Enough, the Podcast

If you're ridiculously hard on yourself, and deep down, you know it's got to stop (but you don't know how), today's 17-minute episode is for you. I dig deeper into the concept of Minimum Viable Productivity (MVP) from last week's episode with Dr Erin Baker. **Person at the back raises hand** ("Erm, I didn't listen to Dr Erin yet. Will I be lost?") Nope. This solo episode can stand alone. But, sinc...

Calling all overachievers! Ever wonder if your exceedingly high work ethic is your authentic way of functioning? Like really, really? Maybe it's a series of beliefs that you internalized along the way. Maybe your whole system for "doing" is based on someone else's fears – a parent's, perhaps, who said things to you like, "You'll amount to nothing with those grades." Enter Dr Erin Baker, social psy...

What can you do as a parent to help raise your kid with a robust sense of good-enoughness? I asked today's guest, clinical psychologist, Dr Anne Lane, for some tips. Find out what to try when your child comes home with a poor test result, and they're feeling down on themselves. This tip rocked my world! Learn how to help your kid cultivate a healthy body image in an age of airbrushed social media....

When you've got no idea who you are or what you want, it complicates the heck out of intimate relationships. But, erm, maybe if you're nice enough – meaning you become whoever a possible partner wants you to be – you'll get the connection and sex you're looking for, right? Unlikely. Today's guest is coach and therapist Dr Sasha Mitrofanov, a man intimately acquainted with the role of "I'll be whoe...

This short, fast-paced episode is about how doing good (a win in itself) can also hoist you out of grumpiness, self-pity, and jealousy (ding, ding, ding, another winner!) An act of kindness can be a beautiful, perspective-recalibrating way of reminding yourself that you are part of something bigger. It's a declaration that shouts, I choose connection over nit-picking and self-criticizing. HA, inne...

In this 13-minute episode, I share a mini practice that's having mega impact so far. Instead of waiting till I'd mastered it, I'm sharing now, as I'm experimenting myself. It's a simple, free thing I do every morning, and – for me anyway – the timing of it is key. If you're shedding old habits too, and are feeling a bit discombobulated in the meantime, GREAT! Coming off autopilot with old, ingrain...

Let's talk wakeup calls. Maybe it was an illness. Or a divorce. What's on your list of (probably ghastly) moments that made you question your BS beliefs of not-enoughness and start to LIVE? Sometimes growth is all fluffy bunnies and harp music. But mostly, face palms and ugly crying are involved. Today's theme was inspired by Farida D, a gender researcher and poet. Her Instagram profile pic is a p...

How do you "do" enoughness? What are the steps to come back to wholeness? Is it as simple as chanting a mantra on repeat? I am enough I am enough I am enough How's that working for you? Yeah, me neither. If you know me at all, you know I like practical. This episode is for the do-ers. Allison Crow is our guest. She's a brilliant transformational coach,  but I didn't invite her on as an expert toda...

Mark Silverman seemed to have it all – the career, the family, the car, the home. He was the squeaky-clean guy who everybody loved. The reality was different… Mark's chronic people-pleasing and nice-guy-ness were learned behaviours that allowed him to stuff down trauma and fear of confrontation. Eventually, he couldn't uphold his golden boy status, and his perfect life imploded. How did Mark come...

Luisa Molano grew up in a strict religious home. Girls were seen and not heard. They didn't show their knees or elbows. They didn't wear makeup or cut their hair. When Luisa was seventeen, her church pastor said he'd received a message from God. Luisa was to marry a member of the congregation – a man eighteen years her senior. At first, she felt honored to be chosen, like all her good-girl-ness ha...

I'm not a good enough mother. Ever said this to yourself? Hang on a minute. Good enough according to whom? Your friends? Your own mother? Someone you follow on social media? Good Housekeeping magazine? In this episode, I want to bust some of the supermom beliefs that you might be depleting and flagellating yourself with. Spoiler alert: The standards you're holding yourself to are ridiculously high...

There's nothing like facing your mortality and chronic uncertainty to clarify what's important, and what no longer serves you. Like, erm, overcommitting yourself with shiz you don't really want to do, because you feel awkward saying no. Done. With. That. Today's short, radically practical conversation is about how we can use this pivotal point in our lives to quit doing things that are JOY SUCKS....

