Drinks with Shrinks

Research across Neuroscience, Psychology, and Relationship Science suggests that pornography can subtly but significantly reshape how partners experience intimacy in a marriage. Frequent consumption conditions the brain’s reward system toward novelty, intensity, and unrealistic sexual scripts, which can dampen satisfaction with a real-life partner over time. This often shows up as reduced desire,...

Antisemitism has surged dramatically since October 7, 2023, leaving Jewish and Israeli students grappling with a profound sense of grief and isolation. As a therapist, I’ve grown increasingly concerned about the rising tide of ignorance and antisemitism within the therapeutic community. Jewish clients frequently share how discriminated against they’ve felt—both by their own therapists and at their...

In this episode, we dive into the complexities of intimacy when one partner is unwilling to engage in sex. We explore the emotional and relational challenges this can bring, sharing insights from our experiences as therapists. We also discuss what has helped our clients navigate these situations with understanding, communication, and connection.

In this episode, Peter and Jessica discuss the struggles, fears, and common barriers to parenting adult children. What should parents do? What should these children expect? Hope you enjoy the show! 

In this episode, Peter and Jessica discuss how easy it is for couples to drift apart and essentially become roommates. As clinicians, we observe a common cycle that leads to this situation and offer remedies to address it. We hope you enjoy the show!

Intimacy is often very difficult to maintain. In this episode Peter and Jessica talk about some common misconceptions, guidance, and ways to maneuver and build a more intimate relationship. Hope you enjoy the show!

In this episode, Peter delves into the work of Gregory Lester, an expert in personality disorders. Throughout the episode, you will gain insights into what a personality disorder is, how to identify it, and effective management strategies. Additionally, we address several common misunderstandings clinicians may have about this population and explore ways to provide assistance.

In this episode, Jessica and Peter talk about the need to heal "fast" when there's conflict. When couples don't, they are more prone to sit on their assumptions and create more conflict as time moves on. 

Affairs are betrayals in a committed relationship. These betrayals are devastating on the core of your bond and can often ruin a relationship. However, Peter and Jessica offer hope for the listener on how to heal from an affair: atonement (take responsibility) and offer forgiveness. Hope you enjoy the show!

In-Laws can be a wonderful addition to the family! However, there's a reason for all of the "in-law jokes" that we hear so much of because they can also cause some conflict. In this episode, we address how to build boundaries with them, which spouse needs to speak to the parent, and how to tell the difference between "taking your partner's side" with "listening t...

After an argument, many couples will choose to use the same unhealthy methods that got them to the argument. In this episode, Peter and Jessica will address the need for quick repair after an escalation and how that will benefit your relationship. Please enjoy the show!

In this episode, we discuss how to properly cope in relationship when you're the only one working. We give some examples of it, when and why it occurs, and what steps you take. 

In this episode, we discuss Gottman's distinction between a perpetual and solvable problem ( https://www.gottman.com/blog/managing-conflict-solvable-vs-perpetual-problems/ ). It's easy to mistake personality difference with "right vs. wrong." We help explain why it's important to know the difference and how to communicate effectively when there may be a deeper personal iss...

In this episode, Jessica and Peter explore how addiction(s) can negatively affect the family system. We bring some personal and professional observations that we've observed over the years and offer some tactics on how to cope with an addiction and how to speak about it. 

Holidays can bring a lot of cheer, but it can also force you to escape and wanna drink. We will be offering some normalization on why holidays are so stressful and some tools to help you get through this season. 

In this podcast, Jessica and Peter talk about parental guilt, accepting influence, building a strong sense of connection, understanding child development, and more. We also talk about the importance of having a hot toddy when you have a cold. Hope you enjoy the show! 

In this episode, Jessica and Peter talk about the struggles in marriage when having a child. We address the need for connection, how connection is lost, how to communicate when you're both likely defensive at times, how to support one another, and how to create a symbol to have a unified goal. Hope you enjoy the show! 

In this podcast, we explore the nature of anxiety, how to help manage it, and some modalities to apply when you're experiencing it. We'd love to hear form you.  For more help, education, and in-depth therapy, please go to https://courses.andersonfamtherapy.com/collections.

In this episode, Peter and Jessica discuss the Art of Compromise in a relationship. Unfortunately, couples often lose focus on the wrong issue in a disagreement. In this episode, we will help you understand that starting with a core need (what's essential for you) will drastically improve your ability to communicate more effectively when you and your partner are not on the same page.