Do We Have Your Attention

On this Part 1 episode of Do We Have Your Attention , we’re unpacking the current season of Love Island USA through a mental health lens — exploring the patterns we see in modern dating, from vulnerability and trust to attraction, conflict, commitment, and the search for genuine connection. Beyond the drama and entertainment, these moments reflect real conversations many of us are having in our ow...

In this episode, we’re joined by Content Creator and Media Entrepreneur Michael Sonariwo for an honest conversation on vulnerability and modern masculinity. We explore the pressures men face today, the hidden costs of avoiding emotional openness, and how fear, shame, and perfectionism can shape their experiences. Michael shares his personal journey, including his recent experience of therapy, and...

In this episode, we explore the pressure to “appear okay” and the difference between performing wellness and genuinely feeling it. We discuss why it can feel safer to hide our true emotions, who benefits from this act, and who pays the emotional cost. We also examine how this connects to people-pleasing, when appearing okay can be protective, and when it becomes harmful. Listeners will gain insigh...

In this episode, we explore the deeper roots of people-pleasing—what it really is and how it differs from genuine kindness. We unpack where these patterns begin, what they were originally protecting us from, and the hidden costs that come with constantly putting others first. We also dive into the fears that keep people-pleasing in place, how it shows up in everyday moments, and what it takes to s...

In this episode, we’re joined by Award-Winning Author and Podcast host Grace Johnson for a candid conversation on motherhood and identity. We explore the early shifts that come with becoming a mother, the tension between fulfillment and disorientation, and the quiet internal conflicts many women face. Grace shares insight on how cultural expectations shape identity, the pressure to make motherhood...

We look back on the moments and trends that shaped 2025, highlighting what mattered most and what caught us completely off guard. From unexpected shifts to key lessons learned, this episode reflects on the year that was and what it may signal for what’s ahead. Support the show Host: Paula Bamgbose-Martins & Aisha Popoola  Follow DWHYA on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dwhyapodcast/ Follo...

Is competition always healthy, or does it quietly create distance between us? Can envy fuel growth, or does it blur into jealousy and insecurity? In this episode, we unpack these powerful emotions and explore how they shape our relationships and, more importantly, our self-worth and personal growth. Support the show Host: Paula Bamgbose-Martins & Aisha Popoola  Follow DWHYA on Instagram: https...

What exactly are expectations, and why do they hold so much power over how we experience life? In this episode, we explore the connection between our expectations and the way we perceive outcomes. We unpack the difference between healthy standards and rigid expectations, and discuss how shifting from a mindset of control to one of curiosity can transform the way we navigate challenges, relationshi...

Of all the topics we could explore, this one feels both necessary and overdue. Sexual trauma touches so many lives, directly or indirectly and it’s time we create space to talk about it with honesty and care. In this episode, we unpack what sexual trauma is, how it shapes our relationships, our sense of safety, intimacy, and sexual expression, and how healing practices can help survivors reclaim s...

We all carry wounds, many reaching back to childhood. Left unhealed, these wounds often follow us into adulthood, shaping how we think, feel, and relate to others. In this episode, we explore how to recognize the wounds of our inner child and uncover practical steps to begin the healing journey. 🎙️ Love the DWHYA podcast? Show your support by subscribing ! It helps us grow and keep the conversatio...

In this episode, we dive deep into why accountability feels so hard and why it matters now more than ever. Together with our guest, Ibrahim Popoola, we unpack what accountability truly means, why many of us resist it, and how a lack of it can quietly damage our relationships. Tune in for eye-opening insights and practical takeaways you won’t want to miss. 🎙️ Love the DWHYA podcast? Show your suppo...

Attachment styles are everywhere in the conversation right now, but what do they mean, and why have they become such a buzzword? In this episode, we break down the different attachment styles, how to recognize them, and the powerful role they play in shaping our relationships. We also dive into practical ways to cultivate secure attachment both within ourselves and with the people we care about mo...

Being a millennial isn’t easy, especially in today’s fast-paced, ever-changing world. In this much-anticipated episode, we explore the deeper roots of why millennials are often called the anxious generation . Joined by our inspiring guest host, Faith Onyesom of Good Faith Yoga, we unpack the ways stress and emotional exhaustion show up in millennial bodies and share simple, powerful practices to f...