Monique DeBose is a transformational entertainer. What's that, you ask? Well, she writes music, plays, and creates courses for women that change lives. I daresay she'll have that effect on you in this podcast episode too. We meander into all kinds of provocative places as we unpack how Monique's good girl conditioning has infiltrated her life, right down to what she thinks about going into a store...

The lack of sleep is a crazy-making thing, especially if you're a woman of a certain age. It worsens anxiety and ruminating thoughts – like, "I need to get a grip." Which pushes you to work even harder to avoid the chaos of uncompleted to-do lists, meaning you end up ratty and radioactive, not to mention over-caffeinated till the nightly wine brings you down again. Then heap on the pandemic and Zo...

The pandemic has had a disproportionate impact on women. The majority are overwhelmed, exhausted and zombie-walking through the blur work and home, now a boundary-less mush. Maybe self-care has dropped off. Maybe your sleep and hormones are out of whack.    Women are more at risk than ever for declining mental health and burnout.   Enter Dr Bella Smith, a GP with more than 2 decades of experience...

Psst…listen up. You might think that successful folks who appear smugly (nay, gloriously ) comfortable in their own skin, have somehow either: By-passed the squinchy not-enoughness that the rest of us stew in;          OR Have found the holy grail, the tidy ten-step plan to free themselves from their supposed inadequacy. If you've ever scratched your head and wondered, "Hmm, how does someone actua...

How does not-enoughness manifest for men? How might perfectionism and the pressures to appear a certain way be even more challenging during a pandemic? And what's possible for men's mental health in a post-pandemic world? I wanted to have this urgent conversation because the current statistics on men's mental health and suicide rates are both staggering and heart breaking. Today's guest is Addison...

Can you love yourself when you no longer relate to yourself? Maybe a big life event – a redundancy, a divorce, an illness, or an accident – has changed how you feel in your own skin. You know that you're unlikely to get back to the "old you," which is hard to accept. #somuchrage So, you're in this fog, thinking, "Well fug, I didn't expect my life to turn out like this." How do you surrender to a n...

Does shame run your life? Jen Pastiloff is the best-selling author of On Being Human: A Memoir of Waking Up, Living Real, and Listening Hard . For years, Jen stuffed down shame around her body, her hearing loss, her depression and anxiety. When she stopped denying her challenges, something wonderful happened. Folks responded to her authenticity. Nowadays, Jen's real. Like unapologetically real. Yo...

Abbey Gibb had her own TV show, a Chanel purse, a walk-in wardrobe, a door man. But inside, she was miserable. Abbey is an Emmy winning journalist, two-time TEDx speaker, business and media mentor, and host of the Full Body F*ck Yes podcast. We have a raw, deeply honest conversation about coming back to ourselves after years of "performing" perfection (for TV, for lovers, for life…) She shares how...

Ahh perfectionism, that crafty distraction from all the yucky feelings bubbling under the surface… Perfectionism has also been a handy survival strategy, am I right? But you're here because it's time to part ways.  Perfectionism is like an ultra-high-maintenance partner, filing its nails, always underwhelmed and critical. Never an encouraging word. Cuts you zero slack. Exhausted much?  You're in l...

Knackered and overwhelmed? Maybe your sleep is rubbish. You're fried and don't know how to fix it. If this sounds familiar, this week's episode will be a tonic. Farzanah Nasser, nutritional therapist and functional medicine expert, explains what's going on inside your body when you feel frazzled. Your heroic little adrenal glands are probably taking the brunt of it.  So what can you do? In this ep...

You've done the inner work, but you still find yourself thinking, "Jeez, I should be sorted by now."  You wonder if you're doing it wrong. I created this episode with Emma Stroud, performer, MC, author, and professional clown (and one of my coaches), because I wanted to show you that the journey to Enough is messy and non-linear. Emma has worked on herself for decades. She's done the deep work. I...

Master Coach Hayden Lee introduces us to the Enneagram, a system of development in self-awareness. Hayden describes the nine different Enneagram types – can you identify yourself? The difference between the Enneagram and many other personality typing tools is that the Enneagram doesn't focus on behaviours, but rather the motivation underneath those behaviours. If you never feel good enough, discov...

Put on your seatbelts, folks. My guest, David Vox, drops us into some gripping territory, by sharing how he swapped overachieving for self-acceptance. Now a transformational guide, David spent decades pushing down his own unhealed childhood trauma. He had a toned body, impressive accolades, and a closet full of Gucci and Hermes. From the outside, his life looked enviable. But inside, he was empty...