 years, would you still date? Would you rather win the lottery or find your soulmate? Ali & Erica debate some fun dating hypotheticals this week. Tune in for what Erica would say to a room full of people she’s slept with and why Ali would just break into song. In updates, Erica shoots her shot at the frame store and Ali is back from a...

Ali & Erica are back with in-depth listener questions, otherwise known as Hot Topics! This week, we discuss: reaching back out to someone you rejected (or always wondering what if), managing emotions when someone you’re dating updates their app profile, & who should initiate a first date. In updates, Erica goes on a puzzling first date and successfully executes a DM slide after meeting a m...

This bonus episode features an exclusive Patreon preview to stay on track with Ali and Erica’s dating updates. Ali recaps an awkward first date that never seems to end, while Erica finds herself in a scenario where she’s fighting her instincts.  If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/...

TRIGGER WARNING This episode centers around sexual assault. This week, we welcome on two incredible listeners to tell their stories. They each offer a deep perspective on both their experiences and their lives since - we can’t thank them enough for their vulnerability. If you’re out there resonating with this episode, please know you are not alone. There are no updates from Ali & Erica in this...

Do men really love bitches? What IS a bitch, anyway? And can we take anything away from a book that was written over 20 years ago?? Ali & Erica debate a list of “attraction principles” from the recently-resurged bestseller book, “Why Men Love Bitches” by Sherry Argov to find out. In Updates, Erica channels vacation energy with some IRL encounters and Ali prepares to channel Erica. Timestamps:...

She’sssss backkkkkk!!!!! Ali & Erica welcome former FMH cohost Roark back onto the pod as our guest this week. With Ali fresh off a bachelorette party, the three dive into wedding etiquette (especially wedding guest etiquette). Can you ask for a plus one? When is it appropriate to leave a wedding? And for goodness sake, can we please stop trying to wear white?? But first, we’re catching up on...

Pamela Rae Schuller is more than one thing - she’s more than Tourette Syndrome, she’s more than her stint on Jewish Matchmaking, and she’s encouraging you to embrace your whole self, too. Together, we cover a wide range of topics, including dating with a disability, matchmaking, and achieving self-love. In Updates, Erica receives a voice memo from the Accountant (that she DOES reply to, for the re...

For those of you who don’t know us…we’re sharing do’s and don’ts on wedding speeches, from both our own experiences and yours! How long should they be? Are certain topics off limits? And can anything be worse than a 45-minute lecture on the Boy Scout motto?? But first, Ali & Erica both have first dates coming up! Ali’s is her first HingeX match and Erica’s is a blast…from Ali’s past. Timestamp...

Things take a lighter turn this week, as Ali & Erica pull back the curtain on past embarrassing dating moments…and share yours! We crack up over everything from first date stomach issues to surprise queefs. In updates, Ali has a Tinder penpal (for now) and Erica enjoys some family time. Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 39. If you'd like to hear our personal updates before eve...