Echoes & Edges

In this conversation, Patria sits down with trauma therapist and author Aundi Kolber to explore how trauma fragments our experience, why healing is less about striving and more about integration, and how faith can become a source of safety rather than performance. Together, they discuss the neurobiology of trauma, attachment wounds, embodiment, incarnation, and the profound connection between nerv...

What if the very things you believe disqualify you are actually the places where your deepest wisdom is being formed? In this final conversation, Sher and Patria explore belonging, mothering, connection, creativity, self-compassion, and the lifelong nature of healing. Sher shares tender stories about the people who offered moments of nurturing when she needed them most and reflects on how those ex...

Most of us already know we are supposed to be loved, valued, and worthy. The challenge is that knowing something intellectually and experiencing it emotionally are often two very different things. In this powerful continuation of the conversation, Sher shares how receiving compassion in the middle of a story she deeply feared would expose her became a turning point in her healing. Rather than find...

What if the deepest wound isn't what happened to you—but what you came to believe about yourself because of it? In this conversation, Sher Nyquist shares her journey through shame, loneliness, and the relentless feeling that she needed to earn her place in the world. Looking back, she recognizes how survival adaptations like hypervigilance, over-functioning, and people-pleasing helped her navigate...

What if fear isn’t meant to control you… but inform you? In this episode of Echoes and Edges: The Broken and Beautiful Podcast, Patria Rector and Ro Elliott explore the Enneagram Head Triad (Types 5, 6, and 7) and the ways fear quietly shapes how we think, plan, avoid, prepare, and protect ourselves. Together, they unpack how the head-centered types seek safety through information, vigilance, cert...

What if the image you protect is also the thing keeping you disconnected? In this episode of Echoes and Edges: The Broken and Beautiful Podcast, Patria Rector and Ro Elliott explore the Enneagram Heart Triad (Types 2, 3, and 4) and the emotional realities beneath image management, connection, and belonging. Together, they discuss how shame shapes identity, relationships, leadership, and the hidden...

What if anger isn’t the problem… but the signal? In this episode of Echoes and Edges: The Broken and Beautiful Podcast, Patria Rector and Ro Elliott explore the Enneagram Gut Triad (Types 8, 9, and 1) and the hidden emotional patterns beneath instinctive leadership styles. Together, they unpack how anger shows up differently across the gut center and how each type develops protective strategies to...

In this final conversation, Daniel and Patria move beyond awareness into integration. They explore what it actually looks like to live from a grounded sense of identity rather than from shame, performance, or fragmentation. Together, they discuss compassion, curiosity, safety, regulation, and the healing power of being truly seen. Daniel reflects on how survival mechanisms often develop alongside...

Many people grow up believing their emotions, sensitivity, curiosity, or instincts are “too much.” In this episode, Daniel and Patria explore what it looks like to reclaim the very parts of ourselves that shame taught us to bury. Daniel shares the powerful shift from seeing himself as destructive to understanding himself as dangerous — not harmful, but no longer easily controlled by systems built...

Shame rarely survives alone. In this episode, Daniel and Patria explore the narratives, secrecy, and systems that protect shame from ever being questioned. They unpack how family stories, cultural expectations, and relational patterns reinforce identities that were formed long ago — often without our awareness. Daniel shares the painful realization that decades later, his “wild child” narrative wa...

In this opening conversation, Daniel Herron and Patria explore the hidden narratives that shape how we see ourselves, others, and even God. Together, they unpack the difference between guilt and shame, why shame attaches itself to identity, and how survival strategies formed in childhood can quietly follow us into adulthood. Daniel shares personal stories of growing up labeled as “wild,” while Pat...

Why do the same patterns keep showing up in your relationships—no matter how self-aware you are? In this episode, we unpack how dysregulation quietly shapes the way we connect, react, withdraw, and pursue. What looks like “overreacting,” shutting down, or conflict spirals is often your nervous system trying to protect you—not sabotage you. We talk about: How emotional triggers are formed (and why...

What if healing didn’t have to be forced… or figured out… or even put into words? In this episode of Echoes and Edges, Patria sits down with trauma-informed coach and Processing Trauma Out Loud host, Sher Nyquist, to explore how creativity—yes, even the simplest forms—can gently unlock healing. This conversation reframes art, imagination, and play as powerful tools for processing trauma, regulatin...

