Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast

Jared Freid is fresh off his hilarious Netflix special, 37 & Single, and answering your listener questions! What’s the right way to set two people up? Are there certain dating app answers he hates seeing? And many more, followed by what might be our new favorite game: Pick The Ick. In Updates, Erica hears back from The Accountant and embarks on an NYC dating challenge. Meanwhile, Ali is feelin...

We’re talking finances this week, with Ashley Feinstein Gertsley, CFP and founder of The Fiscal Femme. Are you wondering where/how to start investing? And if you’re even ready to do that? Or maybe you’re trying to create and stick to a spending plan. Ali & Erica learn some things too as we dive into all things money. But first, Erica has an update on The Accountant and Ali is back from camp wi...

If you knew you’d meet the person you’re going to marry in 5 years, would you still date? Would you rather win the lottery or find your soulmate? Ali & Erica debate some fun dating hypotheticals this week. Tune in for what Erica would say to a room full of people she’s slept with and why Ali would just break into song. In updates, Erica shoots her shot at the frame store and Ali is back from a...

Ali & Erica are back with in-depth listener questions, otherwise known as Hot Topics! This week, we discuss: reaching back out to someone you rejected (or always wondering what if), managing emotions when someone you’re dating updates their app profile, & who should initiate a first date. In updates, Erica goes on a puzzling first date and successfully executes a DM slide after meeting a m...

This bonus episode features an exclusive Patreon preview to stay on track with Ali and Erica’s dating updates. Ali recaps an awkward first date that never seems to end, while Erica finds herself in a scenario where she’s fighting her instincts.  If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/...

TRIGGER WARNING This episode centers around sexual assault. This week, we welcome on two incredible listeners to tell their stories. They each offer a deep perspective on both their experiences and their lives since - we can’t thank them enough for their vulnerability. If you’re out there resonating with this episode, please know you are not alone. There are no updates from Ali & Erica in this...

Do men really love bitches? What IS a bitch, anyway? And can we take anything away from a book that was written over 20 years ago?? Ali & Erica debate a list of “attraction principles” from the recently-resurged bestseller book, “Why Men Love Bitches” by Sherry Argov to find out. In Updates, Erica channels vacation energy with some IRL encounters and Ali prepares to channel Erica. Timestamps:...

She’sssss backkkkkk!!!!! Ali & Erica welcome former FMH cohost Roark back onto the pod as our guest this week. With Ali fresh off a bachelorette party, the three dive into wedding etiquette (especially wedding guest etiquette). Can you ask for a plus one? When is it appropriate to leave a wedding? And for goodness sake, can we please stop trying to wear white?? But first, we’re catching up on...

Pamela Rae Schuller is more than one thing - she’s more than Tourette Syndrome, she’s more than her stint on Jewish Matchmaking, and she’s encouraging you to embrace your whole self, too. Together, we cover a wide range of topics, including dating with a disability, matchmaking, and achieving self-love. In Updates, Erica receives a voice memo from the Accountant (that she DOES reply to, for the re...

For those of you who don’t know us…we’re sharing do’s and don’ts on wedding speeches, from both our own experiences and yours! How long should they be? Are certain topics off limits? And can anything be worse than a 45-minute lecture on the Boy Scout motto?? But first, Ali & Erica both have first dates coming up! Ali’s is her first HingeX match and Erica’s is a blast…from Ali’s past. Timestamp...

Things take a lighter turn this week, as Ali & Erica pull back the curtain on past embarrassing dating moments…and share yours! We crack up over everything from first date stomach issues to surprise queefs. In updates, Ali has a Tinder penpal (for now) and Erica enjoys some family time. Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 39. If you'd like to hear our personal updates before eve...

Do you have updated information on your fertility? This week, we share our journeys discovering our own and Ali details her egg freezing process. We discuss seeking fertility testing, administering egg freezing shots by yourself, and navigating dating while going through any of this. In updates, Ali bites the bullet on HingeX and has the stats on her experience thus far. Erica completes a key part...

We’re oversharing this week! Ali & Erica welcome Jordana Abraham & Dr. Naomi Bernstein of the Oversharing podcast to the FMH family this week. The four answer several deep-dive listener questions including: how to maintain hope when early-stage dating keeps ending, approaching the engagement conversation with a partner, and deciding whether something is a dealbreaker. But first, Ali has ma...

