Enough, the Podcast

You can run a board meeting after terrible news, and no one would know. Push through and deal with the feelings later. Or not… But sometimes a situation just takes your knees out from under you, and pushing through isn't an option. Then what?  My guest is Regena Thomashauer – known to thousands as Mama Gena – the New York Times bestselling author of Pussy: A Reclamation, founder of the School of W...

You can lead the team, close the deal, hold an entire organisation's chaos in your head. And yet somewhere in your kitchen, there's a bag of salad turning into a science experiment. You know it's there. You're not dealing with it today. This episode is about that gap — and the secret, if-anyone-knew shame that comes with it. Because the more capable you are over here, the more brutal that inner vo...

How was your day? is the greeting. What follows — the homework, the essay, the spelling test — is the audit. Most of us never hear ourselves make the switch. Now the research that stopped me mid-sentence: kids raised in high-achieving environments now sit on the same mental-health risk list as kids growing up with poverty and trauma. The tutors, the top schools, the 6am swim squad — same list. Not...

What if the thing that's exhausting you isn't the pressure? What if it's the formula you've been using to handle it all these years? It's probably the same formula that built your career, which is now quietly running you into the ground. In this conversation, leadership researcher Nick Petrie shares what he learned from studying more than 1,000 high performers and the handful who seem to have crac...

What happens when you finally achieve the thing you wanted… and still feel weirdly unchanged? In this episode, I'm joined by author, musician and meditation teacher Cory Allen for a conversation about ambition, creativity, overachievement and the strange emotional flatness that can follow success. We explore why so many high achievers quietly expect achievement to do something it was never designe...

You say "yes", and almost immediately your body knows…argh, I've done it again. This episode is about that moment where you override your exhaustion and capacity in favour of taking something on. There are plenty of reasons why we do this, and my guest today helps to explain what might be going on there. Author and clinical psychologist, Dr Claire Plumbly, helps me to unpack a particular pattern o...

You know about people pleasing. You've heard about the fawn response. You might even recognise it in yourself: the self-silencing, the conflict avoidance, the version of you that keeps the peace while something quietly fumes underneath. And yet, you still said nothing in that meeting last week. This episode is about the gap between understanding yourself and actually changing — and it's one of my...

You know the moment: you've chosen to be clearer, less accommodating, a bit braver. And it feels good… for about two seconds. Then the wobble comes. That tightening in your chest. That playback in your head. The urge to explain or undo what you just said. In today's episode, I talk with Jon Prince — former professional poker player, coach, and author of Start Before You're Ready — about exactly th...

Have you ever thought, If I just fixed that one thing, I'd finally feel OK? In this episode of Enough, the Podcast, we're talking about body image, shame, and the quiet fix-it logic so many women live inside — especially in midlife. My guest, Kate Gies, was born without an ear and underwent 14 reconstructive surgeries as a child, each one promising to finally make her whole. What she learned — far...

  Be honest. You secretly love how much you can endure. Like it's a badge of honour that you can take on more, stay longer, push harder, and still (kinda) look put together? But here's the kicker: What if that "unstoppable drive" isn't grit at all? What if it's your nervous system running on a decades-old operating system — one that learned, way back when, that proving yourself was the only way to...

Ever said, "No worries, all good" while your insides screamed otherwise? That's not weakness. That was your nervous system doing its genius, trauma-sourced thing: fawning. In this episode, author and clinical psychologist Dr. Ingrid Clayton shows us that fawning isn't a personality flaw—it's a self-abandonment pattern we can gently unlearn, because it's costing you. Big time. We get into why fawni...

You're used to pushing hard – in fact, your identity is built on it. What happens when your body forces you to stop? Who are you then? That's what happened to psychologist Jo Rodriguez, a behind-the-scenes TV expert, marathon runner, and mum who loved being called a machine. One day, what seemed like a simple illness forced her to slow down. She continued her relentless routine, and the mystery il...

When Love is a Hustle: Healing the Fixer Identity, with Dr Natalie Cawley #93   If you've ever over-functioned in a romantic relationship hoping to feel enough, this episode is for you. My guest is Dr Natalie Cawley, psychotherapist, counselling psychologist and author of Just About Coping: A real-life drama from the psychotherapist's chair. Natalie shares openly about her own challenges with over...