In this episode, host Patria Rector continues the conversation with coach, Internal Family Systems practitioner, and Enneagram instructor Laurie Proctor about the powerful role our nervous systems and internal parts play in shaping relationships. When we become dysregulated, connection often gives way to survival. Fight, flight, freeze, and collapse are responses that helped us endure difficult mo...

In this episode, host Patria Rector welcomes coach, Internal Family Systems practitioner, and Enneagram instructor Laurie Proctor for a thoughtful conversation about how inner work reshapes the way we love. Love is often spoken about as a feeling or an ideal, but in real life it is shaped by the stories we carry, the wounds we’ve experienced, and the patterns we developed to survive them. When tho...

This is Part 2 of a 2-part conversation with Adam Young — and it goes deeper into the places most of us were taught to avoid. In this episode, Patria and Adam turn toward sexuality, shame, anger, kindness, and integration — not as abstract ideas, but as lived, embodied experiences shaped by story, attachment, and the nervous system. If Part 1 laid the foundation, Part 2 enters the terrain.🔎 This...

In this episode, Patria sits down with Adam Young — licensed clinical social worker, teacher at the Allender Center, host of The Place We Find Ourselves, and author of Make Sense of Your Story — to unpack the beginning of what Patria calls "The Arc of Integration." This is Part 1 of a 2-part conversation exploring what it really takes to move from brokenheartedness to integration. This first conve...

Safety, Belonging, and Rebuilding Without Self-Betrayal In Part 2 of Finding Your Voice After Spiritual Harm, Patria Rector continues the conversation with Kate Petersen, Stephanie Rose, and Stephen R. Sanders, shifting focus from silence to reconstruction—what it actually looks like to rebuild trust, belonging, and spiritual safety after harm. This episode explores the complicated terrain that co...

Silence, Survival, and the Cost of Telling the Truth In Part 1 of Finding Your Voice After Spiritual Harm, host Patria Rector is joined by Kate Petersen, Stephanie Rose, and Stephen R. Sanders for an honest conversation about how spiritual harm often teaches people to silence themselves in order to stay safe, connected, or accepted. Together, they explore how spiritual environments can subtly—or o...

In this episode of Echoes and Edges, host Petria, founder of The Broken and Beautiful, is joined by her husband Jerry, along with longtime friends Julie and Steve McClay, for a candid roundtable on how personal awakening reshapes marriage and long-term relationships. The conversation centers on what happens after old roles loosen and familiar patterns stop working, but before new ways of relating...

Part Two continues the sacred conversation begun in Part One, turning toward voice, integrity, and life after spiritual harm has been named. Listener note: This episode includes discussion of spiritual abuse and institutional betrayal. Content is non-graphic but may be activating. Please listen with care. Host Patria Rector is again joined by Hannah May as they explore what comes after silence—aft...

Listener note: This episode includes discussion of grooming and spiritual abuse. Content is non-graphic but may be activating. Please listen with care. In this episode of Echoes and Edges, Patria Rector is joined by Hannah May, founder of Sacred Story Space. Hannah shares a personal story of spiritual harm and institutional betrayal within the church. Raised in systems that blurred obedience with...

In this episode of Echoes and Edges, host Patria Rector and therapist Janet Friesen discuss the theme for 2026, 'Rise with Us: Voices that Heal, Stories that Lead.' They explore the importance of rebuilding connection with ourselves and trusting our inner voice, which is often suppressed by societal expectations. The conversation delves into the meaning of peace, recognizing unhealthy patterns in...

In this mini episode, Patria and Ro explore the inner world of Enneagram Type Nines—the Peacemaker, Mediator, and Adaptive Presence—especially as the holidays amplify noise, tension, and unspoken expectations. They unpack how Nines instinctively move toward harmony through numbing, merging, or quietly disappearing, often in ways that go unnoticed by others. Patria shares personal insight as a Nine...

In this mini episode, Patria and Ro explore the inner world of Enneagram Type Eights—the Challenger, Protector, and Leader—especially as their energy shows up during the emotionally charged holiday season. They unpack how Eights instinctively move toward intensity, take charge in chaos, and use strength as a way to protect what’s tender beneath the surface. Together, they name how control and deci...