In this exciting (and slightly jaw-dropping) episode, we’re pulling back the curtain on what it’s really like to date as a therapist. From the struggle of turning off our “therapist brain,” to the expectations we bring with us into relationships, to debunking the biggest myths about dating a therapist—we’re getting into all of it. Plus, you might hear a few firsthand stories from people who’ve dat...

In this powerful episode, we’re joined by the one and only Dustin Barnes, Founder and Lead Clinical Social Worker of Dustin Barnes Therapy. Together, we unpack common controlling behaviors that often appear in our relationship dynamics—sometimes subtly, sometimes overtly. We dive into how to identify early warning signs, understand the impact of these behaviors, and explore practical ways to manag...

Sometimes, relationships shift, and growing apart can be one of the hardest changes to face. In this episode, we explore the subtle (and not-so-subtle) signs that a relationship may have run its course. We also dive into how to hold space for someone’s evolution while still honoring your own boundaries and emotional well-being. It’s about change, acceptance, and learning when to release with love....

In this exciting episode, we welcome our first guest to the Do We Have Your Attention? space—the incredible Funmto Ogunbanwo, founder and lead Clinical Mental Health Therapist at Ibi Ayo Therapy and Wellness Limited. Together, we unpack some of the most common myths about therapy, explore why people often avoid seeking support and share practical steps for navigating therapy—whether for yourself o...

In this episode, we're unpacking the ever-elusive concept of closure , especially in the context of relationships. Do we need it to move on, or is it overrated? We explore the different ways people seek and experience closure, challenge common beliefs around it, and reflect on whether healing always requires a final conversation. Tune in as we dive into the gray area between letting go and ne...

Why do communication clashes between generations seem so recurring—and so hard to resolve? In this episode, we dig into the root causes of generational conflict and the biggest barriers to meaningful connections across age groups. From unspoken expectations to shifting cultural norms, we explore what’s getting in the way—and how we can begin to bridge the communication gap with empathy, curiosity,...

Why is it so hard to show ourselves the same grace, kindness, and respect we freely give to others? In this episode, we explore the deep-rooted reasons behind our struggle with self-compassion. We unpack how our upbringing and early conditioning shape the way we prioritize our wellness—and often, how they hinder our ability to treat ourselves with care. Tune in as we reflect on what it means to ex...

Welcome back to Do We Have Your Attention? for the premiere of Season 2! In this episode, we're diving into a topic that hits close to home: why do we often prioritize being right over being happy ? We explore what happiness truly means, how ego can cloud our decision-making, and the inner tug-of-war between holding firm to our boundaries and learning when to let go. Tune in as we unpack the...

In this episode, we discuss the impact of existential burnout and the factors contributing to someone feeling existential burnout. From careers, relationships, and even ourselves, we identify helpful strategies that can be considered when navigating our lives better  🎙️ Love the DWHYA podcast? Show your support by subscribing ! It helps us grow and keep the conversations going. 💛 https://www.buzz...

In this episode, we explore the true meaning of unresolved trauma while attempting to understand how it affects our mental health and emotional well-being.  From our personal to professional experiences, we identify coping mechanisms and tools for managing unresolved trauma.   🎙️ Love the DWHYA podcast? Show your support by subscribing ! It helps us grow and keep the conversations going. 💛 https:...

In this episode, we examine the habit of people-pleasing and its common root causes. We also discuss the short-term and long-term consequences of prioritizing others over one’s well-being.  🎙️ Love the DWHYA podcast? Show your support by subscribing ! It helps us grow and keep the conversations going. 💛 https://www.buzzsprout.com/2324256/support Support the show Host: Paula Bamgbose-Martins &...

In this episode, we discuss “parental trauma” from understanding how it manifests to identifying common behavioral patterns we might inherit from parents who have unresolved trauma. Our goal is to highlight ways in which we can approach conversations with our parents to encourage healing  🎙️ Love the DWHYA podcast? Show your support by subscribing ! It helps us grow and keep the conversations goin...