Evan Swings

Kind of a bummer (sometimes a HUGE bummer) when you think things are going well with another couple and then they unexpectedly end things. In this episode I talk about a recent experience with this.

The upside-down pineapple. The most common, well-known symbol associated with the lifestyle. Four years ago when Eva and I first started our lifestyle journey, we had no idea of its significance. It was like a well-guarded secret. Now, it seems like the cat is out of the bag. Everyone, whether involved with the lifestyle or not, now seems to recognize what it means. It is no longer a secret. In th...

Has anyone had success with finding a unicorn? A single lady willing to play with you and your significant other? That is something that still alludes us in the lifestyle. It seems LOTS of couples are interested in finding a unicorn...and the scammers know it. And they are getting better and better at posing as single women. Thankfully, since we were previously the victims of attempted "sexto...

There's nothing really more to write. This is all about the worst kissers ever. Eva and I feel that kissing is an important part of play. So if you suck at it, it ruins the whole play date. We had the unfortunate experience of playing with the worst kissers...maybe on the entire planet.

Eva and I are shy when it comes to meeting people in person. We find it difficult to walk up to new people and introduce ourselves. Therefore, when we go to clubs, we like to attend with other couples...so we're sure to have others to talk to! But in this episode, find out what happens when we step out of our comfort zone and attend...just the two of us.

Episode 42: Eva and I love the Friends With Benefits dynamic of the lifestyle. But sometimes, that leads to unexpected feelings.

If you are in a strictly monogamous relationship, your chances of hooking up with a hot co-worker are 0%. But if you are a swinger...it's not out of the realm of possibility. In this episode I talk about taking a risk, exposing myself as a swinger to a very attractive co-worker, in hopes that one day it might lead to spicy date.

Never been to a hotel takeover? Hear all about them in today's episode. Eva and I have been to somewhere between 5 and 10 takeovers since joining the lifestyle. I'll talk about what to expect (including cost and themes) and discuss the pro's and con's. One thing is for sure: if you have never been to one, you should definitely give one a shot!

Will they ever stop? Part three of my (I guess) ongoing series of stories of our online interactions with couples. I can't make these up. These are all real stories. Eva and I love being in the lifestyle. But sometimes you run into people that make it less than fun.

Eva and I have discovered that we love occasional solo play. It is exciting for both of us. Sadly, it has been almost a year since I have been able to experience it due to a lack of options. Eva has had several opportunities with more on the horizon. A bit frustrating when you are eager to experience something again...but are unable to...while your partner gets to. Recently, I thought my solo play...

Have you ever been threatened with public physical assault in lifestyle? I have. In this episode I tell the tale of a dude who threatened to slap me the next time he saw me at a club or event. This is what happened when I tried to call someone out on their BS and it went badly.

After a long time, Eva finally joins me for again as co-host! In this episode we will talk about our very first MFM threesome we had recently. Please note: Eva and I have not done this together very often. We are still trying to figure out the best setup (mic position, seating arrangement, recording settings, etc.) for optimal audio. Apologies for the occasions in this episode where our speaking v...

Eva and I have a rule: we don't play with a couple the first night we meet them. But it HAS happened (earlier) in our lifestyle journey. This is the story about one of those rare occasions.

Eva and I have been in the lifestyle for three and half years now. One might think we would have it all figured out at this point. Not the case! We are still learning. Still discovering. This episode is all about the stuff I/we haven't figured out in the lifestyle.

What is sextortion? As a member of the lifestyle, you probably have a profile on a lifestyle app or site. What if your profile was hacked? What if the hacker threatened to make your profile and pics public? Or what if you were tricked into sending someone photos by someone with devious ulterior motives? It happened to friends of ours. Then it happened to us. Sometimes people really suck.

Episode 32: I didn't think it was possible due to my anxiety about playing at a sex club. But thanks to an amazing couple and a super fun evening, I overcame my inhibitions. I can now officially say I have had sex at a club...and would probably do it again! So this episode is all about that experience...BUT...make sure you listen to the latter part of the episode to hear a crazy side story from th...

With so much negative stigma surrounding the lifestyle (in the vanilla world), our involvement in the lifestyle is a secretive one. But that doesn't stop me from WANTING to talk about it with some of my closest vanilla friends. I am "compelled to tell" them about it...but I can't. In this episode I'll dive into some of the hoops Eva and I have had to jump through to keep our lifestyle involvement...

Episode 30. I take pride in discussing all lifestyle topics on this podcast. Even sensitive ones. This episode is all about a hotel takeover experience Eva and I had in August 2024. We had a fantastic time with two fantastic couples. But there was just one protagonist in this story: ED. I had a lot on my mind that night as you will hear. But guys (and gals)...it happens.

In August 2024, Eva and I visited a clothing-optional resort in Mexico. This is a review of that resort. My hope is that is serves as a "what to expect" episode for anyone ever interested in going to a clothing-optional, all-inclusive resort. Even if it isn't this particular resort. My assumption is that most are similar. Note: if you have no interest in hearing about this type of resort, this may...

Eva and I decided to take a vacation adventure to Desire Maya Riviera Pearl: an all-inclusive, clothing optional resort outside of Cancun. This episode is about a fun experience we had with a couple at the resort as well some other not-as-fun experiences. Next episode, I will discuss the resort itself (kind of like a review).

Episode 27: The sequel to the original hit podcast episode "Interesting & Infuriating Interactions." So many stories of interactions gone wrong. Or just plain interesting. I hope you enjoy because part 3 is already in the works!

Remember my episode "Evan Screws Up?" Well, guess what. I redeemed myself. Here's the story!

Jealousy can be a strange and complicated feeling in the lifestyle. It can rear its ugly head unexpectedly, even with couples who don't usually experience issues with jealousy. We have heard many tales of jealousy from other couples in the last three years. There has only been one time that I have experienced true jealousy in the lifestyle. This episode is the story of that experience.

Episode 24: One of the hardest things about the lifestyle is finding a 4-way connection with another couple. The process can be interesting...and at times infuriating. In this episode I'll talk about some of the recent interactions we have had: both interesting and infuriating. Production Note: As many of my listeners know, I am a teacher. School is starting back up for me this week. Therefore...

What happens when 3 of the 4 people on a playdate are super shy and uncomfortable? I'll tell you all about it.