Ever said, "No worries, it's fine," when it absolutely wasn't fine? Or maybe you've pushed down your needs and shape-shifted into whoever you thought you needed to be in a particular situation. That's not kindness. That's fawning—people-pleasing's sneakier, brain-based cousin. In this episode, neuroscientist and author of Rewire, Nicole Vignola, joins me for a juicy, no-fluff convo about why we fa...

Reinvention often stirs up a storm—self-doubt, not-enoughness, the old habits of perfectionism and overworking. We think we have to earn our way out of stuckness. But what if the answer wasn't in doing more—but in needing less? What if your enoughness was right there in plain sight, but you've been looking for it in the wrong places? This week, I'm joined by the glorious Donna Ashworth: poet, best...

What actually holds you together when life blindsides you? Maybe it's a breakup. A diagnosis. Or the crushing weight of everything right now. If you're wired for hustle, your first instinct might be to work through it—to push harder, achieve more, be exceptional. What if the answer wasn't in doing more, but in seeing oneself as LESS? Wait, what? Julia Baird—broadcaster, journalist, and bestselling...

You're all out of give, and even the smallest request can spark an outsized reaction: DON'T YOU KNOW HOW BUSY I AM? Go away! Anger feels right under the skin, and the slightest provocation can unleash it – anything from loud chewing to an urgent email. You used to be fun. Things didn't used to annoy you like this. You might be thinking, "What's wrong with me?" So, you try to do more to finish your...

    On the outside, Dr Mel Hicks (47) had it all. She's been a global philanthropist for two decades. She's a published author, keynote speaker, and has travelled to 44 countries. But another failed marriage, and an emergency hysterectomy threw Mel into shame and self-doubt. She was alone again, and she'd never be a mother – and she blamed herself. As a high-achiever and a self-proclaimed "runner"...

Operating from fear and scarcity means you're not reading life accurately. The same is true if you're moving through life guided solely by intellect – head wisdom – ignoring the superior wisdom of the other senses. My guest is spiritual teacher and NYT best-selling author, Sonia Choquette, who shares some practices from her new book, Read Life Accurately. She helps us to tune into our energetic al...

Is your measure of success focused purely on your own achievements? Maybe you're at a time in your life when you're questioning legacy, purpose, and who you are beneath your job title. Maybe you're thinking about what it means to contribute and to matter in society. Baroness Lola Young was one of the first black women members of the House of Lords. She's been an actress, an academic, and a cross-b...

You may have heard about the health benefits of being kind. Not only can it lower blood pressure, and boost immunity. It can also positively alter your relationship with yourself, which piqued my interest for those of us who've spent decades driving ourselves relentlessly. Is kindfulness a solution to feelings of not-enoughness?  Dr David Hamilton is a speaker, columnist, and author of twelve book...

Headphones recommended.   I'm in conversation with Jessica Waite, best-selling author of The Widow's Guide to Dead Bastards. Sean, Jessica's husband of 17 years, died unexpectedly, and after his funeral, when some of his personal effects were returned, she started piecing together parts of his secret life. In this conversation we talk about how you put your life back together after a romantic rela...

Welcome to the first ever Coaching Corner episode of Enough, the Podcast. These conversations are shorter and focus on a particular challenge. I hope you find them practical and immediately actionable. Coaching Corner episodes will be interspersed between the usual ones, just to spice things up. This week, the work dilemma is around being interrupted – what can you do when that happens? My guest i...

Have you ever wondered if people in the public eye feel bouts of not-enoughness? And if so, how they handle it?  Janette Manrara is a former pro dancer on Strictly Come Dancing, a television show watched by 12-18 million people each week. Janette now hosts the TV programme, It Takes Two, and recently published Tiny Dancer, Big World: How to find fulfilment from the inside out.  In this conversatio...

In this conversation, Emma and I dig into what's keeping us "bound", overwhelmed, and feeling not-enough. We touch on the types of happiness (Emma's been researching happiness for 20 years) and why a contemplative practice is the foundation of having a more life-affirming relationship with yourself. You'll hear about how people get "committed to burnout," and how to break out of what Emma calls th...