Dr. UnStuck Podcast — Get Out of Your Head. Get Into Your Life.

Many people hang on to their past as if it were some sort of medal of honor, a Purple Heart of adversity. What they often do not understand, is that doing so is at the expense of their destiny and living their very best life. When we allow the same old thoughts, these then lead to the same old feelings, and then the resulting behavior. Basically, nothing changes. It's time for a new story.

In general, the wonderful three-pound organ we call the mind is largely taken for granted. We will take the time to nurture a house plant, yet we do not prioritize nurturing the mind, the thought-generator that creates the lives we live. The power of the nurtured mind is grossly underestimated. By training the mind we can channel it's power and live our very best life! #mindcraft #liveyourbestlife...

We have a tendency to think that we are born how we are born. That's it. Dazzling or doomed. This is especially true when we think of personality, a pattern of characteristics that develop over time, shaped by genetics as well as the environment we grew up in. Well, new research shows that some reprogramming is possible with imagination, commitment, and follow through. #personality #positivechange...

It can be quite easy to lose track of what we want versus what we need, as we live in a culture struggling with the "disease of wanting." We must first distinguish what we want from what we need, and to further separate authentic wants from those that do not nurture the spirit. It is also important to realize that life happens for us and not to us. This means that nothing happens in our lives by a...

Seasonal Soulcrafting is about knowing your own value, appreciating your life-minutes, and using them wisely. This means to dive head first into the conversation, spiced eggnog, gingerbread houses, and decorated cookies. It means to immerse ourselves into the moment fully and with gratitude. Nurturing the spirit is about prioritizing what makes us feel good, while also strategically avoiding what...

Many people are not aware that the attention they are giving to their cell phones, while in the company of others, is causing damage to their relationships.  The irony is that we tend to be aware of being annoyed when we are ignored by a cell phone user, yet not so much when we are the offenders. The other irony here is that cell phones are a vehicle for connection, when in fact, they more of...

Our birthdays only swing around once a year, and it is so important that we stop and take the time to reflect upon the past year. Let's face it. Lots has happened since this time last year, some good and some not so much. For those born near Christmas, this can be especially important, as we often tend to get swept up in the holiday blur without the opportunity to celebrate ourselves in the way we...

Gratitude is the fast track to happiness and inner peace. It gets even better when we express our gratitude to others, which is your basic win-win situation. For the next seven days, tell someone in your life why you are grateful for who they are and/or for what they did. Watch what happens. #gratitude #relationships #innerpeace

Many of us cling to control as if our fingers were made of Velcro. We work hard at zooming in on our desired outcome and how to make what we want to happen, happen. When we lose this "illusion" of being in control we get anxious, anxious over losing the control we didn't have to begin with. #lossofcontrol #codependency #letitgo

It can be easy to forget that the holidays are difficult for lots and lots of people. There are those who have experienced a recent death in the family, a divorce that  has thrown a wrench in how all of it happens from now on, job loss, and just plain loneliness. Though it may seem easier to shy away from tradition, psychologically this can make things much better by the comfort routines brin...

Dr. Lindsey Godwin explains to us that the popular concepts of IQ and EQ (emotional intelligence) will no longer suffice as far as the prediction of success in our fast-paced, distracted, and perpetually disrupted world. Experiential intelligence (a.k.a.-a Ph. D. in life), now offers a new component to intelligence by including the wisdom we acquire from our own life experiences. Dr. Godwin also t...

So often we dismiss the importance of a good nap, and even may label a napper as lazy. This nap-shaming  can work as a deterrent to practicing self-care, when in reality, the mind needs rest from the noisy world and perpetual stimulation. Taking a break is never a waste of time. It prevents burnout. #takeabreak #takeanap #selfcare

When we allow ourselves to be dependent on how others think about us, whether it be positive or negative, the message is "What they think of me is more important than what I think of me." We have been pulled out of our own frame by making our needs dependent of the good or bad opinions of other people. This means that we will be uncomfortable or even debilitated if these needs go unmet, which is i...

In our fast-paced society, it is all too easy to get swallowed up whole by the noise and busy-ness of everything going on around us. When we do so, we lose track of our own inner conversations about where we are in life and what our heart desires most. #solitude #overwhelmed #innervoice

It seems that some people tend to think that not being sick means you're healthy. There is much more to being in good health than not having a disease, such as strength, vitality, vigor, lots of physical and emotional energy, as well as the energy to creatively express oneself. #wealthishealth #gratitude #healthyliving 

First, we need to think about what we would like to bring into our lives. Ask yourself, "What is my heart's desire?" Next, we need to listen attentively to that voice within us as it responds to our authentic request. And then, respond to each tiny little message moving us towards our desire with heart-felt gratitude.  Listen to these inner whispers, as they are the vehicles which align us wi...

Becoming an anthropologist means, "being interested, without judgment, in the way other people choose to live their lives and behave (Carlson, 1997)" Doing so for the "regular Joe," means to become an interested observer of the behavior of others without wanting to throw something at them. It means to take a step back and to separate the person from the behavior. It means to practice patience dail...

When your mood is low for an extended period of time, it is important to explore what the role of orderliness (or lack there of) of your living space may have to do with how you feel. It can be very difficult to think clearly when one is constantly surrounded by clutter, as well as the chaos and confusion that it brings along with it. It is best not to think of this as a military drill, dutifully...

Quiet quitting is a phrase, in the wake of the "Great Resignation," that has most recently been used to describe employees who have trimmed their daily work tasks to those that are solely part of their job descriptions. No more and no less. There is no more going above and beyond because, well, they no longer care. This episode will discuss what quiet quitting looks like and what leaders can do to...

In order to land on that one thing that we were put on this earth to do, we must understand the greatness within ourselves.  #meaning #purpose #authenticity

Sometimes we wait to "do something big" for the world, when it is the smaller things we do that truly count the most. Also, putting off being kind is never a good idea anyway. Lowering the bar to the doable will ensure that it happens, one kind act at a time.  #kindness #generosity #peace

Despite what we may think, we have lots of control over the quality of our day. Though things may happen throughout the day, we can always make a choice to start over at at any moment. When we shift our attitude, we shift our energy and what we put out there. #mindpower #positivechange #liveyourbestlife

People often think of a sense of purpose as being big and huge, such as joining up with the Peace Corps or running for a government office. Though this can be the case, purpose can also be found in the simple tasks of daily life. It all counts and feeds our well-being like fertilizer. Here's the ticket, a life without a sense of meaning and purpose is a straight road to depression, or at the very...

Let's face it. Many of us are zipping around like gerbils on crack, wrapped up in the details of our daily lives and overwhelmed by all of it. Meanwhile, our valuable life-minutes are getting swept up the compulsive urge to answer every email, show up every PTO meeting, and to check boxes with acquaintances who we would never see again if we moved out of state. In the end, these things do not matt...

One great thing about a "skill" versus a "talent," is that anyone can learn a new skill, practice it, and then get better at whatever it is they are trying to achieve. This is no different with learning the skill of creating boundaries. The ability to set boundaries is also intricately tied to one's own self worth. #settingboundaries #selfworth #codependencyrecovery