Have you ever thought about marrying for money? Ali & Erica can’t help you with that, but we’re breaking down some financial stats that may surprise you when it comes to getting married vs not. And spoiler alert, there’s way more on the topic where this came from. Let us know what else you want to hear! In Updates, Ali & Erica are back from Greece! The two talk through Ali’s post-vacation...

Why are STIs so stigmatized despite being so common? Ella Dawson, whose TEDx t alk on the subject has been viewed over 800,000 times, is here to talk about about it. We discuss disclosing herpes (or any STI) to your partner, supporting a partner who’s been diagnosed, advocating for yourself at doctor’s appointments, and so much more. But first, Ali & Erica are together in Greece! Ali works thr...

We’re answering listener questions rapid-fire style in another grab bag episode! We cover everything from feeling clingy in a long-distance relationship, to Hinge messaging etiquette, to balancing your needs with your partner’s. But first, we have an FMH first…Erica meets The Publicist! She debriefs the hang and afterwards Ali laments a first date gone wrong. Timestamps: Topic talk begins at aroun...

We’re kicking off a multi-episode series on children! We’ll spread these episodes out, and invite guests on, covering how your desire to have kids affects dating, dating with kids, choosing a child-free lifestyle, fertility…and so much more. This week, we start with Erica & Ali’s personal thoughts on having children and how it’s impact their dating lives (plus we take your questions!). But fir...

This week, we’re talking plus-sized dating with Alex Stewart & Nicci Nunez of the Swipe Fat podcast!! We take listener questions about tips for your dating app profile, achieving self confidence while dating, red flags to look for, and so much more. Note: Erica’s wifi gave her major issues this week and so Ali interviews Alex & Nicci on her own. In updates, Ali continues her romance with T...

Let’s talk about text, baby…this week, we welcome Dr. Mimi Winsberg to the pod, a board-certified psychiatrist with over 25 years of clinical experience and author of Speaking in Thumbs. We dive into research on text communication and practical ways you can apply it to your dating life. But first, Erica is adjusting to full-time life in LA and relaxing in Palm Springs for her birthday. Meanwhile,...

What have we learned about dating (and life) since our 20s? Where do we even begin?? Ali & Erica go through listener submissions of life lessons since their 20s and add in thoughts of our own. It’s the big sister chat you’ve been asking for! In Updates, Erica has a laundry room altercation…is she the asshole? Ali has a new guy on the scene and a marathon first date story. Timestamps: Topic tal...

Are you tired? Because Ali & Erica are VERY tired. Of dating apps, that is. This week, we hold space for all of your (and our) fatigue with dating on our phones - from matches turned penpals, to empty profiles, to feeling like we’re on a hamster wheel. It’s tough out there and we feel your pain! To combat some of this, Ali has turned to Bumble BFF - and has her first Tinder date in a minute! E...

TW: This episode addresses disordered eating and intentional weight loss. If you’d like to skip this discussion, we announce in the episode when it begins. It’s an extremely vulnerable episode this week as Erica and Ali welcome Emily Lubin, of the Diet Starts Tomorrow and RIP Diets podcasts. Emily opens up about her recovery from disordered eating and the path she’s taken to get there. She shares...

Ali & Erica are diving into listener questions this week! First, a listener is frustrated at a first date who says they’re going to follow up and doesn’t. Second, we give advice to a listener who has a crush on her friend (and hope for updates!). Lastly, we dive into early dating communication. What should we “expect” and how should we communicate that? In updates, Erica has air to clear about...

Are you trying to go on more dates this year? How about 200? Talia Koren, otherwise known as @dating.intentionally, joins FMH this week to tell Ali & Erica all about her journey from a breakup to a healthy relationship. She went on 200 dates in less than a year and shares the most important things she learned along the way! But first, Erica has a Hot Chocolate update (or lack thereof) and Ali...

Do you think everyone defines cheating the same way? We’re finding out this week, inspired by a Buzzfeed quiz that one of our listeners sent in! Erica and Ali each reveal how their Instagram audiences voted on each situation and discuss the results. Find the quiz here: https://www.buzzfeed.com/kellymartinez/do-you-consider-this-cheating-or-not In updates, Erica goes on a first date with Hot Chocol...